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Monday, December 29, 2025

The secrets of a great sex life: how to keep the flame alive in the bedroom

Sex is an appetite like any other and there is much you can do to make it a priority, from making sure you find the time for it to building your confidence and maintaining intimacy throughout the day

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If you have sex, chances are, you’ll have a good day. But scheduling it makes it feel like a chore. And unlike any other chore or fitness enterprise, you conceive it more as self-indulgence than self-improvement, and as such, even if you’re already in a relationship, it’s hard to find that chin-out determination to get it done. Yet sex is an appetite like any other, a necessity like any other, a nourishment like any other. If you let it go dormant the effect on your relationship might be as if one or both of you are on a permanent diet – and also lonely. That might be fine for both of you, but for many of us, sex is a thing worth prioritising.

At its core, before you introduce any other domestic obstacles, it’s a two-person job, so you have to be attuned to one another; you can’t just decide unilaterally. To take this in ascending order of hurdles; if you’re a childless couple, the main block is going to be each other – not being in the same mood at the same time, not being in the house at the same time. This is true for your entire relationship, not just sex; I once interviewed a fertility doctor, who described working with a couple, trying to find an appointment time for when one was ovulating and both were in the country. They scrolled through several weeks before they managed it. “I felt as if I was beginning to get to the bottom of why they couldn’t conceive,” she said.

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Sunday, December 14, 2025

Sunday, November 16, 2025

This is how we do it: ‘I do get jealous and question whether I’m cut out for non-monogamy’

Maya worried about entering into an open relationship with Ollie, but being honest with each other has deepened their relationship

How do you do it? Share the story of your sex life, anonymously

If I know that Ollie’s on a date, I find it difficult sitting around, not knowing what to do with myself

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* This article was originally published here

Sunday, September 28, 2025

This is how we do it: ‘Over 30 years, our spark has dimmed in difficult times, but we’ve always got it back’

After three children, Gavin and Lisa have sex less often these days, but it’s better quality and more meaningful than when they were younger

How do you do it? Share the story of your sex life, anonymously

Because I haven’t slept with anybody else for decades, my sexual skills don’t feel transferable; they are specific to Lisa

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* This article was originally published here