Sister has admitted to liking the guy who now likes me

My sister (24F) and I (27F) are really closed, we work together an have similar friend groups. I’ve recently gotten out of a long term relationship that I had physically and mentally left months prior. This last week at work I was told by a male co worker that his friend thinks I’m attractive and would like to get to know me but it to shy to make the fist move so k was just feeling out if I would be interested ( his friend wasn’t aware he was telling me this). I left it open and admitted I was attracted to him but didn’t know him enough to really tell at this time as we hadn’t had many conversations but was open to get to know him. A lot of fellow co workers heard about this and were talking about it, which eventually got around to my sister. My sister had admitted to me in the past she thought he was attractive, had good quality’s an would make a great boyfriend but never admitted to me that she liked him or anything serious like that. I figured she may have had a crush but a lot of the girls on the crew did for him plus she would talk to me about other guys she liked so didn’t think much of it. Once she found out about this she confronted me and asked about it. I was honest with her and she then admitted her feelings for him, saying she’s been trying to get to know him ( even during the time I was still with my ex) and had a couple of times messaged as friends about work and life. She knew it was a friends level but was hoping to eventually progress. So she was kind of hurt his feelings were expressed for me. Now, she’s known him longer and obviously gotten to know him more but he’s got feelings for me( he has yet to do anything about it though). I told my sister I would back off and let it play out for her but I feel after her knowing him for 6 months and nothing has happened it may not for her an I’ll loose my chance. I love my sister an she will always come first in this situation but I can’t help but feel a little let down that I have to step back when it’s me he’s interested in but I also understand my sister’s situation. What should I do, and how should I deal with it if the guys asked me out. I don’t want to hurt my sister an I don’t know this guy as well as her but he’s definitely the type of guy I would get to know typically

TLDR; Sister likes the same guy that likes me. She knows him more and has spent more time with him but feels havnt been shared with him or reciprocated so far. A male co worker shared with me that this certain guy likes me but is to shy to confront me straight away about it. My sister heard about this an told me she felt hurt an expressed her feelings for me which is wasn’t fully aware of. I have told her I would back off an see if something eventuates for them but I can’t help but feel a little hurt and sad I won’t get to know him now. What do I do if he asks me out and how do I get over feeling this way?

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My GF (18F) is saying that I (18M) cheated because i was interacting with a girl she’s uncomfy with

My girlfriend of 1 year and 4 months broke up exactly one week ago, just a few days before our monthsary

now, this March i participated in a prom in our school, and i happen to be partnered with a girl (let’s call her Zoe) who has tons of issues at our school (issues being a sidechick and flirty even to guys who has a gf) know that i didn’t choose to be her partner because our school was the one who chosed it and the girls that my girlfriend is comfy with were already taken.

now little trivia about our relationship, ever since january, she’s been stubborn up until march, one of those things she was being stubborn about was her not telling exactly what she feels at the moment and playing mind games, note that she was the one who brought that up in the first place saying that, whenever we have a prob at each other, we’ll tell it right away and it bothers me so much when she lets me guess whats wrong instead of telling it right away.

now back to the prom thing, the day i got in a partner with Zoe i told my girlfriend right away that she was my partner for prom, at first she was upset but she didn’t tell it directly and i kept asking her what’s wrong but she says nothing, it got to the point where we argued because she didn’t follow our rules in the relationship, that being her saying what’s causing her to be acting that way instead of saying harsh things about the situation and she didnt reply to me anymore and i got fed up so i didnt talk to her too we edned up not talking for three days it was more like she gave me a silent treatmeant because she just seen mylast message

the next day it was start of practice, at first i was being distant to her, everything was smooth, but bit by bit knowing she’s very flirty around guys she find attractive, she starts interacting with me, do note i never initiate contact first and that whenever she interacts with me i keep it short and briefly. and as days go by, the way she interacts with me just keep increasing and increasing, to the point where we both start laughing at the same things. i’m interacting with her too because as a person who is very socializing at school and has lots of close friends in different grade levels, i try to not come off as rude because i dont like going to school that im in bad terms with. i never liked her nor was i interested with her, i was just being civil and just matching her energy but in a way that’s matchy matchy you know?

now when me and my girlfriend started texting again i just told her i had small interactions with Zoe i didnt detailed it all the way. she even said that i was laughing with her while she was holding me and such but in reality, we both know the music is gonna start for practice so we we’re already holding each hands, it just so happens that i was laughing with her while there’s body contact. again i’m interacting with her back not because i like her, but because i’m just trying to avoid issues around school and because i have anxiety when people talk about me in a bad way.

but other than that, there was no other interactions between me and Zoe outside practice and we didn’t talked in social media either. but i am wrong for thinking for myself instead of my girlfriend who is now my ex. i could have just avoided all her interactions knowing that my partner is uncomfy with Zoe, now she’s ranting on ig notes, stories, reposts and such that i’m a cheater mainly because i failed to think of my girlfriend feelings and that i was protecting zoe’s feelings not my girlfriend. there was also after prom that she followed request me on instagram and i followed her back another mistake that i failed to think what my partner would feel but ofcourse i cut off the mutuals and assured my girlfriend that there is nothing between me and zoe and showed our conversations which was nothing. what do you guys think? is it considered cheating?

tl;dr my girlfriend who is now my ex called me cheater because i interacted with a girl she is not comfy with and is ranting on social media that im a cheater.

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either they’re leading me on or i’m going crazy. i don’t know what to do

tldr; guy (i think) is leading me on but claims to only see me as a friend. not sure where to go from here, they’re the only person i’ve ever truly loved

never thought i’d have to come to reddit for advice but i’m desperate here. i met this guy studying abroad in england couple years ago, and we got really really close. even that is an understatement honestly. we both cared deeply for each other but as time went on we started talking less (distance and what not). eventually though i moved to his city (not for him just coincidence) so we’ve reconnected in ways.

when we started talking more i wanted to have a serious conversation to clarify what ‘we’ were. since throughout our weird relationship he’d say things like i love you, but then later would take it back. and then add that he meant it platonically. i’m oversimplifying since i don’t want to go super into detail.

as for how i felt about it, i was exhausted. it was such an intense relationship and i was always so confused by why he was saying or doing the things he did. it was honestly like a mental tug of war.

so i called them and explained my thought process, pointing out all the things he’s said and done that are making me believe that our relationship wasn’t just platonic. more importantly i needed to know who i was to them. they said i was their best friend.

ah yea. a best friend who has been your wallpaper screen for 2 years, your “best friend” who you invited over for thanksgiving to meet their family, who you bought a valentine’s day gift (with hearts chocolate and flowers might i add), buying them expensive gifts and paying for their meal, who you tell “you give me a feeling stronger than love”, and then says there’s nothing going on?

i brought up the valentine’s day gift. i told him it was making me uncomfortable, because (yes i clarified) he said it was 100% platonic and “a joke”.

he disagreed with everything i said. he said how love was sacred to me(?? how is that related) and he should have known sooner. and then said that i had an insecurity i wasn’t telling him about. said he grew up with valentine’s day being a time for him to give loving presents to his friends. he talked about how the gifts weren’t expensive. said something about how it shouldn’t matter if we were just friends. and then said i was priceless and my company was all enough for him.

i realize this is like. a million red flags in one. but i guess im still in denial. i really loved this person. they were incredibly smart moral and actually understood me. perhaps i’m naive. but i cant explain all the nuances that went down in a reddit post.

i guess my question is that is it worth it to try to communicate this more to work it out? or should i just cut my losses. or hell i dont even know maybe i did something wrong too.

sorry for such a long post. thank you for anyone who took the time to read it. any advice is appreciated :)

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I (19F) jealous of fiance (21M) going out with friends

My fiance (21M) and I (19F) have been together for almost 2 years. We did long distance for a year as i am from Chicago and he is from Bosnia. We have definitely gotten past the honeymoon stage and are talking about our futures more seriously. We are in the process of a fiance visa for him to join me in the states. Because of this big step, i decided to take advantage of my online classes and spend the year in Bosnia with him. My family has an apartment here and so I do not currently live with him.

Here’s the issue, he works full time and so we see each other 1-2 a week. He struggles to find time to see me as often as I would like given I am a naturally anxious person. I need constant affirmation and check ins not because I don’t trust him but because of childhood trauma. Because of this, I can definitely come across as jealous especially because I sometimes get upset when he hangs out with friends rather than come and see me.

I fully trust him and cheating definitely is not on my mind in the slightest but I feel like because we’re so close to the big step of marriage, he’d make himself more available for me.

Id also like to mention that I am fully aware that we are both very young for marriage but this is not the topic of this post.

In regards to his friends, many our my family members who we met through. The issue with this is that many of those family members talk to my fiances ex and so she makes appearances at hangouts. In a way she definitely makes me a little uncomfortable with him going out even while knowing they do not speak to one another or have a relationship.

Any advice on controlling my emotions?

TL;DR Insecure about fiance hanging out with friends rather than seeing me especially right before taking big step and getting married. We see each other about 1-2 times a week because he works and is often tired after. What can I do about being less jealous and insecure when I’m not his main priority?

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I (27m) feel like I am falling in love with one of my best friends (38f) although I know for a fact that it would never work out

I've developed feelings for one of my best friends. When I first met her, I did think she was cute, but thought nothing of it. But as the months went by, we started hanging out and got quite close. We would spend hours and hours talking and laughing without getting bored, and she's always been so comfortable and vulnerable around me. Not in a flirty way, but as a close friend.

Somewhere along the line, as corny as it sounds, I feel like I may have started to fall for her. I know it will never work out; there are so many reasons why it would never work out even if the feeling is mutual (I can never tell whether it is or not). But we get along so well and I care for her so deeply that it's difficult to let go of these feelings.. and she is exactly my type too. We would be so good together.

Althoigh it really hurts, I don't want to initiate anything or act on my feelings because I would hate to waste her time. She's such an amazing and beautiful person, and I want her to be with someone that she can have a future with.

I guess one of the reasons I'm posting this is to finally vent these feelings out, and at the same time, I would really love to get some advice on how to deal with this. We are such good friends and she's sometimes a little dependant on me, both emotionally and also with getting things done sometimes.. should I just do my best to suppress my feelings?

Thank you

TL;DR: I've started to develop feelings for a close friend and although I know it would never work between us long term, we are so good together and I can't seem to let these feeling go. I don't want to waste her time, so I'm looking for a way to get over these feelings.

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My (28F) wife (28f) of 3 years, together for almost 8, are divorcing over incompatibilities, but I don’t know if it’s the right choice anymore

My wife and I have been going back and forth on getting a divorce for a while. We have too many incompatibilities, and we’ve agreed that this is the case. There are things I want that I know I’ll never get in our marriage (a healthy sex life; going out and not staying in; etc) and my wife says she realizes this to be the case. We’ve been looking for apartments for her to move into (I’d be helping her move). However, I feel so devastated by this. So does she. These last few days we have been very touchy and intimate again for the first time in weeks. Is this a sign we shouldn’t divorce and give it another shot… even if I know I shouldn’t expect things to really change much? What deep desires are worth giving up for a marriage with someone you’re, say, 80% compatible with? I love her. She’s my closest friend in this world. I just don’t know what to do.

tl;dr: wife and I are getting a divorce. I’m no longer sure if it’s the right thing to do but I can’t tell.

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Stuck in a hard place in my relationship

I, 19-F, have been dating my boyfriend, also 19- M,for about 4 & a half years now. At the beginning of our relationship, we fought an insane amount. We used to be completely opposite with our morals (he was extremely homophobic, transphobic, racist, pro life, supported trump) so pretty much the complete opposite to me. This cause us to fight pretty much everyday, all day. We started dating when we were 15 so he was my first proper relationship. I struggled because I felt like breaking up wasn’t an option, I was so attached and still am. I’m an extremely anxious person, and the years that we’ve been together have made it even harder with how strong my attachment to him has become. He has extremely abusive and religious parents, and though it isn’t an excuse, this is where he got all of his questionable morals and opinions. Throughout our relationship, he’s pretty much done a 180 and completely worked on himself, he’s a totally different person now than he was then.He’s totally accepting of the LGBTQ community, isn’t racist and no longer supports trump, understands abortions and why women may need them. We also used to (and still somewhat currently) used to fight pretty badly because our communication is horrible. I have an anxious attachment, while he has an avoidant attachment style. (He’d push me away, ignore me, drive home, or even break up with me) in the earlier stages of our relationship when ide try to talk to him about a fight we’d had. But now, after working hard on himself, He’s a lot more patient, understanding /doesnt leave when things get heated anymore. Our relationship is the best it’s ever been. Yet I’m still terrified at the thought of us being together forever, getting married and having kids. I have this big part of me that fills me with guilt. Where I have the longing to experience being single and as cliche as it sounds, finding myself on my own. I feel like I put a lot of my mental wellbeing on him and depend on him emotionally a lot. I feel like I don’t know how to live without him. The problem is, he’s just as attached to me as I am to him. He would completely crumble if we broke up, it would destroy him. And honestly, it would destroy me too, we’ve become so intertwined in eachothers lives that it would feel like losing a limb if we broke up. But, it also terrifies me thinking about pushing away this feeling I have towards being single and exploring other people and relationships that I’ve never got to experience before. So reddit, in desperate for advice, How do I figure out how to come to terms with what I really want? Please help 😩

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Megan Fox And MGK's 'Intensity' Not Healthy After 4 Years of Relationship; Here's What Source Said - PINKVILLA

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How can I smooth things out with my brothers or shall I just leave them to it?

I’m 48 and my brother’s are in their early 50’s. Around 11 years ago, I needed to buy a house, I was struggling to find rental accommodation at the right price for me and my family.

Meanwhile, my poor mum was having a terrible time trying to keep up with her house and the bills, she also had loads of debts, left by my dad. We didn’t know how much it was until after he passed away, 5 years prior. My mum was unable to give up full time work cos of these debts and she was getting on herself (age 70), the house was in disrepair, I hated seeing her like this and feeling hopeless at what to do next, I went to my older brothers to ask for help, I suggested buying mum’s house, they said as I was looking why didn’t I buy it and get her into council accommodation, she could then use the equity to pay off her debts, have a little left over and give up work. It wasn’t a bad idea but there was a lot of work to do but I chose to do it so I could help mum out also. I bought the house and did a mini refurbishment, had to get extra funds to fix the property. I helped mum sort out her council accommodation and move her in. It was a tough time as I was looking after my own family too.

In 2021, I found out my partner was cheating on me, we ended up separating and selling the house. Had some equity which helped pay off my debts and some legal costs etc. Fast forward to 2023, my brothers came to me and ask me for money as they’ve racked up some debt. I really wish I could’ve helped them but I didn’t have anything left, they haven’t spoken to me since, they said that they were expecting money from mum and it was down to me to pay it. They said that they didn’t worry about getting into debt as they knew it would be paid off. My mum isn’t happy with them but why I am made to feel so bad, how do I correct things? They won’t talk to me now. What are your suggestions to repair our relationship?

TL;DR; : Brothers wanted money from me as I got money when I sold my house but paid off my own debts & legal costs. I have a family to support. Shall I leave them to come round? I’ve apologised for not having any to give them but since I’ve said I don’t have it they’re not talking to me.

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Weekend reads: From intriguing tracks of relationships to social relevance of sports | Lifestyle News | English Manorama - Onmanorama

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In-Laws vs My Parents

So, the issue is practically the title. As far as relationship timeline, I mean a lifetime with my parents and known my in laws and partner for 4 years. My (23F) parents (52M, 51F) have previously felt threatened by my in laws (70M, 65F), and I can think of a couple reasons: 1. because my in laws have more money (they had one kid, and work well into 60s, while my parents had 4 kids and have struggled a lot) 2. because my in laws have encouraged us to move out of my hometown where my parents live (something I have always wanted to do) 3. because of their own experience between my two sets of grandparents constantly turning sleepovers and family functions into competitions for which side is the most loved. My parents and in laws have never met in person due to COVID at the beginning of our relationship, living in separate states, and honestly because my partner and I don't really feel the need to have them meet just yet. (Plus timing has never worked out for visits and the possible personality conflicts.) I am happy to elaborate more if needed on pretty much anything. Current issue: My in laws are planning a trip to Europe with my partner and myself. It's about week, couple of countries, and we're excited. it is about two months out and I haven't told my parents yet because I'm afraid how they will react. They never have had (nor do they now) the money to do trips like this even though they have talked about doing one down the road. Specifically, my dad, I am worried would feel bad about not being able to financially provide this opportunity himself, but my mom could see this as my in-laws trying to bribe us to "side" with them. My dad has always felt bad for not providing more when we were kids and it was never his fault (he is the most hardworking person I know) and my mom's parents were the ones who tried to compete with my dads parents for grandkid affection (if I was with my dads parents one day, had to be at their house for two or it wasn't fair-that kind of thing and they forced my mom to cooperate.) I can totally elaborate more on details, but for now how would you approach this conversation?

Should I treat it more casually and just text or call, or go sit them down in person and tell them? Not sure which would cause less of a fuss and I just want no drama.

TL/DR: complicated relationships between parents and in-laws, not sure how to handle new issue.

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Went on the best first dates of my life, and then she ended it and now I don't know what to do

Never posted something like this before, but really struggling with processing this. I had given up on finding someone I could be happy being myself with, until I connected with someone on a dating app. Right off the bat, the banter was good. Within a few days of connecting, we met up for dinner, and talked for hours, until the restaurant closed and we moved to the bar next door and continued talking and hanging out until the bar closed too and we got kicked out.

I think from that night, I was instantly in love. It has been years since I felt this happy with someone, from just talking. I could be myself, didn't have to put up an image, and I felt she was being herself too, just sharing her story as I shared mine. A few days after this date, I asked her to go on a day trip with me. She had mentioned that her birthday had recently passed and she hadn't celebrated it at all. So I planned a trip to a farm a few hours away, and found some small town bakeries, got a 3 and 0 sparkle and a birthday candle. Picked her up from her place, and we went on the trip. Again, the conversations were amazing, the farm was so much fun, we walked around the small town, holding hands and laughed and talked for hours. Drove around by the water, made fun of each others playlists, found trails to check out. Finally stopped at a store, and I got her fav icecream, and put a candle in it to celebrate her belated birthday. She was surprised, and had the most adorable smile on her face. We shared the ice cream, and then continued driving. I wanted to find a clear spot to see stars, but the weather didn't cooperate...so eventually i just stopped on the side of the road, and asked her to step out with me for a minute. She was def confused, but I took out the sparkles and again wished her a happy belated birthday.

On the 4 hour drive back that night, we held hands the entire way. It felt genuine, she'd put her other hand on top of mine, change positions, but we kept holding hands the entire way back. I dropped her back at her place, tried to go for a kiss, but she faced away, so I kissed her cheek and said goodnight.

This was a sunday, next morning I didn't hear anything from her, I messaged her but didn't hear back until the night that she had a busy work day and is going to bed now. Next two days, the conversations were like this, dry and absent. Then the dreaded message came "I had a great time, but for personal reasons I can't continue this, hope you find the girl you're looking for, take care"

I've had so many dates that led nowhere, long term relationships that ended...and maybe I have forgotten how much those breakups hurt, but this seems extra hurtful. I didn't know how to respond, so did the usual "I'm sorry you feel this way, best of luck to you as well and I hope you find what you're looking for", and deleted her number and unfollowed her from social media. But then quickly went and saved her number again. It's been 3 weeks now, and I can't stop thinking about her. I sent her another message a week later, saying that I felt a connection after such a long time, and wished that there was something I could do to have her open up to me and see if we could resolve the personal reason she had to not continue. But no response, she kept following me on social, didn't block my number, but no response.

I know time will heal, but just wanted to get this off my chest. I've never fallen for someone this quick, and then be given such a vague reason for things ending. I think if she had told me I was not funny enough, or too ugly or something of that sorts, it'd been easier to process...but not knowing what made her end is driving me crazy. I've lost my appetite, and just feel hopeless that i'll feel this way about someone again or if I even should.

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TLDR: Had given up finding someone I could be myself with, found someone, and went on a rollercoaster and crashed

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I (22F) found old provocative pictures in my bfs (25M) phone

I (22F) found old provocative pictures on my bfs (25M) phone

I found them by snooping on his phone but for context he told me I’m allowed to do it if I want. His phone broke and he’s using an old one so the pictures are from 4-3 years ago and it’s uploaded from Dropbox and has other random pictures in it, the pictures aren’t nudes but a past partner in bikinis or other stuff like that. I’m upset bc it’s in a folder that’s cover is a woman in a bikini so why didn’t he think of deleting them since it’s so showy, also what upsets me is my partner is an extremely jealous guy so if I put him in a similar situation he’d be very upset so I wish he’d think of me in his own terms too. I was upset with him for a whole day and I’m not sure how to feel now or what to do. I’m not completely innocent bc I have random nudes in my photos too bc I have so many pictures and they’re just randomly around there but for him it’s a specific folder he could’ve deleted. :/ I don’t know if I will be able to get over this.

TL;DR: I found a folder with some bikini pictures of a past partner in my bfs old phone that he didn’t delete and it made me upset

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How to tell my mum [70sF] that she's driving my sister [30sF] away?

I found out recently that my mum is sad that she does not have a strong connection with her daughter (my sister) and wants to be closer to her. The problem is that she often says things that are hurtful, especially about people's weight.

My sister is somewhat overweight and it is a sensitive subject for her; she blames my parents for causing her food issues in her teens, something she has been in therapy for. My mum has always been quite slim, and has her own issues with food that we trace back to our grandfather who was always teasing his wife about her weight. Mum is not that bad, she doesn't say things directly to my sister about her weight, but she will comment on other people being "fat" and "gross"; is quite obsessed with nutrition and will steer a conversation towards the subject; will make comments during meal times like "oh I could not possibly manage a dessert after all that" after a small main course.

My sister is not the kind of person who will directly confront her about it, but instead she keeps my mum at arm's length and never spends one-on-one time with her. In a group setting things are manageable but can get quite tense if the conversation turns to food, as it often does.

I think our mum is somewhere on the autism spectrum and doesn't quite realise how offensive she is being. I think my sister agrees but still can't bring herself to be direct about it.

Mum is only getting older and I worry that she will spend her final years without the sense of closeness that she wants from her daughter, and likewise my sister will miss out on being able to treasure her last years with her mum.

We're going on a group trip this weekend and I have some time alone with my mum beforehand, and I want to broach the subject but I have no idea how to do that without offending her or otherwise putting her on the defensive. In some ways it's not my place to interfere with their relationship but I also feel like I am the only person who can see what's happening and am in a position to try to make things better.

TL;DR What is the best way to put my mum in a receptive mood to take my advice ("stop offending your daughter with fatphobia/nutrition advice") in the way that it is intended?

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Relationship Struggles: Seeking advice (22F)

Hello everyone, I'm a 22-year-old female who recently had a major disagreement with my 23-year-old boyfriend. It all stemmed from a Snapchat message from three years ago, and I could really use some advice.

Here's the backstory: We've been officially together for three years, but we were talking for a year before that. One night at a party, a question was asked during a drinking game that caused a huge fight between us. Despite my attempts to downplay it, my boyfriend had a hard time trusting me afterward. Another incident occurred when I reached out to a lecturer for help with a software issue. Even though I made it clear I was in a committed relationship, my boyfriend accused me of flirting.

To regain his trust, I went to extreme lengths, like blocking men on social media when they want to request to follow me ,to constantly reassuring him. But despite my efforts, trust remains an issue.

In the most recent argument, about three weeks ago, my boyfriend stumbled upon an old Snapchat message from three years ago probably just before our relationship or the beginning, might even be from the short period me and my boyfriend had a very small minor break up . Despite my explanation that I didn't even recall having the person on Snapchat, let alone a message, he struggled to believe me. This followed a situation a week prior where a this same man,who is somewhat of a local celebrity, liked some of my old Instagram pictures, prompting me to express discomfort to my boyfriend. Despite my efforts to be transparent, the trust issues persist, leaving us both at an impasse. He called all 3 of these fight infidelity based on my part.

I feel stuck. My emotions are being disregarded when i try speak to him , all he cares about is how i hurt him, and I'm tired of constantly trying to prove myself ,when i know i didn't do anything wrong. My boyfriend says he knows intellectually that I haven't been unfaithful, but emotionally, he struggles to believe it. He's asked for space, but I'm not sure if I should continue trying to fix things alone (per his request, that because i broke it i should fix it ) or consider taking a break. Because I'm angry and hurting too

Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you.

TL;DR

Hey everyone,

I'm a 22-year-old female seeking advice about trust issues with my 23-year-old boyfriend. It all started with an old Snapchat message and has escalated from there. Despite my efforts to reassure him and be transparent, trust remains a problem.

I feel stuck and unheard when trying to communicate my feelings. My boyfriend struggles to believe I've been faithful, even though he acknowledges it intellectually. He's asked for space, leaving me unsure whether to keep trying to fix things alone or consider taking a break.

Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

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GF(21) just brokeup with me(22M) due to boundaries being constantly overstepped.

Hey Guys, im in a bit of pickle rn. My girlfriend(ex now maybe idk) and I had been dating for a year and 3-4 months now. We both were invested in this relationship for the long run with hopes to get married within 3-4 years after my Master’s degree.

This wasn’t your usual relationship with empty words and promises like those of teenage relationships. Her main problem is disrespect during arguments. I was raised very differently compared to her so stuff that was normal to me was incredibly hurtful to her. She said from day 1 she can’t handle disrespect and I reassured her I’d work on it, and I did improve quite a lot but it’s not nearly finished yet. Our main problem is when we argue, we’re unable to resolve things calmly and more often than not stufff gets escalated to the point where it turns into a bad fight.

I know communication is an integral part of a relationship and she’d been tolerating me working on this but seems to have given up for the time being. Our chemistry and vibes are off the charts and I don’t doubt for a second that what we have/had is real considering the fact that I’ve been in around 7-8 relationships by now. She’s basically asked for space and distance but has called it a breakup. It seems I took her for granted and thought she’d always stick around which was a huge error on my part and the fact that It took a breakup to make me realise this is pretty shitty.

Im genuinely broken without her and I don’t want to go on in life without her. I’ve respected her wishes and told her I’ll be taking time to work on myself personally, to make sure that I get rid or this problem completely and that I’ll wait for her however long she needs because she’s the only girl I want my best self to be with. The place where I need advice now is for the people who have broken up and gotten back together eventually, Did you all give your partners a fair second chance? How long before you guys realised it’s not worth letting go and should be atleast tried to make it work again before completely giving up? And if you did get back together, were things better than before? Were you glad you gave it a second shot? Thankyou for reading and I look forward to what you guys have to say! TL;DR: My girlfriend brokeup with me because of constantly overstepping boundaries and Im not sure she’ll be coming back.

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girl I’m dating suddenly distant, how should I respond to last text she sent me?

So I’ve been dating a girl for the past 2 weeks. Both of us are in our 30’s. We’ve had 4 dates, and I feel we have a genuine connection. We shared a lot about our lives, all the dates went well. She’s scared of commitment and super busy with work. She’s currently in medical residency. We’ve been intimate already couple of times.

All of a sudden she’s acting more distant. Called her last night and texted her after saying “hey I just called to say hello, call me back whenever.” and no response. She texted me the next day saying she’s been busy with work stuff lately and that she hopes I’m having a good week. She has anxiety and gets overwhelmed easily.

So it seems she’s pulling back. I don’t know why. Here’s my question:

I’m going to give her space. But Do I text her back to acknowledge her text to me?

Something like “hey, I completely understand- let me know if things free up for you this weekend, maybe we can catch a comedy show?”

Or leave it more open-ended? Something like “hey I completely understand, let me know if things free up for you”

Or no response at all to her text?

I’m planing on not reaching out after and respecting her space.

What do you guys think??

TLDR: girl I’m dating suddenly distant, how should I respond to last text she sent me?

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[25F] Do I have conflict resolution backwards?

Two times I have been immediately dumped over opening a conflict. It did NOT involve yelling, verbal abuse or ultimatums. More like "Your (woman) friend is acting a little inappropiate towards you. Can we talk about this?". In both cases, I didn't want them to stop hanging out-or even hang out less, I just wanted to be reassured and taken into consideration. Not that I actually got to expressing the last sentence-they both went into overdrive "OMG OMG you're possessive, I need to get out of this ASAP " territory.

Now, when I look at other relationships around me-they seem to solve their conflicts in a much more emotional/primal manner i.e. He sometimes doesn't answer the phone? She will intentionally not answer the phone. I personally find this immature, but it seems to work. Also, one thing that makes me insecure is the fact that one of ex's exes would actually yell and throw things around the house whenever she got jealous. THAT you can handle without considering her possessive, but an attempt at a mature conversation drives you over the edge?

With another ex...whenever HE was upset about something, I would say "I never thought this would bother you. I will stop doing this in the future"(and I did). He HATED it. He called it lawyer talk. His ex would never, ever change behavior(at least not long term), but she would get guilty/sad/generally emotional if he brought up something she did that bothered him. He didn't say it specifically, but it was clear he much preferred it.

I consider myself an empathetic and emotionally open person. Maybe I don't show it enough? Maybe my experience is very particular and not applicable further than those particular people? Is there something deeper? I don't know.

TL;DR It seems like guys prefer you act over emotional rather than rational when something bothers you. It confuses me, since it seems to go against everything we would be thought in a, say, conflict resolution class.

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My bf keeps looking up half-naked/naked girls on ig

My bf M/22 and I F/21 have been together for almost 3 years now. Everyone around says how much he loves me, families included. I don’t think we have ever argued seriously about anything but one thing. Naked women in his phone. The first time I saw it on accident in his photos once I brought it up all of it was deleted and never came back to the topic. A few months after I just had an urge to go through his phone (yeah yeah I know privacy etc and I hate that I do that too) either way I found receipts and notifications of him subbing for OF. Whatever came to agreement about it. I forgave him and even was able to build up the trust again, it got better than it even was before (didn’t check his phone didn’t have an urge or feeling, nothing just trust and happiness). Until one day I woke up in a middle of the night and first thing I felt was the urge to check his phone which resulted in me finding him thirsting over naked girls on ig. Argued with him, ended up taking on this topic for 2-3 hours, him praying on his mama and yes I forgave him. But forgave does not mean forgot, so I kept periodically checking his phone in the morning which was always clean until about a month ago I found in his search history a OF model that he personally knows from his school as well as a convo w his friend talking about one of the reels you can imagine what kind. This was a crazy day because I feel like a little more stress and I would have ended up w panic attacks in a hospital. He lied to me that the only reason he searched the girl was to show her acc to that friend. In the conversation there was no sign of her being mentioned which he said he deled convo so that I wouldn’t make my own picture in my head and not to stress me out. I said to text that friend and ask for screenshot of his side of chat he refused and a minute later admitted that he did in fact search her up not for his friend but just to check on her life. I went in panic mode and when escalated he was the one to call me down haha that sounds so ridiculous honestly. Though he begged for last chance said he won’t fuck it up he sees me in his future. I had to think on all of that for a few hours and ended up staying, yes, you can call me stupid. Though I told him if it will happen again I will pack my stuff and leave. Now I have not found anything and yes I’m looking through his phone still. The only thing I found was porn which I had never had problem w it. Though now when I saw that in the video it was basically just the girl and the only thing from dude is a dick I did start feeling a typa way at the moment but still don’t care whatever watch porn. But tonight I pretended to sleep and when he came back from shower was just peeking at his phone and saw that before he put his phone away he checked specifically for his search on Ig. He went directly from Home Screen to IG search and when he saw that there was nothing to clean up, he just closed ig and turned to sleep. Now I do not have any evidence but for some reason I’m sure that he still does it all but now I have no evidence since all of my moves he know so he knows what to hide I assume. Now you might ask why won’t you leave him? Maybe because I’m stupid, maybe because I love too much or attached too much idk call it whatever you want. But he is the person I’m looking forward to seeing at the end of the day. He still treats me good besides this, compliments, flowers, appreciates me, long talks, sometimes I feel like we the same person in different bodies, I just feel that connection to this day even after all the hurt. The thing is I don’t even know if it bothers me at this point that he does it. In a way I still get that feeling going through his phone but even when I found all of it the last time I felt nothing about it until he got me on the conversation about it. He is also the person who helped me learn to communicate in relationship because before I was avoidant about it and would bottle it up in me which is what’s happening rn

Damn I just realized how long this is. Sorry for the yap dump but I literally have no one to talk to about it. If I tell my mom I will end up crying my ass of and she will probably will take me back home. And I don’t want to ask friend for a shoulder because everyone already has their hands full w exams etc.

I just don’t understand at this point why.

TL;DR;: basically have a feeling that he still continues to check out the girls even though he promised and begged. I worry less than I did a few days after last time. But it is still on my mind and slowly eating me, and I have no proof if he does it or if I’m just making up scenarios like I usually do.

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I (25F) broke up with my boyfriend (25M) of 8 years to live abroad and I fear I will regret it

I recently returned from solo travelling in Australia for 2 months. I absolutely loved every minute of it and it really boosted my confidence. I was always such a homebird and it was really a leap out of my comfort zone.

I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years, since we were both 17. He is kind, generous, loyal, and I can tell that he genuinely loves and cares about me a huge amount. However, there are also aspects of our relationship that make me unhappy. I feel that we cannot really have vulnerable conversations where I express what I’m dissatisfied with in a constructive way. When we do this, he gets angry or frustrated. This has resulted in him calling me names in the past.

He also seems to harbour resentment towards me over past mistakes. We have been together since we were both very young (17) so inevitably we both have made mistakes along the way as this is the first relationship either of us has been in. But this resentment can manifest itself in him being very angry towards me when drunk for example. There have been quite a few incidents when he’s been drunk where he will act completely irrationally and his resentment towards me will come out. For example, he has called me a whre, to KMS, fck off, that I would have no one without him, cursing at me etc. It just seems to come out of nowhere which concerns me because it makes me think he is very unhappy in the relationship. Afterwards, he will be extremely apologetic and will show genuine remorse. But it still happens again.

I know this is hard to believe with the information I’m providing, but he is not a bad person. He feels a lot of shame after he acts like this, and he has lovely qualities. He has always had a lot of difficulty regulating his emotions. And it’s not an excuse. He is still responsible for his behaviour but I don’t think he is inherently a bad person. Which is what makes it difficult. But despite me expressing many many times how his behaviour makes me feel uncomfortable, there is no consistent change. Sometimes he’s not even aware of it being an issue which is almost more concerning.

But basically, I want to live abroad in Australia for a year. He was very upset when I told him this. I asked him to join me multiple times. He says it’s just not something he wants to do. This lead to us breaking up because I felt we wanted different things in life. He says the he will never stop loving me, and that he is ‘incredibly depressed’ that we broke up, and that he will never meet someone like me and how special I am. What confuses me is that he was not even open to compromise. I know he doesn’t want to hold me back from doing what makes me happy, and I appreciate Australia isn’t what will make him happy. It is a big thing to move to the other side of the world and I can’t expect him to do this if it’s not for him. But at the same time, when I suggested that we compromise, he was not open to this.

Even if he did move to Australia with me, we would want to do different things. He dislikes most of my friends, so we would be drawn to different people. I would like to go to late bars and dance, he hates dancing and to be honest when he’s drunk he can be mean to me.

But he is extremely loyal and I fear I won’t find this again. That is something I really value in a relationship. He makes me feel like I am the only girl for him.

Since we broke up, I don’t feel as sad as I thought I would. I think I may have started grieving the end of the relationship a long time ago. It was a mutual decision, but I feel very guilty that he is so heartbroken and I worry I will regret it. He was extremely sweet during our break up, and supportive of my dreams and it reminded me why I fell in love with him.

TLDR: Boyfriend (25M) of 8 years and I (25F) broke up because I want to travel and he doesn’t, and I fear I will regret it

My fear is that I will never meet someone as loyal as him and that I will regret losing him.

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i (19F) found a dating app on my boyfriends (21M) phone

i (19F) and my boyfriend (21M) have been going out for almost 6 months now and i wanted to ask advice. after our first month of dating while my boyfriend was on his phone i noticed on the screen a dating app, this wasnt too shocking to me as we met on a dating app ourselves and even tho it made me a little uneasy i knew that we hadnt been together that long and wernt too serious at the time so i forgot about it. fast forward to last night while we were out these guys came up to us asking us to do that tiktok loyalty test thing were we go through eachothers phones. my boyfriend gave me his phone with no hesitation. and while i looked at the screen i saw that the same dating app was there. i didnt say anything and we continued until the guys left and we joked about how random it was. but im still thinking about why he still has the dating app after 6 months. we are so close and i genuinely love him so much and belive he loves me too, i just dont know how to talk to him about how it makes me uncomfortable. first off i in no way think that he is cheating or being unfaithfull, but how do i bring up this conversation about the app and calm down my mind. thankyou

TLDR: found dating app on my boyfriends phone after 6 months and want to talk about it to him.

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I (F28) broke up with my boyfriend (M27) because he broke a promise. Am I being unreasonable?

TL;DR Boyfriend attacked me while he was drunk. I took him back because he promised to stop drinking. He drank for the first time in months, so I broke up with him. Am I being unreasonable because he has improved in certain respects?

For context, my ex and I always had a rocky relationship. One of those ones where “when it’s good, it’s really good. When it’s bad, it’s really bad”. I’m talking arguments that resulted in terrible name calling, threats to break up, even having the police called.

Summer of last year, I started a new job. He expressed to me, as I began, that he was feeling insecure about me cheating with my new colleagues. I did everything I could to reassure him, but 2 weeks into my new job, I went out for after work drinks with my colleagues. When I returned home, he was extremely drunk and accused me of cheating from the moment I arrived. After a big back and forth, he ended up attacking me. I immediately called the police and he was taken away. This resulted in him legally not being allowed to talk to me or see me for a month. But that didn’t stop him. He begged and made so many promises, the biggest one being that he’d stop drinking forever. We both agreed that if he broke that promise, it’d be over. I was in a really vulnerable state at that point, so despite what he did to me, I took him back on his promises.

Fast forward to today and he has made many improvements and has become a better partner in most respects. However, I left the country for a few days for a short trip and one night, he ended up getting black out drunk, which I found out through his texts and calls to me. In that moment, I stuck to the deal and said we were over. He battled hard and said he made a mistake and promised that this time, he’d really stop because he can NOW really see the damage his drinking would cause.

With everything in the past and the broken promise, I put my foot down. But still, I can’t help but wonder if I’m being unreasonable because it was one slip up out of all the other improvements that were made? Will he really be better and stick to his promise this time? Or have I made the right decision?

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I took custody of the dog in an ugly breakup. Was I wrong for what I did?

My ex and I got a golden retriever puppy together in the middle of Covid. It was perfect timing because I was working from home so I could keep an eye on her, take her out frequently, and work on training. I taught her everything she knows.

I would say I was her primary caregiver, and my name was on all of the receipts and her vet paperwork. This is important.

When we broke up he made it clear that he thought splitting custody would be the best. He wanted do two weeks on/two weeks off.

I was planning on moving back home post breakup, which would make it a 3 hour drive between us. I was simply not interested in continuing to have him in my life for the next ten years. The breakup was messy and not on good terms at all.

He told me that if I didn’t want to split custody that he would then be taking the dog solely. Things were getting ugly at home and we were still living together while I was looking for a new apartment. We were beginning to hate eachother.

So basically I realized the only way I could keep the dog is to basically just go ahead and take her. So I left one day while he was at work. He came home and we were both gone. I feel cruel for the way I did it…

I feel horrible about how this all went down but I felt like I had no other choice. My ex was devastated. His mother called me and said she had never seen him so upset, that he was sobbing. He promised me he was going to sue me for custody, but I think he realized he had no grounds and eventually texted me to let me know that he wouldn’t be suing me, and that the dog is mine now, best of luck, etc.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? The guilt of everything is eating me alive, but I feel I had no other choice. I also worry about how my dog is dealing with this, if she misses him too. I’d like to hear some of your experiences with dog custody issues. Thanks in advance!

TL:DR One day I just up and left with the dog and moved to another state. My ex is devastated and wanted to split custody. Was I wrong for what I did?

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The Guy (39,M) I (30,F) Like Is Sponsoring The Mother Of His Children

I (30,F) really like this guy (39,M) I met online but know I should not be subjecting myself to this world of chaos. We have been dating for about a year give or take.

He’s 39, has two children, and lives at home with his aging parents. In addition, the mother of his children is living with them as well, along with the two children. She isn’t a citizen of the country and doesn’t work so he feels obligated to support her for the sake of the children. According to him, she’s disrespectful, lazy and unappreciative to him and his family. He says their relationship has been over for a while, that he is not attracted to her and does not want a relationship with her. They are not together and both date other people.

Due to the fact that she is not a citizen, he’s in the process of legally sponsoring her, to ensure she can remain in their children’s lives, as they have autism and have grown very attached to their mother. The mother of his children does have family in the country but he says he does not want her living with them and risk having his children growing up in a bad neighborhood considering she’d have the children full-time while he works.

I really do like him, but know and understand I’m getting the really short end of the stick and this probably isn’t going to work out long-term. I can’t go over his house, won’t be able to get married or have children of my own with him. It absolutely sucks, because when we’re together, we have such a great time and spend so much time laughing with one another. But ultimately the cons outweigh the pros. I should also mention he’s been to jail in his earlier days and works, but money is always tight. Him having a criminal record does not make it easy for him to secure a job that pays more, which means I’m always paying for things. It doesn’t really bother me only because I’ve never been with a man who has or could provide for me, so I’m used to spending a lot money while dating.

Truthfully, a part of me thinks I may like him out of desperation and loneliness (I’ve been dating for a while with no success) but also has genuine interest in him, enjoys spending time with him and remains hopeful, stupidly. He says he loves me and wants to be with me, but I don’t know. It’s probably in my best interest to remain friends and seek to date other people. I just feel a little stuck. Please don’t be mean to me. I’m obviously a little delusional and wear my heart on my sleeve lol.

For some reason, I equate sponsoring her with marrying her in my mind, because he’d be legally responsible for her for 10 years according to his lawyer. I even told him he might as well marry her.

TL;DR : The guy I like, is legally sponsoring the mother of his children but says he loves and wants to be with me.

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I (38M) dont wish to socialise with my dad (57M)

Never had a great relationship growing up, he has never been one for talking much and was quite strict as we grew up, were never really that close.

I am 38, he is 57, the relationship has been 38 years obviously.

Fast forward many years and i now have a daughter which is his granddaughter. For context he lives 5 minutes down the road and is of fine health, still works full time and has nothing else really going on.

He makes literally zero effort with his granddaughter, he will text once a month/2 months to catch up BUT always expects me to take my daughter to his.

When i get there he basically doesent talk, doesent interact with her and usually seems in a hurry to be going out somewhere for shopping or something.

For christmas he got me and my daughter presents and decided to just exclude my partner for some reason (who i have been with for 15 years). Then it was my partners birthday and she didnt get a text or anything, just literally zero effort.

He has since contacted me to go out for a few hours to 'catch up' one day but i dont think i want to make the effort given he makes zero effort with the 2 most important people in my life.

TLDR:

Do i make the effort to go and socialise with my dad given he makes zero effort with the 2 closest people to me including his own granddaughter?

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I (28f) found out the my partner (29m) was still in a relationship with his wife when we started dating. Is there a chance we can rebuild the trust?

Me and my boyfriend have been together about 8 months. The day after our first date he told me he was still married but separated and had a daughter. Things have been going really well, we are really loved up, love spending time with each other and things seemed perfect. However, I have had concerns that him and his ex hadn’t been separated as long as he said (he told me 7 months before meeting me). There were some signs, of them not having established a healthy co-parenting relationship.

Eventually after asking and questioning (which I am not proud of), he told me they had actually only separated 3 months before meeting me & was still living in the family home until meeting me. I was hurt, but began to move forward.

Fast forward to now when I am meeting his child, ex wanted to meet me first which I agreed. She then told me that they had separated after an event he went to, which I had met him before he went.

I didn’t tell her, as she believes we started dating after they split. And I didn’t want her to hurt the way I do because she doesn’t deserve it. I have told him I am most hurt he let me find out this way. He says the relationship was over a long time before, but he was stuck, he has tried to leave before but went back out of guilt. He says in his head they were split up.

We had just moved in together, and signed a tenancy together before I found this out.

I love this boy, but I don’t think I will ever trust him. Has anyone ever been in this position before? Can anyone help me see from his point of view?

TL;DR - boyfriend was still married when we started dating and let me find out the truth from his ex wife

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When me [25M] and my gf [24F] of 4 years fight, I feel like she always wants her way or no way.

I'm 25, my gf is 24. I love her to the moon and back and I want to spend my life with her. We have the same vision for the future. This is the first serious relationship for both of us. We started dating at the beginning of 2020 after she had a crush on me for years before. Currently, we live in different cities (200 km apart) due to studies. This has been the case for the last 2,5 years. We are planning to move in together in 6 months.

Anyway, we just had a big fight when she came to visit me for the weekend. It started with such a little thing and I tried to make things right so many times, even offering her food 3 times, but she would just tell me she was not interested and lock herself in the bedroom for the whole day. It drained my energy and I got super frustrated because she would not cooperate at all. I told her that I felt like it did not make sense for her to come all the way here just to fight and pout alone and we should make things right. She then proceeded to book a train back home the next morning and told me that she would rather leave then. I feel so hurt by this. A nice weekend after missing her so much was ruined and now I'm left alone and sad just cause she was not interested in making up. I don't know what to do now. She did not even look at me when she left. Do I wait for her to contact me?

It's like this most times we argue about something, I feel like she will not meet me halfway at all and the fights only seem to end if I apologize. I know she grew up practically always getting what she wanted, and I've tried to tell her that's not how relationships work and it makes me feel like my wants and needs don't matter at all. She seems too proud to admit something is "her bad". Sometimes she realizes she's been mean to me like a week later and apologizes then.

**TL;DR;** : My gf will not meet me halfway in solving arguments. She stays mad until I apologize, even if I've done nothing wrong. Does anyone have experience with these kinds of issues? I'm lost.

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I (28M) had a fight with my GF (26F) over me playing video games and not spending time with her

I want to preface this by saying this is my first long term relationship. So please point out anything I am thinking and doing wrong so I can learn from my mistakes.

Background is me and my gf live in separate cities. We’ve been together for almost a year. Long distance is rough but we talk everyday and usually video chat and have virtual dates on weekends (watch movies together etc). Generally we have great relationship with occasional fights that I guess looking back doesn’t get 100% resolved.

Today was an important day for my GF, she had a big exam that she had prepped a long time for. I called to wake her up, spoke with her until she went inside, called her again after the exam. We then agreed to video chat on our computers and relax after she went to get food and went back to her place. Before she hung up to get food, I briefly mentioned I might play some games, and she said don’t, spend time with me. I said yeah my intention was just kill some time, my plan is to have the virtual date with you. I also said okay, I won’t play games. I didn’t take her request that seriously.

After I hung up I figured I had a bit of time to kill, so I played video games for 30-40 minutes. During that time I didn’t check my phone. And she sent me a few messages, last one was asking if I was gaming. I didn’t take it seriously, so I just replied haha yeah. I’m done playing. Ready to chat when you are. She was upset and told me go date my gaming friends since we can eat and game together but I won’t spend time with her. I explained I planned tonight to video chat, but since we never said a specific time, I was just gaming to kill some time but I just was too absorbed to not check my phone for half an hour. Anyways this led to a long argument, which I’ll summarize our perspectives below.

Her issues with me: I went back on my word for her (said I won’t play games), I refuse to apologize and make her feel better (I felt angry that this should be a non issue), a couple of other issues that popped up in our earlier fights.

My issues with her: I feel like she made this to be way bigger deal. I was already spending/planning to spend most of my day with her. Think she blew this out of proportion and made us both unhappy.

I tried to get us to move on. We ended up video chatting for an hour, she turned her camera off, was passive aggressive, didn’t say much when I tried to have a conversation. She played music in background loudly. She’s never done any of this before. Eventually after one hour I had enough and turned off the chat. She then called me and we argued for another hour.

TLDR: played video games for 30mins after telling gf I wouldn’t. Got in a huge fight that escalated and want to know what went wrong and how to avoid future fights.

We just seem to be unable to see eye to eye on this situation. I think it’s not a big deal but she thinks I’m being inconsiderate and going back on my word. The truth is I didn’t pay much attention to her when she said not to game (like when your parents say go do this and you reply yeah ok). I realize my mistake in not taking that request seriously. After our fight, I really regret not making more of an effort to let my anger and feeling aside, and apologize and make up to her, especially since she was drained after a big exam. I apologized to her for not really listening to her request, for being inconsiderate, but I told her I didn’t want to apologize for saying she blew this out of proportion. Am I truly an asshole from this situation? Am I wrong in trying to diminish this situation, in thinking it’s not a manifestation of bigger issues as she suggests?

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M 20, Crush F 20 asks for advice on her past relationship

Crush texts me out of the blue, when we ended up unfriending eachother on social media and asks of advice on an relationship from which she can't move on.

she doesn't wants to meet me or also call she just wants to text and says if we meet she couldn't handle her talking about him she wanted an closure but couldn't get one and she got stuck in between. She wants to talk to him but his family members are not letting her to get in touch. And she is disturbed.

what should I do and is there any reason why me?

Important thing we tried dating eachother but couldn't happen due due to multiple reasons..

tl;dr: "I'm in love with her since an yr"

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