Keep sparks and open communication in a relationship

The sad truth is that if things are not mutually satisfactory in the room, the eyes of your partner or your own are likely to start to wonder at some point. Sex is a form of communication that should not be overlooked. 

 Communication is the most important aspect of any healthy relationship. It is a matter of respect: to demonstrate the respect you have for yourself, expressing your true desires, your thoughts, and opinions, and showing the respect you have for your partner by being honest, even about things you feel he can challenge them. 

 Many people have communication problems. In fact, a lack of communication is the source of virtually all the problems of long-term couples I know. Most people's problems with communication seem to come from a fear of conflict: they do not want to do something to upset the status quo, or that might offend their partner.

 For this reason, important questions remain unanswered and resentments begin to simmer until finally, they explode into a major confrontation that has been exacerbated by the increased pressure of bottling it all for so long. It is very important to address issues as they arise. 

 Good communication does not attack your partner is not telling him he's wrong. It is about creating an environment in your relationship where you both feel strong enough, with enough confidence in another context that allows you to be honest about your true feelings. If any of you feel that something is happening, you should be able to talk, you must be sure that the other person is willing to listen.