Re-friend?

TL;DR should I re-friend with crush?

About 7-8 weeks ago I told my coworker that I (M31) love her (F36) backfired and we didn't talked for a week. A week later, She came by and said that she values our friendship and asked if I regret that my decision to tell her how I feel. I said "no, I felt love and I told you so. I won't be the guy who's waiting in the corner for you to notice me." ( Not sure about exact words but context was something like that) Anyway we are not talking anymore ( it's ok for me) and she has a boyfriend now which shows my decision is protects me mentally. ( I do still have feelings, it's reducing by the time yet I didn't fall in love her in a day, it took a while vise versa ) And today her best friend came by and asked to me again if I feel regret about my decision. I said no. And it's puzzles me. I don't have a grey area. If I love someone, I do love; if I don't love i don't. I value friendship and people but it's not the "LOVE" and for me losing a friendship is not that hard. Yet I don't understand her motive. I mean ok, she values me. just it's not love and as I don't have any control over it neither she. And this is understandable. So why she tries to be friend again. I don't understand the drive. Help :) Ps: I believe I need more time if she asks me personally Its gonna be my answer.

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I am attracted to my cousin.

I know it's weird from this title but IDK why I feel this way to one of my cousins. She's my first cousin she is only 10 and I am 15. She actually lives not far from us so I see her more often than my other cousins. So, I'm kinda close to her than my other cousins. So, I don't know why but recently I started feeling attracted to her. IDK if it's because of her looks she's really good looking than most of my other cousins and a lot of people have called her pretty and stuff. She's like cute and she's gotta good booty I know I shouldn't be saying this, I am not sure if I have paedophilia.

So, I didn't try to do anything since she was my cousin. But yesterday my aunt dropped my cousin off at our house while she and my mom were going shopping. So, I was alone with my cousin I was just sitting on the couch in the living room watching TV when my cousin came and sat next to me. We were talking about something when she began cuddling with me for some reason. We decided to watch a movie and she was moving closer to me on the couch and sat on my lap IDEK why.

When she sat on my lap I got a boner I think she could feel it as well because she was wearing tight leggings. She made me put my arms around her hips and IDK why I really felt like wanting to kiss her at that moment. But my mom and my aunt returned soon after that and it was quite awkward. But we pretended as nothing happened and my cousin and my aunt left soon.

So, IDK why but it felt like she was trying to hit on me. I know I really shouldn't be thinking about this but I can't help and after what happened yesterday it has increased my urges even more. I am thinking about telling her because I think she might feel the same way. But I don't know if it will be the right thing to do. So, any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

TL;DR; I am attracted to my younger cousin and she hit on me yesterday. It has increased my urges for her even more I am not sure what to do so any advice would be appreciated.

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My gf (f27) made a sexual remark about a celebrity

She opened messages on her phone when I was next to her, a friend had sent her a video of someone famous and her replies were how it made her wet horny and she wanted him inside her, I was obviously not meant to see this but I did and it bothered me, should I talk to her about it? it doesn’t bother me if she says a famous person is attractive or anything but I feel like the nature of those comments were kinda disrespectful

TLDR gf made a sexual remark about a celebrity which I feel was a little disrespectful

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How To Plan A Trip Or Dinner With Friends Of Different Income Levels

Financial disparities can make trip-planning and dinners super stressful. Here's how to be more accommodating of all your friends.

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How we met: ‘I was trying to have a baby alone when we matched on a dating app’

Emmy was on en route to Athens to try artificial insemination when she started chatting to Andy. Now they have a child together

After turning 30 in 2018, Emmy made the life-changing decision to have a baby alone. “I had always really wanted children,” she says. “But when I did a fertility MOT, I discovered I had low egg reserves.” Single, and reluctant to wait for a suitable partner to come along, she began the process of IVF. “I naively thought it would work, but I had a couple of miscarriages in the early stages.”

In February 2020, she travelled to Athens to try artificial insemination by a donor. “I’ve lived and worked in Greece and loved it. It was cheaper and I had friends to stay with,” she says. Before she landed, she matched on a dating app with a man from Liverpool called Andy, and they began to chat. “I’d been single for about four years and was quite happy in my own world,” he says. “But I was open to meeting someone and I found Emmy really engaging.”

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26 [M] has no idea how to break up with 28 [F] girlfriend

So.. I have been living together with her for a bout 4 years and I keep noticing that I have been pushing myself into the background for more than a year.

I don't really feel "happy" anymore and I am kinda running on auto-pilot. Every day is the same. Wake up, work, eat, watch tv/play video games, go to bed. We aren't intimate anymore either. I get annoyed with the tiniest things that she does. She always lectures me, even on my job, almost pretending she is my boss.

There is almost no communication between us since it almost always ends with me apologizing or a huge akward silence.

The problem of breaking up is that she doesn't have a job, she is finally doing an education to get a job, and I am afraid I will push her back down now that she is finally becoming more positive. She has had a very difficult life. The only money that she gets is a funding from the government wich isn't enough to go and rent something. And she doesn't really have any family nearby to move in with.

So I have no clue. I don't just want to throw her out. I know how "unstable" she can be... And even though I notice my feelings for her are completely fading, I still want her to be okay.

Any help would really be appreciated because I am completely lost and don't know how much longer I can take this :s

TL;DR I am in a relationship of 5 years that is going nowhere and making me unhappy. I have no idea how to end it because of multiple reasons.

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I think I am falling out of love with my husband, should I stay?

I (33f) have been with my husband (32m) for nearly 14 years, married for 5, we have one toddler daughter together and I’ve slowly been feeling myself falling out of love with him.

I think it started after we had our daughter and I realized he isn’t the kind of dad I thought he would be. He’s always had a short temper and had irrational blow-ups but all of the sudden it was happening with my child, not just with me and I started to resent him for it. I always confront him about these anger issues when they surface and he always apologizes and agrees he needs to work on it, but they always resurface.

I think he also resents how I spend much more time being a mom to our child than being his wife, and I know I should try harder with him but if we have time alone I’m really hoping to be alone, not with him or with anyone. For two years I’ve been wrestling with feelings that we are completely disconnected and I don’t know that I can regain the love I once felt.

I also lost weight recently and have begun to have self-confidence for really the first time in my life and I’ve started to enjoy getting looks from other men. We were so young when we met and I never really experienced dating.

He’s a good person and he says he’s still very in love with me and can’t lose me. He’s agreed to couples’ counseling but has never followed through with therapy in the past. I’m afraid I’m just wanting a counselor to give me permission to leave or say we should separate because I just don’t want to hurt him.

Can counseling fix us or is it too late?

TL; DR! Falling out of love with my husband and wanting to know if counseling willful this or if divorce/separation is best.

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