My (27) boyfriend (M32) won’t be sincere about his sexual desires which hinders my self-work to become more trusting in him.

My boyfriend was originally straight until we met and dated together. He usually considers himself as having no label on his preference, meaning probably something similar to pansexual I guess. Lately I’ve been under the assumption he’s pretty intrigued or turned on by vaginas, which would be normal if he’s attracted to both sexes (even I, being gay, cannot lie I’m curious how vaginal penetration would feel) and as he’s never had sex with a woman since I was his first sexual partner. The thing is when I talk about it with him, he tells me and insists that no, « i’m enough », « he doesn’t even thing about that kind of matter » , « he’s not interested in having sex with someone else other than me » and what not but he always ends up contradicting himself and if I push him long enough he will finally admit « yeah maybe I’m a bit intrigued or turned on by vaginas bla bla» but the fact he’s not sincere with himself, therefore not sincere with me makes me mad. I have big struggles trusting others, and I do my best to trust him, but when he acts like this, it ultimately ruins my attempts at improving my flaws. When he lies, he usually has a little childish smirk on his face. Last day, I confronted him and he said it wasn’t true -with that little liar uncomfortable smirk-, that I was annoying by acting so distrustful. The same evening, when he told me something (he was honest this time) he told me I could trust him because this time he didn’t smirk from discomfort, meaning he did lie before. I again confronted him about it and he blabbered as if he didn’t remember and stumbled on his words as if confused and we got upset at each other. He’s an amazing boyfriend, well-attentioned, caring, innocent, loving and affectionate but I hate when he behaves in this insincere kind of way. Should I rationalize and work on myself or am I in the right to be continuously upset by his behavior? Thank you.

Tl;DR: boyfriend in gay relationship seems to be turned on by vaginas but won’t admit it which hinders my attempt at being more trusting.

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My gf(F21) does not want to have sex with me(M21) because of religious purposes

My gf (F21) wants to stop having sex with me(M21) because of religious reasons

My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 6 years and she and I are very close. I love her a lot and she is my best friend. That being said while I do love her on a emotional level, I also feel like sex is a large part of a relationship. In the beginning of our relationship, we had sex frequently, however that stopped when her grandparents moved into her house. For three years straight from about 2017-2020 we did not have sex. It wasn’t until later in 2020 that we began having sex again, as we started to go to hotels and doing it at my dorm, since I had just started college and had my own place. Granted, during this time she has explained that she sometimes felt guilty about having sex because she felt dirty sometimes or that she was doing something wrong. This is understandable as she grew up with semi strict parents. While we didn’t have sex often because of a couple of reasonable factors, we still found time to do it and enjoyed it a lot. I honestly felt like the sexual aspect of our relationship was staring to get better. However, in the fall of 2022 my girlfriend became increasingly religious and wanted to build a relationship with God. I really think it’s great that she’s doing that as she was really searching for something spiritually.(before becoming religious she was into spirituality and crystals and stuff like that). However, now after becoming religious she started to explain how she feels guilty that she had sex with me before marriage. While I knew this was coming, today she asked if we can stop having sex entirely until marriage. I totally respect her decision and I’m not pressuring her for sex but I’m trying to get her to understand that this a difficult change for me, especially since we recently started having sex after a 3 year hiatus. I’m kinda stuck on what to do or think.

TL;DR : Gf of six years want to suddenly stop having sex due to her new found faith.

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what can i (16f) do to get over severe jealousy and abandonment issues? im scared im going to self sabotage my relationship because of it

ok so for some background me and my girlfriend (also 16f) started dating almost 7 months ago, but weve been friends since 4th grade so we have a way closer bond and stronger connection with each other than most hs relationships

so basically i need help learning how to deal with jealously and abandonment issues, like it gets really bad sometimes

for example, she plays basketball and theres been times where ive cried (a lot) because she had to go to practice instead of hang out with me, and then ill start thinking a bunch of bad things about her teammates, like i genuinely do not like any of them at all, and this is a super dumb reasoning but in my head i feel like a lot of lesbians play basketball so the chances that someone else on the team is gay is actually kinda high, and if one of them is they might have a crush on her or try to ask her out or something, and i try to be nice whenever i talk to the other basketball girls but on the inside i cant help but hate them.

but its kinda like that whenever shes with anybody, and then also whenever im not with her my anxiety starts going crazy and ill start thinking about how she probably doesn't even like me that much and shes only dating me just to date someone, whereas with me like shes the only person i can see myself ever being with, like even marriage isnt enough i literally want to become a part of her (yes ik that sounds weird but idk how else to describe it)

and that kinda ties in to the abandonment stuff because im so terrified of not being with her, like i seriously dont know if i could live through a breakup with her. and then people will say that highschool relationships arent supposed to last and when i hear that i just completely break down, like i can already feel my hewr beating fatser and my breathing becoming more labored and my eyes are starting to tear up just from writing it down so im probably gonna get a panic attack soon now that its on my mmind and im thinking about it so much right now

but im just so scared that all my own issues are gonna end up causing problems, and i keep getting the feeling that im gonna self sabotage our relationship somehow, the worst thing i keep thinking about as far as this stuff goes is that if highschool relationships are supposed to end soon anyways, and i know that i wont be able to handle that, then i should just k myself now cause it'll be less painful than breaking up at some point in the future, and i dont actually wanna do it at all but the thought keeps popping up in my head

but yeah its like super early and my anxiety like scary bad right now so i cant rly think clearly so i forgot what else i was gonna say so hopefully this makes enough since cause i really need help

TL;DR: i get extremely jealous of everyone my girlfriend hamgs out with and im terrified of her leaving me at some point, and im scared that these issues are gonna cause problems in our relationship if i cant learn how to manage them better

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What is modern monogamy? How it's saving some long-term relationships - USA TODAY

What is modern monogamy? How it's saving some long-term relationships  USA TODAY

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I rejected the breakfast my boyfriend made me because he stayed up all night

My boyfriend (m27) and I F(28) have opposite sleep schedules. We have been living together for about 1 year and we have had ups and downs. I wake up by 9 every day. He stays up until the earliest 4am and often times until 7 or 8am playing video games and doing god knows what else. He is constantly telling me he wants to change and I always tell him yeah I support you but I can't do it for you.

Today is Sunday. Last night I wasn't feeling well and he said he would clean up the dishes from dinner since I cooked. I went to bed around midnight and woke up at 9 to go for a run to find him in the kitchen. I said "You haven't slept yet huh" and he said "No I was doing the dishes and I went to the bakery to get us pastries. I made you breakfast." I said "Well I'm going running now." and I left the house. I was immediately enraged because I knew that this meant that he will now sleep the entire day, meaning I have to creep around our house silently and that I can't go in our room comfortably if I want to get clothes or something.

But weirdly the thing making me the angriest is the breakfast he made. I could see he felt rejected but I honestly feel like he did not do that for me, he did it so he will have something to defend himself if I get mad that he stayed up all night. Also the breakfast was eggs and toast and a glass of that sugary bottled iced tea. I drink coffee in the morning, he doesn't, so I think he just doesnt know how to make coffee. I would literally NEVER drink iced tea first thing in the morning. I also haven't eaten pastries in a year because they give me acid reflux. I am certain I have told him this a million times. I just feel like he does not understand me at all.

He could have done the dishes last night and slept by 2 or 3am, and woken up even by 11am or even noon and I wouldn't be pissed. (Also I found the dishes were not completely done and I spent 20 min this morning finishing them and wiping the counter/ cleaning the floor) I am so disappointed that this is my relationship. I feel really guilty because he is sweet and really patient about my own many flaws. I love so many things about him but I really cannot continue like this. I am losing respect for him even though he is financially stable thanks to some good investments and actually makes more money than I do. He just doesn't have to wake up and go to a job every day like me. I wonder if we are just too different. I'm scared to talk when he wakes up because I don't know how to frame my concerns. Any advice welcome

TLDR: Bf stayed up all night gaming, tried to make me breakfast but it was food I don't eat. He feels rejected and I feel misunderstood and unhappy.

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GF LOVES ME BUT CANT DO LONG DISTANCE?

F23 M27.

We met eachother in summer and hang out literally every day for 2 weeks straight and went on dates etc. it started as a fling but as we both found out we fell for eachother. She was gonna move to another city and study there for 2 years. we both wanted to try long distance.

so we text/facetime everyday non stop for 24 days after she moved, she telling me how much she miss me and wish i was there, people asking her if she got a bf and she tells me she says yes.

she got covid 4-5 days before we had planned i was gonna visit her but i went anyway.

when we met after not seing eachother for 25 days the spark was still there, we had an awesome time and went on more dates, watched movies, made love, made dinner and talked about our feelings and said we love eachother many times, 1 week after i come home she facetime me crying saying she cant do it anymore because of the long distance.

She said she loves me, misses me, wishing i was there and that if it wasnt for the distance we would keep going and be together, that we are so good for eachother and that we have something real...She also said she hopes but cant promise that we find our way back together.

she comes back here in december for 3 weeks, im struggling rlly because she is rlly special and i never met someone like her and we both know we have something real, its just the distance ://

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TL;DR I (27M) should i just move on with my life or maybe meet her when she comes back in december and figure things out?

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BP CEO Bernard Looney Steps Down as Past Relationships Come ... - Bloomberg

BP CEO Bernard Looney Steps Down as Past Relationships Come ...  Bloomberg

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