My (25F) boyfriend (33M) never feels horny prior to sexual touching and apparently never has

TL;DR My boyfriend only feels horny with direct physical touch, never before. My boyfriend of two years and I have always had different sexual needs. I've always wanted more, felt like he was rarely initiating, I would get often sexually denied by him, etc. For context, I am a very conventionally attractive woman and know he is attracted to me. We have a fantastic relationship and he treats me like a princess. However, I just can't get him to have sex with me more than once a week.

When we were discussing how to change this again today, he revealed to me that he's never felt horny in his life before the act of physical stimulation itself. He says he looks at me and feels like I'm sexy, but it doesn't make him physically horny and he's never had that sensation without physical touch before in his life, even as a teenager.

This was shocking to me and worrisome because how would he initiate sex without feeling horny BEFORE the sex? I could physically touch him and initiate every single time, but his doesn't satisfy my needs as a woman in feeling sexually perused and wanted by my man. Reminder that we are very much in love and I'm blessed in the looks department so I know this isn't personal to me. This is scaring me because I'm worried I'll never be sexually satisfied. I don't want to make him feel like he's broken or inadequate, I just really hope there's a solution to this. Help!!

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(27m) my (28f) gf won't vent to anyone

Hi everyone, I'm not usually on this subreddit but I've been wondering about this for a long time and I don't know what to do about it.

My girlfriend won't really vent to anyone. First off she says she can only confide in close friends. I found out very recently she doesn't actually confide in anyone, she just says a few details or a certain situation and omitting lots of info because she doesn't want the person she's speaking to to judge her or me. Especially me, she hates the fact anyone would ever tell her that her boyfriend needs therapy or something similar.

She also hates therapy. She is convinced that she needs to fix all her issues herself (she is able to but it takes years or extreme focus for weeks), she also doesn't trust any info to strangers so having online friends, therapists and similar situations are completely alien to her.

When I told her I have online friends I confide in she was outraged telling me that not only they could use that info to do harm to us (unlikely) but also that they're gonna judge her and that online friends will never be even close to IRL friends, which I basically don't have because I don't click with many people. But online friends I do have and we are very close.

I realize it's partly her self esteem issues speaking and she probably doesn't wanna look weak in other people's eyes. I also realize it was her upbringing to make her this closed and afraid of criticism and judgement.

I have been thinking of telling her she is coming very close to how her mother is behaving, taking every burden on herself and never being able to admit anything to her family. Hence why she's in a bad relationship with her, because they can't tell each other anything meaningful. I had to come in and fix things between them at times.

So basically I'm asking: how can I explain to her venting not only feels good but it's also healthy and necessary for all relationships and it's crucial in keeping our relationship healthy as well?

TL;DR My gf doesn't vent to any friend or therapist, how do I explain to her she can't keep bottling up her feelings?

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International Men’s Day 2023: Gender and Sexual Fluidity In Relationships - News18

International Men’s Day 2023: Gender and Sexual Fluidity In Relationships  News18

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The evolving role of men in relationships - IndiaTimes

The evolving role of men in relationships  IndiaTimes

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How do I (F32) get over him (M30)

As you will see from my previous posts things where up and down between him (M30) and I (F32). We where dating for 6 months and things started going really well and I felt like this could be my person and I thought he felt the same way. I have developed feelings for him.

He introduced me to him family, parents and siblings which was lovely. He started texting me less and less and seeing me less.

A month ago he told me that he's struggling with his schedule, seeing his child, mental health and other things. He felt ge didn't want to string me along as he didn't know if things will improve for him and didn't want to hold me back from finding what I want. He said when he sorts things out and if I'm still interested then we can try again. He wanted to keep in touch and check in with each other.he told me this was not about me and he really does like me.

At first he was still texting every day but now once per week and only if I had text him first. I went on to our matches dating profile and seen his location has updated and other small details showing he's been on there and I honestly felt sick. Why doesn't he have time to spend with me when he says this is what he wanted but yet has time to meet other girls.

I know we weren't dating for long but I honestly feel heartbroken. I feel like he might be the one that got away.

How do I move on, do I tell him how I'm feeling. I don't want to push him but the thought of him moving on is horrible. The thought of me dating someone else is so off-putting.

tl/Dr we broke up because he didn't have the time to see me and struggling mental health but now he's on dating app. I can't get over him.

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My (20F) boyfriend (25M) doesn't really care that I'm sick

Maybe I'm just being sick and delirious right now, we have a very loving relationship but when I fall sick, sometimes it feels like I'm not understood. When he's been sick I've taken care of him constantly and make sure he has everything he needs, meanwhile today I woke up sick and he didn't bother to ask me if I had eaten or needed any pills. I asked him for some hot water with salt and he pawned it off to the Househelp, I'd understand if he was busy with work but he's been gaing for a while now. We've been dating for 2 years and this is a very marginal issue perhaps but I'm just irked, last time I was sick he gave me two pills and then just left me in bed to go play for hours until I fell asleep. I find that so strange, if you love someone don't you want them the most comfortable?

Tldr - my boyfriend won’t take care of me when I’m sick, is that normal?

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Balancing relationship and passions | M26 not in a relationship

Hi,

How do you balance spending time pursuing your passion and relationship? There are many things I'd like to learn but I also can't just let it devour my time if I want a healthy relationship. ( I'm not in one but I'm aware that problem would probably arise if I were in one ). You need to spend couple of hours a week if you want to get good at piano or learn a language. If you live together and have free time after work or on the weekends do you just wake up and do your own stuff or mostly spend time with your partner? How to find balance to not neglect both things?

Thanks

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tl;dr: how do you balance passion and relationship to feel fulfilled

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