My (27M) girlfriend (26F) lied about other man

We have been in a committed relationship for 6 months and went on our first date 8 months ago. In the first half of our relationship, she told me multiple times that after our first date, she stopped talking to other guys as she had strong desire to make something work with me early on. She asked to be exclusive about a month after our first date where she claimed to have not slept with anyone since we met, I believed her at the time.

Last week she brought up the fact again that she had not been with another guy since we met. She would bring this up without me prompting the topic, I guess the intention was to woo me in a way. This time when she made this statement I asked her if she really meant that and that literally absolutely nothing occurred, she paused and starting talking about how she had made plans with a guy before we met who does not live in our city to meet him while he was in town for work. The story was that she drove an hour to see him, they got dinner, kissed and she drove home, no sex. It was hard to believe for me that there was no sex so I asked her to just tell me the truth. She looked me in the eyes and sweared multiple times, there was absolutely no sex and she drove home alone that night.

This stayed on my mind because it was hard for me to believe. Yesterday I unjustifiably went through her phone to read messages from that night. Long story short, she slept at his hotel. By the date, it occurred after our second date and before we were close to being exclusive.

Even though I don’t like it, I don’t penalize her for sleeping with this guy. What keeps me from getting over this is that she lied and was convincing too. I am tempted to have a conversation with her where we first promise to tell each other the truth, even if it hurts the other. If she agrees, I will ask her about the guy she met and see if she really will tell the truth, obviously she won’t know that I am already aware she slept there. Am I playing games at this point? I would prefer to simply put this in the past as the action itself was not condemnable given the timeframe, it just hurts being lied to and it’s tough for me to trust her without truly testing her after this.

It should be stated that during our relationship, she has treated me very well and with respect. I believe she truly does love me and she has stated several times she sees us getting married, that it’s not a matter of “if” but “when”. I have little concern that she will be unfaithful, she’s a very affectionate and loyal person. I don’t want to walk away from her given everything else is great. How do I get over this?

TL:DR:: everything is great in our relationship accept that she lied about a time when we first started dating. How do I trust her to tell me the truth at times when the truth hurts?

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Is it ok to text my ex who I haven’t spoken to in years but whose girlfriend is in class with me?

So my ex (33M) and I (31F) dated for 6 years when I was 18 to 24. It was a bit of a rocky relationship although we were both very serious about it and we broke up once before our final breakup. He had issues with lying and avoiding his problems by gaming all day which eventually led to the end of our relationship where I am ashamed to say I went to seek comfort in someone else. It’s been a few years now and we both moved on to new long term partners. I’m engaged to be married this summer and he’s been together with his girlfriend for a few years too. We haven’t spoken since. I think we both felt it was more respectful to our partners and also we wanted a clean break. I do think about him occasionally because we were together for such a long time and I wonder if he managed to fix his issues and hope that he’s happy. I’m really happy in my current relationship so it’s not that I have unresolved feelings or want to rekindle anything. I just still care for the person that was in my life for so many years.

However by a crazy coincidence it just so happens that his girlfriend and I are in the same course. It’s a big class so it’s not like we have to interact. But I’m guessing she also knows who I am. It’s a bit awkward.

This has made me want to reach out to my ex to tell him about it and ask him how he’s doing at the same time. Would it be wrong? I told my fiancé about this and he’s fine with it. He said I should introduce myself to the girlfriend but I think that would be really weird. Thoughts?

TL;DR : Weird coincidence: I’m in the same course as my ex’s gf. We haven’t spoken in years, but we dated for a very long time. I’m thinking of texting him to tell him and to catch up. Would it be wrong ?

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How Long Were Jodie Turner-Smith And Joshua Jackson Married? Relationship Explored As Actress Opens Up About Divorce - PINKVILLA

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My (33) GF is hated by my family and I'm (30) in the middle of it

Me, I'm from Chinese family with quite traditional family background. My girlfriend is half Chinese, half. After dating for a year, brought her over to my family gathering and she was shun by my family. During the lunch and dinners she was quite expressive, vocal and loud. As most asians we are more on the quieter side.

My Chinese parents spoke to me, advising me to pick another girl as this girl isn't for me. They are very against her and went to the extend of telling me not to bring her home. Reason being due to her being rude.

I really do love her and I've accepted her for who she is way before dating her. I'm in the limbo now if I should lean towards my family's side (break up with her) or go on the side with my girlfriend (stay).

It's taking a huge toll on the relationship and our mental health. What would you advice?

TL;DR: My family isn't accepting towards my girlfriend and wants us to breakup. They making me choose them or the girl.

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Blake Lively confesses the 'relationship rule' she and Ryan Reynolds have followed throughout their 12-year marriage - HELLO!

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I (26M) don't know if feelings have changed with me and friend (21F) Should I talk to her about it?

I (26M) asked this girl (21F) out who is my friend through a phone call. I said "hey would you be down to hang out one on one ever?" she said yeah. then I said "like a date?" and she said "I'll have to get back to you on that" . Then later she texted me saying "i appreciate you asking me it's very sweet, but I think we should be friends hope we can keep hanging". This was months ago. Now, I feel like I'm getting signs feelings changed. She laughs at everything I say and do, she takes a lot of pictures/videos of me, she keeps touching my shoulder when I make her laugh, she teases and make fun of me a ton and then will say just kidding, she always stands or sits next to me and if I don't have anywhere to sit she'll tell me to just sit on the arm rest of her chair, she talks about being bad with guys, showed me DMS from some guy who has been asking her out since June, she looks at me a lot and smiles when I'm around, and we both have clinical together in nursing school and one day during clinical she kept having me follow her everywhere delivering food when she could easily do it herself, Also, whenever a girl responds to me she'll be like "oh she's so into you", and I just get the feeling that her feelings changed and my feelings for her only grew and don't know If I should bring it up again or leave it since I already asked months ago.

TLDR - Asked girl out who is my friend and got told we should be friends but I'm getting the feeling that her feelings changed.

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Me 25M and my 28F Fience. How to take care of the baby when both parents work? [UK]

Hello everyone,

Overall our relationship is quite healthy in our opinion. We didn't had a single fight for nearly 2 years since we started dating/living together. We do communicate we just don't get angry with each other.

She is really too optimistic(that she thinks there will not be much issue with sorting out time for the baby and she will be able to get a job from home after the birth) and I'm totally opposite

The issue is my Fience is working in a factory so she needs to be in office all the time and her PhD will not count as she done it for her mum and don't want to do anything relating to it.

All that means she really don't have work experience so I'm quite nervous about her having chances of getting remote job as well as the fact that she stutter quite a lot that i personally don't mind but i know how jobs works and they wouldn't really want like custumer service having issue speaking with cosutmers. She knows English perfectly but her stutter kind a underline it.(Maybe I'm wrong about how jobs operate due to my pessimistic way of thinking)

I'm perfectly fine with her decision about not wanting to have job in the carried that her mum has chosen for her and overall i don't mind what job she does as long as she is happy about it but sadly full time in office will not work for rasing baby in our situation.

I currently work remotely as IT support but i will need to change my job in couple months due to agency contract.

I do try my best to find another full remote work but doesn't seems to be able to find anything. Meaning that i will have to be in office like 2/3 times a week.

My mum is working full time as well so she will not be able to help us really with taking care of the baby and my fience mum is not living in the country nor speak the language.

That said our families cant help us with this. After the age of 5 of the baby it will be easier as she will be able to even work part times and drop off/pick up kid from schools. The issue is before that age on how to deal with it.

She earns minimum wage and i earn slightly more. I don't earn enough for her to just leave her job so that option is out of the question. I do trying to quit smoking as i do spend nearly 1/3 of income on it that is insane and i know.

Only one thing is that she told me lately that she still have her own house in her country as due her father inheritance(He passed away when she was little) her mum bought 2 houses for herself and daughter(my finece). My Fience is trying to sell her house now so i can get a bit more mortgage and buy house in the country we live in (UK). She would get around £100,000 for that house. If we buy a house we will want to buy a bigger one to don't have to move in a future so i was planing to get like 50,000 mortgage that with our current earnings it would be no issue paying it off but now I'm thinking maybe it would be better to hold that money for the time she will not be able to work?

TL;DR; : Fience work in factory and i will have hybrid job. How to take care of the new born baby utill age of 5 when family cant help.

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I would really appreciate any advises!

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