BPD gf breaking up with me

Hey all my gf 27F of 3 years is breaking up with me 28M so suddenly. It’s been a little rough over the past few weeks. Due to arguments and us needing some space from each other. The worst thing we’ve ever been through together has been some long distance at the beginning, and a miscarriage. But a few days ago, she texted me saying she didn’t want to talk that day, so I left her be. The next morning she texted me saying that she was done with me, and she was tired of waiting for us to heal. Of course, I begged and pleaded. And told her I would do whatever I needed to do for her to be happy and stay with me.

I showed up at her place uninvited and it was kind of sorted out, she also didn’t want to be physical, which is very very out of character for her. The next day, she flipped again and told me the same thing, that she was done. And she had felt neglected, which being the strong lover that I am, I can’t imagine was true. But I validated her anyway. Especially being that her ex bf verbally and physically abused her, which I have never ever come to do or considered doing. Shes saying there’s nothing that I can do/say to keep her. I’m just blind sided by this, and she swears there’s nobody else. She’s been unrecognizable, and cold, and treating me like I’ve meant absolutely nothing… she won’t answer my questions, I don’t get it. She’ll tell me to leave her alone but she won’t tell me if she wants me to leave her alone for good. I also said that if there is someone else, then she can tell me, and I’ll back off immediately. But she won’t say that either. I’m not sure how to move forward. Will she be back?I’m usually better than this when it comes to moving on from people. But this one cuts deep. Thoughts?

TL;DR: gf with BPD suddenly doesn’t want to be with me. Being extremely harsh and cold. She’s cut all communications and barred me from everything, despite everything we’ve been through I can’t sleep. I’m not sure how to move forward.

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Boyfriend (21M) took my (20F) out of his bio after a fight

i understand how this may sound like a very juvenile thing for my age, but i am curious to hear opinions on this.

about 4 days ago my boyfriend and i had a very explosive fight. this was because of something i did, and i will say it was a big mistake on my behalf. not cheating or anything, but definitely a bad bad move. in this fight he told me that we were broken up, he was done with me and he’ll move on. a few days passed and he asked me to come over. we spoke more and he admitted he doesn’t want to break up but he was extremely hurt.

now, 4 days later, i can see he has removed my name from bio - which he did AFTER claiming he doesn’t want to break up with me.

there was an incident in the past where he messaged another girl, and i’m very concerned this has happened again. i don't see any other reason for removing people from your bio other then wanting to be appear available. especially if he was unsure on the breakup to begin with.

i don’t know if i should bring this up, because we are still on shaky territory, and i don't want to do anything that will push him away.

but, admittedly, this has brought up some extreme insecurities in me and i am almost desperate to know the answer/ask him to put my name back in there so he doesnt cheat again.

what should i do?

TL;DR; my boyfriend removed my name from his bio after an argument. days have passed and we have made up. hes been unfaithful before and im concerned its happened again. do i ask him about this?

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My (34f) bf (35m) doesn't want me to attend his sister's family birthday

Hello! First of all, sorry if there's any mistake. English is not my first language.

So, today is the birthday of the sister of my bf. On saturday she's celebrating with friends and she invited me. I am going.

Today, my (34F) bf (35M) of 6 years told me she also wants to have dinner with their family, since today is the day. And we asked me if It's ok IG he attends alone with our daughter (5 month old).

I asked if this is something her sister told him or if this is something he thought by himself. He told me he thought about it because we are not having the best time together (mainly because of the baby) and I am rather sad this days (I tend to be alonse when I am sad).

I felt super bad with this. I tried to tell me how ugly and cruel it sounds to me and that I feel excluded (I think is worth mentioning that they are a very united family and even tough they treat me well and they are nice to me, I never felt part of their family). He insist there's been a lot of time since they are alone together and that I Should understand that and not feel excluded.

So, I guess I am asking a bunch of people online. Am I wrong?

Thanks!

TL;DR my bf wants to attend alone with our daughter tonight to have dinner with his family for his sister's birthday. I feel excluded. He says It's not a big deal.

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Make it make sense

make it make sense

I’m 21F, hes 20 M

so I very shortly dated this guy and I genuinely don’t understand what his deal is. To make it short, he love bombed me like crazy , lost feelings all of a sudden , then kept breaking no contact, blatantly told me wanted to keep me around, but when I told him how I felt he called me psychotic LOL. He called me a few days after this “psychotic” incident talking as if nothing happened, I was kind but didn’t give much in. So in my head I think, okay we’re on good terms ,whatever, move on. I have not contacted this man once after expressing how I felt but now he’s out here weeks after the phone call reposting shady stuff on tik tok. So what’s his deal? I’ve left him completely alone, no contact at all, removed him off everything a while ago, I used to reach out here and there but definitely not after the “psychotic” incident. I’m aware he’s a clear narcissist who literally does nothing but sits at home all day on tik tok. I just wanna understand what in the worlds going on in his head.

TL;DR- got love bombed, went no contact and he won’t stop with the shady reposts online.

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My Girlfriend (F22) needs to share a hotel room with her guy best friend (M23) and I don't know what to do about it.

My (M21) girlfriend (F22) is going to Greenday in London soon. Thing is she is going with her guy bestfriend (M23) and to save money they have booked a hotel room with 1 bed . They have been friends for 8 years and apparently have done things like this before without anything happening. Thing is there is an option to get a room with 2 beds that's £10 more expensive. But they're refusing to book that room as "they're both struggling for money". I don't know how to feel about this. I already looked past guy friends as a red flag but this is ridiculous right? I don't feel comfortable with my girlfriend sleeping in the same bed or same room as another guy who's not me. She also knows how I feel about this, so what do I do?

TLDR: My girlfriend and her best friend are going to sleep in the same room and I don't feel comfortable with that.

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my (22F) bf (27M) lied to me but I knew the truth and I feel overwhelmed of the way he tried to gaslight me.

I’m with my bf for 4 years, going into 5 this July. There’s one thing that makes me sick and I can’t forgive easily, and that’s lying. He knows that from the moment we met, I can’t stand lies and I always want the truth even if it’s bad news.

Throughout this years there have been 3 to 4 events where I knew the truth about something, I tried asking him about it and giving him the chance to explain himself to me, but he just straight up lied to me. It was really intense because the first two times I couldn’t give him evidence that I know how things happened so he just continued with a lie. He managed to confess a day after, or even some times months later in a random conversation where we both were “fine” so he felt comfortable saying he was lying back then and that I was right about the events.

He has just started at a new job, where he is the only guy there among other 2 guys and a lot of girls. I had a work opportunity outside our country so at the moment and for 4 months I’m going to be abroad so it’s been even more difficult for us. I catch myself getting insecure sometimes when a woman I don’t know is involved, but I try to soothe myself because I do know he loves me and that I’m being unreasonable with those thoughts. For the whole month that I’m away, we always speak on the phone and two hours pass by with him rambling about work and always defending one specific girl at work. Yesterday, while he was at work, I texted him and he didn’t reply but was active on instagram. I don’t check that in any way and I don’t care, but it happened to show his profile to a friend I met here so I saw he was online and thought “he’s here but doesn’t reply to me” and thought about making fun of it because I do like teasing him. When I was at his profile, the following went up when I refreshed it, and I found out that it was the girl he’s been so much mentioning from work. I’ve already sent him a teasing message, and he replied that he wasn’t on instagram. Then, the story changed to “her sister called him on insta”. That’s a straight up lie because he never speaks on insta with his sister. He sent me screenshot of the “call”, which was made at 17:28 from his part and ended the same time from his part again. But I’ve asked why he doesn’t reply to me at 17:10, where supposedly he was speaking on the phone with his sister. I knew he was on insta to accept the request from this girl from work, so I just wanted him to tell me the truth, it’s not even a big deal. But the way he lied to me and made up stories rather than just saying that made me feel sick. I might overreacting but I physically can’t stand lies, I wouldn’t lie to anyone let alone the person I love. He was keeping up with the lies until the end of the day, even though I have him a lot of chances for him to just say the truth. At midnight, on the phone, he finally said that he was on instagram because this girl sent him a request but that happened during the end of his shift, around 20:00. He was still lying to my face so I just said to him what happened and how I knew the story and knew he was lying the whole time about something so so minor. He finally confessed that all the stories he told me was a lie, and he justify it that he “wasn’t thinking and was an immediate move to lie to me because he kinda felt guilty about it”.

I know it’s a minor issue at the moment of the way it happened, but it has happened before with much bigger problems, I’ve always told him that I can’t respect someone who lies to my face and is fine about it, but I just can’t help myself to think of how he was okay lying, and how many other “lies” I might have believed only because I didn’t know the truth or didn’t have the ways to prove my gut feeling. He says he won’t ever lie to me again and that he don’t want to lose me. I love him and I also don’t want to lose him but I do feel overwhelmed and can’t stop thinking about how he lied straight up and even got offensive when I tried to tell him the truth.

TL/DR: my (22F) bf (27M) lied to me but I knew the truth and I feel overwhelmed of the way he tried to gaslight me.

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