Has anybody ever wondered if there partner might be too good for them?

Hi, I, a 60 ish year old male, once fell in love with a 57 year old lady. I possibley made the relationship difficult for both of us by being insecure about my own value and sense of self worth. I get compliments all the time and am regarded very highly by other people.

She was a fantastic person although anyone who knows her would say she is reserved. Make that very reserved. So although she was very affectionate, she would never verbalise it.

In any case, I used to wonder about this issue and I wondered how anyone else might have dealt with it?

tdlr Has anyone wondered about there parner being too good for them and how did you handle it?

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What should I (F18) do about this situation with my boyfriend (M19)?

So pretty much we have been dating for around 5 months. We made a lot of promises to each other and promised that we’d stick together no matter what and eventually get married. But recently from about 3 months ago, I have been feeling a little distant from him. The passion in our relationship has just died down. In the nicest way possible, it feels like we’re an old married couple now. I’m a person that wants to embrace my youth and make everyday worth it, since we’ll be older soon. We’re both in the same high school, so I dont really know what to do. Im starting to love him as a friend more than a boyfriend, because the romance in the relationship has just died down and I really cant find the romantic type of love in my heart for him. It sucks, and I do love and care for him since he’s a great person, but I’m just starting to see and love him more as a friend. I dont wanna break his heart. He’s really dependent on me and doesn’t have many friends. He said it himself, and I hate that feeling. I don’t want anyone to be dependent on me, it just ends up feeling like a burden. I’m not saying he’s a burden at all, but lately I’ve been feeling like my energy is drained from all this and I just cant find my inner happiness anymore, especially in this relationship. It also just feels like he’s putting less effort in to impress me, and I like it when a guy tries hard to impress you and win your heart. For example, I get up early every single morning to get dressed to look pretty so I can impress him. I mean it’s a good thing thats he’s comfortable with me now, but like i said before, it just feels like we’ve ended up in the ‘old married couple’ routine, if you know what i mean. We also have very different interests and a regular conversation between us is often very awkward and unnatural, other people have noticed this too. Overall were two extremely different people. I know they say opposites attract, but I think there should be atleast some things in common. I often do try to make conversation with him, but I dont know why but he usually doesnt respond much in real life. Over text its fine, but I think he’s just a little awkward in real life, and thats okay because im also a pretty awkward person. But, I just want to be with someone that I can be myself around and that has the same humour as me, is that too much to ask for? He’s a really great person but Im just starting to feel that were two very different people. Also, we had gotten in a fight once because he said that I didnt spend the day with him since I chose to spend it with my girl friends in school. Since this argument, Ive just been feeling as if it is my responsibility to make sure that he is happy all the time and never alone, and im sorry to say this but it stresses me out and negatively affects my mental health too.

I feel like a bad person saying this, but I really dont know what to do and after asking my friends for advice, they have said that the best option would be to break up with him, since i dont really see him in a romantic way anymore. I love him as a friend and i think he is a great person, but just not the person for me. Even if I do break up with him, ill make sure i stay his friend because he needs support in his life and his social circle is very small, and like I have said before, he is quite dependent on me. But the thing is, I dont want to break up with him even though we’ve kind of grown apart because of all the promises I made to him before. I promised that we would stick together and solve any issues we had without breaking up, and thats completely fine but what do you do when the person has a completely different vibe, energy and personality from you? I just find it hard to relate to him and I’m sorry but i really cant imagine a future with him. I think he deserves a great girl that is more like him and has the same humour as him, which is probably not me.

So, what should I do? Should I tell him the truth or should I just suck it up and not overcomplicate things?

TL;DR so basically should i speak to him about it and should we move to being just friends again or should i just not overcomplicate things and stay in the relationship how it is and eventually get married?

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Should I Let My Boyfriend's Dad Pay for My Flight on Their Family Vacation?"

Hey guys

So, I'm 18 (F) and I've been with my boyfriend, who's also 18, for nearly 9 months now. I'm at his dad’s house a lot, stay over often, and I've gotten pretty familiar with his family.

His dad invited me to join them on a 10 day family holiday in July overseas, and I’m planning to go. However I'm kinda stuck on what to do about the money situation. My boyfriend’s dad is pretty wealthy and really generous, and has stated he can and will pay for my flight as well as anything else.

The thing is, I don’t feel totally comfortable not contributing anything. For reference, a round flight for this trip could be anywhere between $500-1000AUD. My parents agreed that I should pay, and even offered to split the cost with me.

Is it rude to turn down their offer to pay for me? Or should I just let it go and let them pay?

Any advice on what to do? Thanks!

TL;DR: Have been invited on family trip and boyfriends dad wants to pay, however I don’t feel entirely comfortable with letting that happen and want to pay for it myself. Not sure what to do.

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How do I start from scratch?

Could be a long winded post. Sorry in advance.

I'm a 26yo man who over time has lost essentially all connections with past friends and family. Before I say I don't have anyone; I have one close interpersonal relationship with my GF who I cherish. We have lived together for the past 8 years. My concern is that I'm becoming emotionally overdependent on her because I simply have no-one else. I get on well with her family but the connection is not quite the same as having your own parents/ siblings etc. and I wouldn't say that I am particularly close with them. Although I love her and don't have a reason to think something would split us up, I am conscious of the fact that "life can happen" and things can be unpredictable. This was a sobering thought as I realised that if anything did happen, I would be utterly alone. I would have no-one to pick me up if I had to go to hospital, no one to help if I was sick, no one to call if I was having a bad day. The list goes on and it's scary. Moreover, one person cannot be absolutely everything and I don't want to place any burden on her she shouldn't have to shoulder. It is something I have become acutely aware of lately.

You might ask how did I get here? The primary reason is that I, along with my siblings were raised in a highly abusive household. As soon as we got old enough, we got the heck out of dodge. This is the short version of course and have only in the last few years gone n/c with my father as finally became too destructive (as much as I really didn't want to). I have some very infrequent contact with some siblings but for the most part we have scattered to the four winds. I think for some of us, seeing each other again reminds us of the past and would rather move on. As for extended family, they were never really interested or didn't want to get involved so buried their heads in the sand. Adversely, I had many friendships throughout high school and university. However, I lost them all due to constantly moving chasing work in distant cities with my GF. I had kind of a "run away" complex and maintaining friendships with people I grew up got harder to maintain from the other side of the state. Some close friendships I regret that I was also responsible for jeopardising.

Since then, I've been trying to network more with people and create friendships but wow it is difficult. I've tried local clubs, trivia nights at the local but people seem to already have a core set of friends or are simply on different wavelengths. I have tried meetups, friendship apps but they are a minefield of volatile personalities or have nothing in common. I have managed to make a casual friend but we are not close and I'd consider him closer to a drinking buddy than a good friend.

Has anyone been in this spot that could give me some advice? How do I become independent and gain grounding in creating a circle of supportive relationships that aren't just my GF?

tl;dr: My question is how do I create a network of supportive relationships from almost nothing?

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My (19F) boyfriend (20M) recently became close friends with a person I used to be close to (19F) but now dislike due to roommate disputes and miscommunications. It has been affecting me ever since.

I (19F) recently fought with a close friend (19F) a few months ago after being roommates with her for nearly a year in college, Quezon City. We weren’t good roommates to each other but she left me to deal with the problems with the unit when she moved out earlier than the lease. My boyfriend (20M) of nearly two years went on a trip with her and a couple of other people right before the falling out with the roommate.

They’ve become super close and formed a friend group ever since, literally hanging out three times a week (apparently from what he told me) and see each other all the time because they’re all from the same course. It has been eating away slowly ever since and ive only been able to point it out now on why I was uncomfortable with it, which is that he would hide it from me just so to spare my feelings, knowing what happened between the both of us. They dont talk abt me, which i appreciate, but it has been killing me inside because 1) I was still being messed up over by her even after she left (forgetting to pay bills and stuff), 2) it has been a cause of misunderstandings between us due to the lack of communication from her end when she needs to go to the unit or not, and 3) my boyfriend not sharing this part of himself, making me feel insecure in the process.

Ive already brought it up with him earlier, but I dont want to make him choose between me and his friends. I understand that its something he needs to have. But it has just eating away at me since April because theyve been a big part of his life ever since, while I’ve slowly realized that while they are good people, they’re not good friends for me. And there are still leftover feelings from the roomie fight that i still harbor resentment for because it genuinely felt like she got to walk away freely while i got the short end of the stick towards the end of the friendship, which i had to feel until now. I dont want to mess up what we have but I genuinely dont know how to cope.

How can I navigate this situation without hurting my boyfriend and his relationships, while also with my feelings considered?

TLDR: had a falling out with my ex roommate/close friend and now my boyfriend has a friend group. Dont know how to cope without affecting him and my feelings.

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