I am korean(24M) and my girlfriend(21F) is Ukrainian Having a problem about where to live in the future what should i do?

Hello, I am a South Korean male, and my girlfriend is Ukrainian. We met at a language school in Japan, and my girlfriend is currently unable to return to Ukraine. My visa is expiring in January next year, and I have to return to South Korea, which inevitably means we will be separated. However, I love my girlfriend very much. She is my first and special girlfriend who makes me happy. Due to her difficulty in adapting to life in Asia, she will be going to the United States next year. I am aware of how challenging it can be to obtain a visa in the United States, so I applied for the Canadian Working Holiday Program (4 years) to find a compromise with my girlfriend. However, it appears that Canada has suspended visa issuance for Ukrainians, (my girlfriend has consulted with the authorities) and I am completely unsure of what to do. We are both in our early twenties(24M 21F) and not financially well-off. It will take at least a year or more for me to graduate from college to go to the United States, which my girlfriend doesn't want. She doesn't want to be apart for a year. I am getting more and more scared. How should I handle this situation?

I actually keep asked to her live with me in Korea

but she definatealy doesn't want to stay in asian country

ps . I used Chat gpt for this. Please understand my bad english.. XD

TLDR: Idk where to go and what to do. please help

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I (24F) recently found out my bf (36M) frequently paid for sex in the past before meeting me. I don't know how to feel about it and have a hard time moving forward from this. Any advice on how to tackle this and what type of conversation we need to be having?

I'm not overreacting in the sense of freaking out and I won't break up due to this but I find it gross to say the least. It was something we had previously discussed and he denied having done things like that. I forgive him for it because he's very open about everything now and I understand why he initially denied it. I'm a virgin and I will remain one till marriage and I've accepted his history of having slept with many women.

This, however, is making me feel very icky. I have trouble just accepting it somehow. My bf is quite avoidant as well so talking to him about it is difficult. At the same time i'm not sure what I would even need to be talking about. After all, i'm the one who is having trouble with this.. so how do I accept it and move forward?

TLDR: I (24F) recently found out my bf (36M) frequently paid for sex in the past before meeting me. How do I move forward from this?

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My 22F boyfriend 23M had sex with me non consensually

Hello everyone,

My original post got taken down due to the edit I added so I attached it here! The link in the comments is to the post and it has some comments that are relevant to the situation if you’re interested or you can find the original post from my profile. I’m reposting this because the advice I got so far has really been helpful in navigating this situation and I’ll share some of the comments with my boyfriend which will help us navigate the situation.

ORIGINAL POST: Hi everyone I’m looking for some advice. My boyfriend and I had something traumatic happen and I’m unsure what to make of it. We’re both in our early 20s, I’m 22 he’s 23, and are high school sweethearts (we’ve been together for 5 years).

The other night we were hanging out, we grabbed food and talked. We began to fool around and I told him I didn’t want to “do it” that night but was okay to keep doing other things. Normally when this happens we either stop before we reach that point of doing “it” or I change my mind because I feel into it, but he always makes sure it’s what I want before it happens. I think as the foreplay continues I become more receptive and turned on which is why I change my mind.

During this instance I did say I wanted to in between during foreplay and when he asked if I was sure I said no and this happened a couple of times (yes I went back and forth during our foreplay which was an hour long). After a few times of this happening the next time it did he told me to grab protection and I said “I don’t want to”, I’m not sure if he thought I meant I don’t want to use protection or if he understood that I didn’t want to “do it”. He ended up doing it anyways and I fell into a state of shock and completely froze. His face was in my shoulder so he didn’t see my face. I didn’t say anything except “whats going on”, I’m not sure if he heard me say it because I didn’t get a response. The actual act was pretty quick( probably under a minute) and when he got up he saw my face and realized I looked upset and hurt and began to ask if I was okay and I told him I didn’t want to do that. He immediately apologized and looked genuinely horrified over it. I think I was still in shock so I just asked to go home, he told me he wanted me to stay but would take me home.

It’s been a few days and he’s apologized more times than I can count and brought my favorite foods and flowers to apologize. I asked him to not touch me since I still haven’t fully processed what happened and he respected my boundaries completely.

He genuinely seems remorseful and wants to make things work but I don’t know how to process this. I’m looking for advice on how to proceed from here. Is this something we can get over?

Other than this our relationship and sex life is great. We were both virgins when we met and lost our virginity to each other and have only ever been with each other. We’re very serious about our relationship and are talking about marriage soon. We’re also very integrated with each others family.

EDIT: after reading a lot of comments and thinking about our sexual encounters it may be more of a kink for me to tease him and almost edge him and then he gets to dominate. It’s both of our first times being sexual with a partner so I’ve never realized it’s a kink and I doubt he did either. Some of the things I’ve decided to discuss with him are safe words and talking out how this was a miscommunication. I’ll keep replying to comments as I can!

TLDR: my boyfriend had sex with me non consensually and I’m unsure how to proceed

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Is it wrong of me (22f) to ask him (22m) for a casual relationship?

Bf and I have been together for about eight months but things got serious fast. I've recently realized I need some time to figure out some sexual trauma & identity related stuff on my end.

I tried to break up with him yesterday but I made him cry so much; he asked me why we couldn't fix things together so I told him we could stay together and try to fix things.

Yesterday it felt right but this morning I feel like I've made a huge mistake. I know when I'm very depressed as I am I can't sustain a relationship well.

We're going to talk again and today I want to ask him to have a more casual relationship. He keeps saying that even if we broke up he can't see himself with anyone else. I don't know why but this feels like such immense pressure on my shoulders to figure my shit out and be a good partner. But I want time to grow and heal as a person. I am starting to worry this is a right person wrong time situation. But I don't want him completely out of my life because I love him. And he was upset at the idea of me kicking him to the curb.

Is asking to see each other casually and stepping the relationship back cruel? Should I just try for a clean break in our conversation today? I really don't want to do this but I'm not the kind of person to jerk another person around to wait for me to figure my shit.

TL;DR: I want to break up with my boyfriend but I want us to remain casual or at least friends. I'm worried that this is going to be too painful for the both of us, though.

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Is my gut friend(29M) try to flirting with me(31F)

i once asked one of my guy friend, "what kind of man do you think ill end up married to?" and this guy friend answered me, "a guy like me" i swear my heart was about to burst at that time. i need to know if am i over reacting or is it just a casual jokes? another situation is he was very mindful of what i told him.

i once told him he looks good without wearing a cap, and since then he doesnt wear a cap anymore. when i told him, " can you just and go fix your hair please? i dont like it" he goes to the bathroom and fixing his hair and said its because of me that he fix his hair.im quiet shocked that my words was matter to him because im sure he could just ignore it.

help me,i need opinion to clear my head. TL;DR!

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