Tired of hot and cold behavior from co-worker. What do I do next?

I met someone on a speed dating event about 6 months ago and we got along great. Unfortunately because they had to leave for work we didn’t see each other for a few months but when we did it was really nice. Coincidentally they were moving to my town and my office also. After we met I asked how things were and if he wants things to be friendly and where he stood. He said ok and we can keep things friendly but keep hanging out and take it from there and see how we feel. Since then we’ve met a few times. He’s extremely flirty in person but sometimes has cancelled plans last minute. Sometimes he’s hot and cold - if i dont message he’ll message a lot but if I do he won’t message as eagerly sometimes. At this point I do want to date and explore things but I’m not sure how to go about initiating that conversation. How do I discuss this with him?

TL;DR: 30F 30M a person I dated is now working at my office. We said we’ll see how things go but I’m developing feelings. What should i do?

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help:(

i (f27) met my fiance (m39) almost two years ago. we hit it off immediately and had an amazing connection and to this day, we have a few differences, but are mostly the same person. ive never felt so loved and close and intimate with anyone else. i love him more than anything.

we lived in different cities however and a year ago he asked me to move in with him. i was very unsure as i hate his city, though he has a lovely house and farm, and i absolutely loved the city i was in. all my friends are there, and its a bit bigger so more events happening etc. i also had a very good job there.

anyway i didnt want to lose him so i moved, but a year later now ive realised how miserable i am living there, i still havent made friends, and i have a shitty job bc its hard to find something here.

he is the love of my life, but i cannot live here and i dont know what to do.

if i stay, i will have him. if i go i will be in my favourite city, have my friends, more job opportunities.

but also if i stay i have to live in this poo hole, where i dont feel comfortable and at home. if i go i have to work full time and support myself alone (im mentally ill and my capability to work is greatly hindeded by it, and i fear managing on my own).

tldr; should i choose the love of my life and live an uncomfortable life, or my friends, favourite city, freedom and comfort?

any words of wisdom? 😭🙏

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Academia relationships

I've been following some threads on reddit regarding couples in academia, with one or both parties being post docs who constantly have to travel internationally between positions (especially in science fields but I've seen it in other fields as well).

I'm in one such relationship myself so I really would like to hear from people who are in the same boat. Like how do you manage the uncertainty this career path brings, like potential prolonged periods of LD and no clear future time or place to settle?

Is it very difficult to stay in one place as a post doc if your goal is to stay in academia? And is becoming tenured really the only option for stability? What does the road look like for such a relationship if the struggle for tenure means enduring uncertainty sometimes lasting into 10+ years?

To give some background, my (29F) bf (33M) is a post doc in nuclear physics, I'm a high school science teacher. Together 5 years, LDR for 4. Each research post takes him to a different place internationally and we dunno how long it will remain this way. We have discussed him entering industry and leaving academia, but he finds that idea saddening... He really has a "pure scientist's spirit" if that makes sense, I admire him for it. And I will never ask him to abandon his dreams, I love the nature of his job too. He similarly supports my career as a teacher and encourages me to go for further education on that even though that means I have to stay put for a few more years.

TL;DR I'm here asking for some insight into academia relationships. Like how to consolidate between the need for stability in relationships and the uncertainties that often come with post doc positions, like moving around internationally while trying to get tenured. Long distance etc. What does that road look like for you and your SO?

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Guy I'm seeing says he likes me but doesn't want to continue dating I don't know how to deal with it or how to feel about his reasons why

I (F25) have been dating this guy (M28) for over 3 months now. I’ve had a crush on him for a long time and we’ve been friends for almost 7 years before this. Recently we told eachother that we’re both falling in love with eachother. But he doesn’t want to continue dating because of (mental) health problems. He is chronically ill and spends a lot of time in the hospital, and often has to undergo surgeries and other treatments. I know that I don’t care and that I want to be there for him, he recently had surgery and I supported him through all of it and he told me how grateful he was for it and I felt very connected to him through all of it. But I feel like he’s trying to create some distance between us.

We both have feelings for eachother but he says we should distance ourselves from eachother because he doesn’t want to continue dating. He says that he has too much problems and doesn’t want to put them on me. I think it’s a stupid reason because I know I can handle it to be there for him and I don’t think this should be a reason to not date. His past relationship of 4 years failed because of this, when he was in a really bad state his ex-girlfriend cheated on him and got pregnant which was traumatic for him. So I can understand that he’s scared to get hurt. I don’t want to push him either. So I don’t know what to do now but I just don’t know how to accept the fact the we both like eachother and to just throw away the amazing connection that we have.

My friends say that I should give him space and that he will change his mind but I am scared to get hurt as well and I don’t want to continue waiting for someone who isn’t ready or too scared for anything. I just feel so bad to be in this situation.

Tl;dr: guy I'm dating likes me but doesn't want to continue dating because of personal problems. I don't know how to feel about it or how to deal with it

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I am korean(24M) and my girlfriend(21F) is Ukrainian Having a problem about where to live in the future what should i do?

Hello, I am a South Korean male, and my girlfriend is Ukrainian. We met at a language school in Japan, and my girlfriend is currently unable to return to Ukraine. My visa is expiring in January next year, and I have to return to South Korea, which inevitably means we will be separated. However, I love my girlfriend very much. She is my first and special girlfriend who makes me happy. Due to her difficulty in adapting to life in Asia, she will be going to the United States next year. I am aware of how challenging it can be to obtain a visa in the United States, so I applied for the Canadian Working Holiday Program (4 years) to find a compromise with my girlfriend. However, it appears that Canada has suspended visa issuance for Ukrainians, (my girlfriend has consulted with the authorities) and I am completely unsure of what to do. We are both in our early twenties(24M 21F) and not financially well-off. It will take at least a year or more for me to graduate from college to go to the United States, which my girlfriend doesn't want. She doesn't want to be apart for a year. I am getting more and more scared. How should I handle this situation?

I actually keep asked to her live with me in Korea

but she definatealy doesn't want to stay in asian country

ps . I used Chat gpt for this. Please understand my bad english.. XD

TLDR: Idk where to go and what to do. please help

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