I M18 DONT WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH MY GF F19, COZ OF INSTABILITY IN RELATIONSHIP

Hey, fellow Redditors, I'm in need of some advice regarding a situation in my relationship, and I hope you can offer some insights. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year, and lately, we've been facing some challenges that lead to frequent arguments and temporary breakups. One of the significant issues revolves around the topic of intimacy.

To provide some context, my girlfriend has expressed her desire to take our relationship to the next level, specifically in the form of a physical connection. However, I've been hesitant, emphasizing the importance of stability in our relationship before taking such a step. My intention was to ensure that we establish a strong foundation, minimizing the chances of regret or complications down the road.

During a recent conversation, I conveyed that I wanted us to overcome our tendency to engage in unnecessary arguments and breakups before introducing the element of physical intimacy. I expressed concern about the possibility of either of us regretting our choices, especially after witnessing my girlfriend grappling with feelings of regret regarding her first kiss with a past toxic ex. Somewhere deep down I am scared of sex, I don't know why. it scares me. i just need time to accept my body and come over that fear

Unfortunately, it seems my words were misunderstood, and she perceived me as a coward and a potentially regretful partner. This misinterpretation led to an emotional breakup, and now I'm left trying to clarify my perspective.

I want to make things right and ensure she understands that my intentions were rooted in a desire for a stable and emotionally secure relationship. Any advice on how to effectively communicate this to her would be greatly appreciated.

TL;DR: I MALE 18 DON'T WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH MY GF FEMALE 19, COZ OF THE INSTABILITY IN OUR RELATIONSHIP, AND FEAR OF SEX THAT I HAVE COZ OF THE INSECURITIES ABT MY BODY

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Boyfriend never picks up my phone calls no matter when I call

Doesn’t matter what time of the day, he never picks it up.

I’ve (29F) voiced to him (28M) many times that it annoys how he never picks it up and he says his phone doesn’t vibrate and he only sees it if he has his phone on his hand. However, he has literally ignored my phone calls even when on his phone. Sometimes he’ll call back sometimes he completely ignores it and texts hours later as if nothing happened.

And it’s not like I call him multiple times, I just call once a day to say goodnight or once every two days. Or if we need to solve something quick and I call rather than text.

He calls me sometimes too and I may have missed one or two phone calls and that’s it.

I’m not concerned about cheating, rather more about how he’s dismissive about it. I’ve asked him if he doesn’t like it when I call or if I should and he said he does like it, but if he picks it up 1/10 times I’m lucky.

He can change his phone to vibrate yet he chooses not to.

I’ve tried searching similar situations here but only happens when the partner is upset or if it’s abusive, in my case, we can be blissfully having the time of our lives and he’ll still not pick it up on the day I call 💀

Is this something worth discussing about? I feel silly as it’s just a phone call but at the same time I feel as if I’m repeating myself to a wall and he doesn’t seem to care that it bothers me. Apart from that the relationship is great, but I feel like I’m an annoyance, when in reality calling your loved one is a normal thing, with him I feel like I’m a weirdo or something.

TLDR: boyfriend never picks up phone calls

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Please kindly tell me that my guy friend, who is taken, is just trying to be a good friend.

I [25F] came to develop feelings for one of my guy friends who is in a happy relationship with his girlfriend of over 4 years. I know it's bad and so I always try to keep some distance, but because he is such a nice guy it's hard for me to get over my feelings.

I hate crushing on someone taken, but I have been overthinking a recent interaction lately and need some objective third parties to tell me that he just sees me as good friend. Nothing more.

For context we aren't best friends or anything, but he is one of my closer guy friends and I can say we both always enjoy each other's company. He is very friendly towards me and likes to talk to me about our shared hobby and usually he is the one reaching out to me over something through text. I try to avoid reaching out to him since it would feel inappropriate as I have feelings and I don't want to be inconsiderate towards his girlfriend. For some reason, it feels like he understands how I'm feeling and appreciates me for who I am and that has unfortunately been making it harder for me to get over him.

Recently, my group of friends (my guy friend was in there too) and I had been in an online call together, I was a little quieter than usual as I had been feeling down due to a few of the people the past few days (not him though). After I hopped off the call, I was shocked to see he sent me a really considerate text saying how he wanted to apologize in case I was feeling down, but that he might be overthinking it since he was a little drunk (a few of them had gone out earlier that night). I was honestly really surprised as he'd never been considerate like that to me before and I hadn't told anyone I was feeling down or what the reason was. I was surprisedthe noticed something was off, along with the fact that he somehow knew the reason and cared enough to text me still slightly drunk. I cried pretty hard after reading his text as it had genuinely touched me and all the sadness and resentment I hadn't realized I was holding in the past few days came pouring out. Needless to say, it was now another reason why I was struggling to get over my feelings. But I know it can't happen, so I would appreciate being told that he is just trying to be a good friend.

Any advice on how to get over him without completely ignoring him (he's still a friend I care about) would be great as well.

tl;dr My taken guy friend is too friendly and nice to me so it makes me hard for me to get over my crush on him. Any tips would be appreciated.

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My (25 f) husband (25 m) doesn’t think I’m attractive

TL; DR; my husband spends his nights gaming and it makes him not attracted to me.

Hi guys, like I said in the title, my husband doesn't think I'm attractive. I did everything to make him feel satisfied with my looks. I'm not ugly. I'm tall, blonde, skinny woman. And he still doesn't compliment me, doesn't look at me like he used to. He doesn't touch me. We don't even have intimacy anymore bc he says he's stressed with the situation that's been solved some time ago. He says he needs more time, but it's been a year and still nothing changed. I don't really know what to do. I get compliments from other guys on daily basis, but it's still not him. He doesn't pay attention to me. I know he's not cheating on me. He spends his nights gaming with friends, and I go to bed alone almost every single night. When he comes to bed, he spends hours on TikTok While I sleep (I have to get up early for work) so it leaves no time for intimacy. He doesn't even want to have sex with me. I tried to talk to him so many times about it, but he only gets irritated that I mention this topic again. It makes me feel so unattractive and unappreciated. I do everything for him to make him feel like the best man ever. And yet I get nothing like that from him. I don't know what to do. Is there any chance I can change that?

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Breaking Free: 8 Tips To Move On From A Toxic Relationship - Zee News

Breaking Free: 8 Tips To Move On From A Toxic Relationship  Zee News

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How To Recognise Relationship Red Flags During Disagreements - News18

How To Recognise Relationship Red Flags During Disagreements  News18

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Should I (24F) be paying more rent than my boyfriend(26M)?

I (F24) live with my boyfriend (M25) of 4 years in large city. We moved in together 1 year ago after I had recently gotten a very good new job, that increased my income. We currently pay $730 per week rent, which has been split $400 (me), $330 (my boyfriend).

For context I have been on $180k for the last year, an increase from my job for the year prior to that where I was on $65k Whilst my boyfriend has been on c.$80k.

Whilst I make a large amount more than my boyfriend, he has significantly more savings than me. I have $100k, saved up mostly from my last year working. My boyfriend has $190k, saved up from working, and also a significant recent investment payoff of c.$80k which his parents helped him with.

He believes that he “makes no money” and it is good to “have a security blanket” and I should continue to pay more rent. I am happy to pay a bit more, as I have done over the past year, however I don’t think it’s exactly fair to keep paying more given overall he has a large amount more money than me.

It is probably important to note too that I grew up in a lower income household and don’t have anyone else to rely upon for money except myself. I think I have a pretty good grasp of the value of money, I am very greatfull to have such a high paying job at a young age. My goal is to save as much money as I can whilst in this job for a house deposit to help set myself up for the future. Especially as my current job is very high intensity and I likely won’t stay in this job long term.

Whilst my boyfriend has come from a wealthy family who have supported him financially all his life (eg. providing investments, paying for his university degree) and still continue to give him c. $200 a week to help support him given he “makes no money”. He has a security blanket and can always fall back on them. I am understanding and happy he is able to get that kind of support from his parents although it frustrates me when he refers to himself as not doing well financially and me doing well.

Lastly, he is working in a job that provides very good exit opportunities and if he wanted could get another job likely around $150k. However, is currently pursuing athletics alongside his job and given the time commitment doesn’t want to leave his relatively flexible job.

Am I in the wrong for feeling this way? How should we be splitting the rent?

TLDR: I make more than my boyfriend but he is more wealthy, should I be paying more rent?

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