I (19F) jealous of fiance (21M) going out with friends

My fiance (21M) and I (19F) have been together for almost 2 years. We did long distance for a year as i am from Chicago and he is from Bosnia. We have definitely gotten past the honeymoon stage and are talking about our futures more seriously. We are in the process of a fiance visa for him to join me in the states. Because of this big step, i decided to take advantage of my online classes and spend the year in Bosnia with him. My family has an apartment here and so I do not currently live with him.

Here’s the issue, he works full time and so we see each other 1-2 a week. He struggles to find time to see me as often as I would like given I am a naturally anxious person. I need constant affirmation and check ins not because I don’t trust him but because of childhood trauma. Because of this, I can definitely come across as jealous especially because I sometimes get upset when he hangs out with friends rather than come and see me.

I fully trust him and cheating definitely is not on my mind in the slightest but I feel like because we’re so close to the big step of marriage, he’d make himself more available for me.

Id also like to mention that I am fully aware that we are both very young for marriage but this is not the topic of this post.

In regards to his friends, many our my family members who we met through. The issue with this is that many of those family members talk to my fiances ex and so she makes appearances at hangouts. In a way she definitely makes me a little uncomfortable with him going out even while knowing they do not speak to one another or have a relationship.

Any advice on controlling my emotions?

TL;DR Insecure about fiance hanging out with friends rather than seeing me especially right before taking big step and getting married. We see each other about 1-2 times a week because he works and is often tired after. What can I do about being less jealous and insecure when I’m not his main priority?

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I (27m) feel like I am falling in love with one of my best friends (38f) although I know for a fact that it would never work out

I've developed feelings for one of my best friends. When I first met her, I did think she was cute, but thought nothing of it. But as the months went by, we started hanging out and got quite close. We would spend hours and hours talking and laughing without getting bored, and she's always been so comfortable and vulnerable around me. Not in a flirty way, but as a close friend.

Somewhere along the line, as corny as it sounds, I feel like I may have started to fall for her. I know it will never work out; there are so many reasons why it would never work out even if the feeling is mutual (I can never tell whether it is or not). But we get along so well and I care for her so deeply that it's difficult to let go of these feelings.. and she is exactly my type too. We would be so good together.

Althoigh it really hurts, I don't want to initiate anything or act on my feelings because I would hate to waste her time. She's such an amazing and beautiful person, and I want her to be with someone that she can have a future with.

I guess one of the reasons I'm posting this is to finally vent these feelings out, and at the same time, I would really love to get some advice on how to deal with this. We are such good friends and she's sometimes a little dependant on me, both emotionally and also with getting things done sometimes.. should I just do my best to suppress my feelings?

Thank you

TL;DR: I've started to develop feelings for a close friend and although I know it would never work between us long term, we are so good together and I can't seem to let these feeling go. I don't want to waste her time, so I'm looking for a way to get over these feelings.

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My (28F) wife (28f) of 3 years, together for almost 8, are divorcing over incompatibilities, but I don’t know if it’s the right choice anymore

My wife and I have been going back and forth on getting a divorce for a while. We have too many incompatibilities, and we’ve agreed that this is the case. There are things I want that I know I’ll never get in our marriage (a healthy sex life; going out and not staying in; etc) and my wife says she realizes this to be the case. We’ve been looking for apartments for her to move into (I’d be helping her move). However, I feel so devastated by this. So does she. These last few days we have been very touchy and intimate again for the first time in weeks. Is this a sign we shouldn’t divorce and give it another shot… even if I know I shouldn’t expect things to really change much? What deep desires are worth giving up for a marriage with someone you’re, say, 80% compatible with? I love her. She’s my closest friend in this world. I just don’t know what to do.

tl;dr: wife and I are getting a divorce. I’m no longer sure if it’s the right thing to do but I can’t tell.

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Stuck in a hard place in my relationship

I, 19-F, have been dating my boyfriend, also 19- M,for about 4 & a half years now. At the beginning of our relationship, we fought an insane amount. We used to be completely opposite with our morals (he was extremely homophobic, transphobic, racist, pro life, supported trump) so pretty much the complete opposite to me. This cause us to fight pretty much everyday, all day. We started dating when we were 15 so he was my first proper relationship. I struggled because I felt like breaking up wasn’t an option, I was so attached and still am. I’m an extremely anxious person, and the years that we’ve been together have made it even harder with how strong my attachment to him has become. He has extremely abusive and religious parents, and though it isn’t an excuse, this is where he got all of his questionable morals and opinions. Throughout our relationship, he’s pretty much done a 180 and completely worked on himself, he’s a totally different person now than he was then.He’s totally accepting of the LGBTQ community, isn’t racist and no longer supports trump, understands abortions and why women may need them. We also used to (and still somewhat currently) used to fight pretty badly because our communication is horrible. I have an anxious attachment, while he has an avoidant attachment style. (He’d push me away, ignore me, drive home, or even break up with me) in the earlier stages of our relationship when ide try to talk to him about a fight we’d had. But now, after working hard on himself, He’s a lot more patient, understanding /doesnt leave when things get heated anymore. Our relationship is the best it’s ever been. Yet I’m still terrified at the thought of us being together forever, getting married and having kids. I have this big part of me that fills me with guilt. Where I have the longing to experience being single and as cliche as it sounds, finding myself on my own. I feel like I put a lot of my mental wellbeing on him and depend on him emotionally a lot. I feel like I don’t know how to live without him. The problem is, he’s just as attached to me as I am to him. He would completely crumble if we broke up, it would destroy him. And honestly, it would destroy me too, we’ve become so intertwined in eachothers lives that it would feel like losing a limb if we broke up. But, it also terrifies me thinking about pushing away this feeling I have towards being single and exploring other people and relationships that I’ve never got to experience before. So reddit, in desperate for advice, How do I figure out how to come to terms with what I really want? Please help 😩

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How can I smooth things out with my brothers or shall I just leave them to it?

I’m 48 and my brother’s are in their early 50’s. Around 11 years ago, I needed to buy a house, I was struggling to find rental accommodation at the right price for me and my family.

Meanwhile, my poor mum was having a terrible time trying to keep up with her house and the bills, she also had loads of debts, left by my dad. We didn’t know how much it was until after he passed away, 5 years prior. My mum was unable to give up full time work cos of these debts and she was getting on herself (age 70), the house was in disrepair, I hated seeing her like this and feeling hopeless at what to do next, I went to my older brothers to ask for help, I suggested buying mum’s house, they said as I was looking why didn’t I buy it and get her into council accommodation, she could then use the equity to pay off her debts, have a little left over and give up work. It wasn’t a bad idea but there was a lot of work to do but I chose to do it so I could help mum out also. I bought the house and did a mini refurbishment, had to get extra funds to fix the property. I helped mum sort out her council accommodation and move her in. It was a tough time as I was looking after my own family too.

In 2021, I found out my partner was cheating on me, we ended up separating and selling the house. Had some equity which helped pay off my debts and some legal costs etc. Fast forward to 2023, my brothers came to me and ask me for money as they’ve racked up some debt. I really wish I could’ve helped them but I didn’t have anything left, they haven’t spoken to me since, they said that they were expecting money from mum and it was down to me to pay it. They said that they didn’t worry about getting into debt as they knew it would be paid off. My mum isn’t happy with them but why I am made to feel so bad, how do I correct things? They won’t talk to me now. What are your suggestions to repair our relationship?

TL;DR; : Brothers wanted money from me as I got money when I sold my house but paid off my own debts & legal costs. I have a family to support. Shall I leave them to come round? I’ve apologised for not having any to give them but since I’ve said I don’t have it they’re not talking to me.

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Weekend reads: From intriguing tracks of relationships to social relevance of sports | Lifestyle News | English Manorama  Onmanorama

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