Newly living together

24M and 21F - 4month relationship We are starting a new chapter in our life’s where we have started to live together. Our relationship has been challenging but for the most part we get through the rough patches. I’m starting to live in her apartment and like a normal worried boyfriend, I try to help in everything thing I can. I clean constantly the kitchen and help in every chore! We’re I’m trying to get at is that yesterday I was sleeping when for the third time she woke me up with loud TikTok’s. Even tho I don’t like being woken up, I gently asked if she could turn it down or even off She really annoyed said that she can’t even watch videos in HER HOUSE How am I supposed to feel welcomed?

Am I overreacting? (YES OR NO?)

Like she offers the space for us to build something and says things like that! That just makes me feel like I will never feel welcome and like we have something together

TL;DR! - girlfriend won’t compromise in her apartment where we are trying to start to live together

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The blatant stubbornness is mind blowing

The blatant stubbornness is mind blowing

I know this post is going to sound mean & people are probably going to say I need to break up with him. Trust me, I’ve thought about it, but then I feel like I’m overreacting. It’s his stubbornness & irresponsibility that is triggering me. For example, our dog ran out of food yesterday so he fed her a shit ton of bread in the morning knowing she has a severe stomach sensitivity. Sure enough it gave her diarrhea & he saw her having diarrhea plus we had a whole conversation about it so he knows. Then I bought some dog food while he was at work & this morning I guess he didn’t see the bag & I caught him about to feed her a shit ton of bread again. And I ask him why he would give her something that clearly made her sick and he said it’s better than nothing right? I said “no, it’s not. It’s not ok to give an animal, or anyone for that matter, something they are allergic to or something that makes them sick.” Which he replied “like I said it’s better than nothing right?” And I explained again why he’s wrong & he got irritated & reluctantly agreed & apologized. And another example, we get food stamps & he spends his on an energy drink & a bag of chips at the gas station like 3-4 times a week which costs about $6-7. Sometimes he gets me something which makes it $15-20 even though I tell him I don’t want anything because I don’t agree with spending food stamps that way. I explained to him how doing that is going to make him run out of food stamps for actual groceries, I even did the math & showed him. He said they’re his food stamps & he’ll spend them how he wants & he also said he would rather spend food stamps on this bullshit than his own cash because it adds up & I said ”exactly, so if you use up your food stamps before they refill again, guess what you’ll have to spend your own cash on? Groceries & trust me that groceries are way more expensive than those little snacks & drinks you get” He got irritated with me about that too & again reluctantly agreed & said he’d try to do better. Are these reasons to break up with someone? I do love him & care about him & he treats me well & helps with bills, contributes to the household etc. His mind set on a lot of things just frustrates me.

Tl;dr boyfriend is stubborn & irresponsible but means well. I’m frustrated & wondering if these are reasons to break up with someone.

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Does my Airbnb flatmate (m30) like me? (F25)? 😩

TL;DR my Airbnb flatmate tagged along and went shopping with me, paid for Uber, dinner, drinks and was nice but im not sure if he is just friendly or if he likes me

I met this guy just few days ago, he chatted me up, today we chatted again and he asked me what I wanna do with the day. I told him I’m going shopping and he asked if he can join.

He went with me to shop for dresses lol, he paid for dinner, Uber and other stuff we drank even though I offered to pay for my things or for him, he insisted

But he didn’t mention anything about his past dating life nor didn’t say anything that he finds me pretty or he’d like to take me out on date (nothing straight forward and no indication of attraction I guess)

If he doesn’t like me in this way why would he tag along and pay for stuff though? I’m way too shy to make a move 😭

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My (30 m) gf (27 f) says she doesn’t trust herself

My girlfriend of 4 months is very insecure and was slightly sheltered in the past. Before her and I met, she had a passionate and very toxic fling with an emotionally abusive narcissist. Well he’s popped back up (more than likely out of boredom or not being able to make a victim out of someone else) harassing her, threatening to show up places and get her fired from her job ect.

Last night she kind of blew up on me over a very small issue and i could tell it was coming from somewhere else. So after some work and talking, i pulled it out of her that she still has feelings for this guy because “the sex was really good” and ect ect. She goes to the same gym and when she saw him recently (after all of this harassment) he told her to give him $500 or go home and “make love to him”. She said she stormed off telling him she’s in a relationship and isn’t interested ect. But white talking last night, she said after leaving, it brought her back to thinking about the sex they had and got her excited. And that she doesn’t trust her thoughts or actions and decided to block his number ect.

It took awhile to open her up and feel safe to tell me these things, so I didn’t react when she was talking about them, just listening. But her and I haven’t had sex (mutual decision to wait), so obviously these things are heart wrenching to hear. Her and i have a really good relationship (communication, chemistry, similarity in values, same interests). I treat her like a queen, better than she’s ever been treated in the healthiest relationship she’s ever had, she says. But she seems to be drawn away by this extremely toxic narcissist that has called her names, made her develop tons of insecurities, and even inspired her to get tattoos that cover parts of her body that he criticized. The obvious answer is “just drop her and move on”, but I really want this to work out with her. Any suggestions?

TL;DR: gf’s narcissist ex fling popped back up harassing her and tried blackmailing her into having sex with him. And although ex is taking action to remove his presence from her life, she’s still attracted and drawn to him, and I don’t know what to do

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Sophia Bush and Ashlyn Harris' Relationship Timeline - Cosmopolitan UK

Sophia Bush and Ashlyn Harris' Relationship Timeline  Cosmopolitan UK

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Devastating break up me 'M31' 'F27, I'm lost and need external point of view

TL;DR " break up from 2years relationship with house and family goals... I'm lost"

Hi there me 'M31' was in relationship for more than 2y with 'F27', despite our love and respect the relationship was somehow broken cause of trust issue and couple incompatibilities, she was lying and acting suspiciously when she's out socially, after 2 years of patience, I decided to cut off and break up last week.

It's really hard going through this, physically and emotionally. I still think about her and a small part of me is kinda waiting a reaction (a fight back, an honest discussion or something else), but no sign of her from last week, and deleted me from all social platforms.

what's your opinion ? What should I do ? I'm just sad and lost

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I (36m) caught wife (32f) sending nudes to another guy.

TL;DR Wife caught sending nudes, I don't think I want a divorce. I'm asking for advise on how to proceed.

Throwaway of course.

Don't think I can speak to anyone I know about this (yet). So here goes internet;

Married 5 years, together 11, no kids. I thought we had no martial problems..

Yesterday I (36M) went on to my wifes (32F) phone and was looking through her photos. I found one took the day before of her nude.. I was super surprised as I hadn't seen it before so checked her messages. She had sent it to a customer from her work (she works in a gym), the pic preceded a text from him asking her to "cheer me up". There were more messages too but I didn't read them, except for seeing they all ended with lots of 'xxxx' kisses. I confronted her straight away, throwing her phone on the bed. She picked it up, deleted the conversation and was super apologetic telling me she loves me, etc and that she made a dumb mistake.

She said she has been texting him for around 1 month, and just got caught up with the attention. Apparently he has a girlfriend, has never sent my wife a nude, and this was the first one she had sent him. She told me that she hadn't met up with him outside of work, never physically cheated.

She's currently at work and is due back in a bit, where I plan to ask her to give me her phone, because I googled recovering iPhone messages and it says it can be done within 30 days. If she refuses this I think I will seriously consider divorce. Part of me doesn't want to read the messages between the two of them but I feel like I need to see exactly what was said before deciding what to do. I don't think I believe her that it was the first nude she sent.

Afaik she hasn't done anything like this before, except for around 1.5 years ago when I got jealous because she was sending messages on instagram to a gym training partner in the early hours in the morning whilst drinking with her sister. The conversation was deleted by the time I saw it but the pic I did see and was innocent. I just didn't like the fact that she was conversing/messaging a guy in the early hours of the morning, but we moved on from this.

I know its easy to say just get a divorce etc but life is complicated. I don't want to just end my marriage and myself behaved a bit shitty when I had a crush on her sister, around 2.5 years ago. I got quite close to her sending messages/snaps but never did or said anything inappropriate, and neither did her sister. My wife eventually got sick of how much we were messaging and blew up at me. I now keep a distance between myself and her sister.

I would like to move on from this but not sure how. I think I want a clear understanding of an open phone policy. I want to know who he is, because I currently have no idea. He has no social media (..shock). I train at my wife's gym and if I saw him my blood would boil but I think if he was talking to me and I didn't know it was him that would be worse. Not sure what else I can suggest. Maybe relationship counselling? I have actually mentioned this in the past and she didn't want to do it. Is there any coming back from this? Does anyone have advise who has been in similar situation, and if/what they did and changed to make it work?

Feeling sad. :(

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