My bf wants to work on different aspect of his life before getting back together

TL;DR Me Gf(20) and Bf (20). We recently broke up because he said he was losing control of his life and that I was being too overbearing. We saw each other and spoke on what we want to change in our relationship. What we want to work on/fix, but he said that he doesn’t want to jump right back into the relationship. He says he wants to work on himself and fix different aspect in his life he’s been behind on. Such as friends, work and school.

He calls me babe still even though we aren’t dating, and he says he loves me. I asked him if he genuinely want to be with me or he’s just comfortable with me and is not ready for a relationship. He reassured me and said that he loves me and our relationship but he genuinely needs time to work on these issues. He said we can work through this and that it doesn’t mean the worst case scenario. As well he said it doesn’t mean it’s over I just needs time to recenter my focus. I don’t want to come off being annoying in the sense of my asking, but i genuinely a bit confused on what he truly wants.

I asked him if he was going to plan on seeing other people during this time. He said no and that he doesn’t plan on it, he said that he doesn’t see other females in a dating or talking way. He only wants to be with me but needs the time.

They are certain stuff we have to work on in our relationship but can only work on if we are in one. Like some communication issues when we have doubts but certain things. He also said he doesn’t want to give me a time on when he’s ready. So I also don’t want to feel like I’m being strung along if this takes months.

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I 20 M don’t want to have sex with my girlfriend 20 F

Okay, so my girlfriend and I have been dating for a bout a year and a half now, we’ve definitely had our ups and downs but we probably haven’t gotten into any sort of argument or disagreement lasting more than 10 mins in the past 6 months or so. For the most part, things are pretty good.

Due to different summer internships we’ve been long distance for almost a month or so now. Recently, we had a phone call where very drunkenly she was saying how much she cant wait to have sex and it has been so long. I just sort of let her talk and didn’t rlly respond cause she was sloshed, but I am really not looking forward to it.

Backstory, so we used to have sex like all the time, many times per week, but starting in January I’d say it moved to maybe 1/2 times a month, I just stopped initiating it unless she said “im horny” or something. She is a really sexual person so it bothered her a lot, though she only brought it up a couple times rlly passively just sayinf “we haven’t rlly had sex in a while” and i would just say “yea i think you’re right”, but I saw in her texts when we were with each other that she seemed pretty upset by it. Sex has been kind of a big part of our relationship, previously as well, lots of trying new things, exploring kinks, etc. She loves any and all sex, like doesn’t matter, she is a very horny person, so she doesn’t even care if I don’t remember to do stuff she likes, like spitting, slapping, rope play, etc, which happens sometimes cause i am very vanilla and have to very consciously thinking to do those sorts of things.

The things is, I just don’t want to have sex. Don’t get me wrong, my girlfriend is beautiful with a shelf of an ass, and I am extremely attracted to her. But lately it feels sex requires so much energy and mental focus that I really just don’t want to dedicate, like I find myself just constantly thinking abt when it will be over, or sometimes I just make her cum with my hands to begin with because she’ll be too sensitive for actual sex after. For the sake of horniness I much rather spend a couple minutes jacking off. We won’t be seeing each other for another month but I just don’t know what to do. The thought of having sex just isn’t very appealing and I don’t want to have to keep faking the enthusiasm to not hurt her feelings.

She used to be overweight, way before I knew her, so it is really hard to have convos pertaining to sex cause instantly she think, “oh it must be because I’m not skinny and tan enough” which is so far from true it is ridiculous.

TL;DR: I am in a great loving relationship with my girlfriend, but i’ve lost the urge to have sex with her.

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Tldr: my bf won’t have sex with me bc he’s not comfortable, me F23 he M22, what should I do?

I (23F) am going out with a guy (22M) which I like a lot. We have been seeing each other for over a month, going to each others places, he even accidentally met my mom and overall everything is more than perfect.

The issue is we still haven’t had sex. He shared that due to 2 surgeries his reproductive organ is kinda disfigured, and he is not comfortable with the way it looks.

My question is how to handle this, should I wait more for him to feel more comfortable around me, because I honestly don’t think I can wait much longer.

Im worried that if we wait long enough Im gonna get so frustrated I no longer like him. He is telling his friends and family we are together, but I don’t feel like it’s official until we had sex.

Tl;dr: the guy Im dating won’t have sex with me because he’s not comfortable with his reproductive organ.

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Shah Rukh Khan and Gauri Khan’s relationship decoded by body language expert - The Times of India

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What Is Micro-Cheating? Examples And What To Do Next - Women's Health

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Boyfriend emerged 4h prior to wheels up on romantic vacation, wtf?

I’m on a 5 day vacation to puerto rico with a girl, we slept together twice prior (last time last Wednesday) and have known each other for a couple months. We had agreed not to sleep with other people but I’m assuming that’s out the window as “she was still single” so it’s fair game. I’m going through a divorce from a 7 yr relationship which is why she didn’t want to date, she knew from before day 1 & convinced me to take off the ring after my ex had left the house for over 40 days. She let me know 4 h before wheels up on this trip she’s dating someone, apparently happened sometime last week. Still came on the trip. Sharing a king bed room. We’re in an airport now in the way.

She’s got a fucked up past (abuse and stuff), may be an alcoholic (8+ drinks in 1 night, <100 lbs), said she doesn’t know how long she’ll be dating this dude, and doesn’t seem super enthusiastic about it. I.e when I was saying I was up for competition she said she wouldn’t break up with him by text, would have to be in person. Specifically said she doesn’t like guys being controlling or jealous and said she’d dump him if he was (re: the trip). We had a boundaries discussion (no kissing, sleeping in bed together, hand holding or sex) which makes sense (if anything does). I was falling hard prior but this is weird af. WTF is going on and what is my life now? Please help. Any insights appreciated. Thank you kind people.

Tldr: Why she go on 5 day romantic vacation if you just got a bf?

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What are your thoughts on me calling him? Me 34(f) him 44(m) known each other about a year.

Tl;dr I’m calling someone several times a week with no response and wondering if this is excessive. Friends with benefits relationship. Reasons for concern.

For the long story: I met this man at work when I started March of 2023. He had worked there as a janitor for 7 years. I started in overnight stocking. July we started snap chatting but after a few weeks he deleted his account. I no longer use mine either.

Beginning of August he didn’t show up to work. After a few weeks of overhearing another janitor worried about him, the janitor gave me his phone number. I texted and called once or twice but no response. I knew from our past conversations where he lived so I walked by sometimes late at night. One night he saw me, had me come back to his apartment. We made out. Talked. Went for a car ride. Came back to my place. Made out. He said he doesn’t really have any friends. He hasn’t made love in 11 years and was something he rushed into or something like that, sounded like a regret somewhat. He fiddled with his ring finger and I got the impression he doesn’t believe in sex outside of marriage. I don’t remember when we had the conversation about hallucinations but he has seen angels and demons and believed he was an angel. This gives me reason to think he’s schizophrenic. He has an old flip phone that doesn’t receive texts and he’s very shy and introverted like me - why we really connected. But he does have an Apple phone for pictures. I sometimes question whether he was honest, but I do know I have my imessaging on and other Apple phones have that. It never says sent or delivered when I text, it just blips into nothingness.

So another month went by, I think. Or maybe it was only a week at first. And he called me up and asked to come over and hang out. This was September. I was hoping we’d be in a relationship at some point. I don’t remember if we hung out in October. Then the holidays went by and he didn’t call me until January. I had written a couple letters by then but he never wrote back. January came and he talked quite a bit about his family and his trauma.

I forgot to mention why he quit - he had attendance issues and was sick that day and assumed he’d be fired anyway. So all this time he has been unemployed. Going into debt. I’ve wanted to help him and he doesn’t really want help. I sent a couple small gift cards in April. I bought him groceries in September.

February he came over because his apartment sewer backed up and made it seem like he wanted to move in with me. We made out for like the fifth time.

March came and he apologized for making out with me, said he wasn’t trying to make me his girlfriend so he felt bad about it. I took that pretty hard. And now I haven’t heard from him. Still in March he was unemployed, seeing a demon in his bedroom, traumatized by his family. It’s so hard to wrap my head around the situation. He doesn’t know love and acceptance and I feel like maybe I’m smothering him with it. Maybe not, I’m just self conscious because it’s hard to believe he might have the feelings for me that I do for him. Obviously he told me he didn’t want to be with me. “Not trying to make me his girlfriend.” The past ten months roughly I’ve been in love with him. Or at least I care very deeply. I think about him all the time. I’ve probably sent about 5 letters. I’m doing what I can to be there for him but I’m aware he isn’t there for me. He’s just isolated. Self isolating. He might come around again, he might not.

I call every few days, sometimes twice. I sometimes leave a voicemail. I don’t want to be excessive. I notice he turns the phone on and off so he’s still there. I’m always telling myself to move on but I can’t stop caring.

Will things change for the better, possibly? Maybe he finally gets a job. Maybe that resolves some confidence issues. Or maybe he’ll qualify for disability. Maybe he learns to trust me and gets therapy for his family trauma. All I know is I can’t just drop someone who seems to need help.

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