am i awful for thinking abt breaking up with my bf?

i'll try to make this as short as possible. i (19F) think i need to break up with my boyfriend (20M). the problem is that there is no problem exactly. i've been feeling this was for a few months and i just tried to thug it out thinking maybe i was just overthinking and confused but these thoughts haven't gone away. i love him but im just not sure im in love with him any more. we've been dating since we were 16 and it's been perfectly fine the whole way along... no fights, no cheating, everyone says we're perfect together. so why have i suddenly emotionally disconnected ? i don't feel like spending as much time together, i no longer enjoy being in his space nor having him in mine, little things he says and does are starting to annoy me. we both still live in our own homes with our parents and family, we don't share any finances, we don't really have a mixed group of our friends. neither of us would be at any major loss if we ended it. i just think as we're getting older and growing up i've decided i want to take a different path now. there's not a thing i would change about the last few years i've spent with him, it's just time to move on. but now the question is, how do i go about telling him? this will completely catch him off guard, he is still fully in love with me and i feel like the scum of the earth for thinking of wanting to end things. i just don't think it's fair on either of us to stay as we are when im feeling this way. he deserves to know but i know it will hurt him and i want to make this as painless as possible. i need advice desperately

ーーー TL;DR;: i think i want to break up with my bf but he hasn’t done anything wrong and is still in love with me. am i awful for thinking this way? how to i make it less painful for him ?

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My bf wants to work on different aspect of his life before getting back together

TL;DR Me Gf(20) and Bf (20). We recently broke up because he said he was losing control of his life and that I was being too overbearing. We saw each other and spoke on what we want to change in our relationship. What we want to work on/fix, but he said that he doesn’t want to jump right back into the relationship. He says he wants to work on himself and fix different aspect in his life he’s been behind on. Such as friends, work and school.

He calls me babe still even though we aren’t dating, and he says he loves me. I asked him if he genuinely want to be with me or he’s just comfortable with me and is not ready for a relationship. He reassured me and said that he loves me and our relationship but he genuinely needs time to work on these issues. He said we can work through this and that it doesn’t mean the worst case scenario. As well he said it doesn’t mean it’s over I just needs time to recenter my focus. I don’t want to come off being annoying in the sense of my asking, but i genuinely a bit confused on what he truly wants.

I asked him if he was going to plan on seeing other people during this time. He said no and that he doesn’t plan on it, he said that he doesn’t see other females in a dating or talking way. He only wants to be with me but needs the time.

They are certain stuff we have to work on in our relationship but can only work on if we are in one. Like some communication issues when we have doubts but certain things. He also said he doesn’t want to give me a time on when he’s ready. So I also don’t want to feel like I’m being strung along if this takes months.

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I 20 M don’t want to have sex with my girlfriend 20 F

Okay, so my girlfriend and I have been dating for a bout a year and a half now, we’ve definitely had our ups and downs but we probably haven’t gotten into any sort of argument or disagreement lasting more than 10 mins in the past 6 months or so. For the most part, things are pretty good.

Due to different summer internships we’ve been long distance for almost a month or so now. Recently, we had a phone call where very drunkenly she was saying how much she cant wait to have sex and it has been so long. I just sort of let her talk and didn’t rlly respond cause she was sloshed, but I am really not looking forward to it.

Backstory, so we used to have sex like all the time, many times per week, but starting in January I’d say it moved to maybe 1/2 times a month, I just stopped initiating it unless she said “im horny” or something. She is a really sexual person so it bothered her a lot, though she only brought it up a couple times rlly passively just sayinf “we haven’t rlly had sex in a while” and i would just say “yea i think you’re right”, but I saw in her texts when we were with each other that she seemed pretty upset by it. Sex has been kind of a big part of our relationship, previously as well, lots of trying new things, exploring kinks, etc. She loves any and all sex, like doesn’t matter, she is a very horny person, so she doesn’t even care if I don’t remember to do stuff she likes, like spitting, slapping, rope play, etc, which happens sometimes cause i am very vanilla and have to very consciously thinking to do those sorts of things.

The things is, I just don’t want to have sex. Don’t get me wrong, my girlfriend is beautiful with a shelf of an ass, and I am extremely attracted to her. But lately it feels sex requires so much energy and mental focus that I really just don’t want to dedicate, like I find myself just constantly thinking abt when it will be over, or sometimes I just make her cum with my hands to begin with because she’ll be too sensitive for actual sex after. For the sake of horniness I much rather spend a couple minutes jacking off. We won’t be seeing each other for another month but I just don’t know what to do. The thought of having sex just isn’t very appealing and I don’t want to have to keep faking the enthusiasm to not hurt her feelings.

She used to be overweight, way before I knew her, so it is really hard to have convos pertaining to sex cause instantly she think, “oh it must be because I’m not skinny and tan enough” which is so far from true it is ridiculous.

TL;DR: I am in a great loving relationship with my girlfriend, but i’ve lost the urge to have sex with her.

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Tldr: my bf won’t have sex with me bc he’s not comfortable, me F23 he M22, what should I do?

I (23F) am going out with a guy (22M) which I like a lot. We have been seeing each other for over a month, going to each others places, he even accidentally met my mom and overall everything is more than perfect.

The issue is we still haven’t had sex. He shared that due to 2 surgeries his reproductive organ is kinda disfigured, and he is not comfortable with the way it looks.

My question is how to handle this, should I wait more for him to feel more comfortable around me, because I honestly don’t think I can wait much longer.

Im worried that if we wait long enough Im gonna get so frustrated I no longer like him. He is telling his friends and family we are together, but I don’t feel like it’s official until we had sex.

Tl;dr: the guy Im dating won’t have sex with me because he’s not comfortable with his reproductive organ.

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Shah Rukh Khan and Gauri Khan’s relationship decoded by body language expert - The Times of India

Shah Rukh Khan and Gauri Khan’s relationship decoded by body language expert  The Times of India

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What Is Micro-Cheating? Examples And What To Do Next - Women's Health

What Is Micro-Cheating? Examples And What To Do Next  Women's Health

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Boyfriend emerged 4h prior to wheels up on romantic vacation, wtf?

I’m on a 5 day vacation to puerto rico with a girl, we slept together twice prior (last time last Wednesday) and have known each other for a couple months. We had agreed not to sleep with other people but I’m assuming that’s out the window as “she was still single” so it’s fair game. I’m going through a divorce from a 7 yr relationship which is why she didn’t want to date, she knew from before day 1 & convinced me to take off the ring after my ex had left the house for over 40 days. She let me know 4 h before wheels up on this trip she’s dating someone, apparently happened sometime last week. Still came on the trip. Sharing a king bed room. We’re in an airport now in the way.

She’s got a fucked up past (abuse and stuff), may be an alcoholic (8+ drinks in 1 night, <100 lbs), said she doesn’t know how long she’ll be dating this dude, and doesn’t seem super enthusiastic about it. I.e when I was saying I was up for competition she said she wouldn’t break up with him by text, would have to be in person. Specifically said she doesn’t like guys being controlling or jealous and said she’d dump him if he was (re: the trip). We had a boundaries discussion (no kissing, sleeping in bed together, hand holding or sex) which makes sense (if anything does). I was falling hard prior but this is weird af. WTF is going on and what is my life now? Please help. Any insights appreciated. Thank you kind people.

Tldr: Why she go on 5 day romantic vacation if you just got a bf?

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