My Girlfriend (F22) needs to share a hotel room with her guy best friend (M23) and I don't know what to do about it.

My (M21) girlfriend (F22) is going to Greenday in London soon. Thing is she is going with her guy bestfriend (M23) and to save money they have booked a hotel room with 1 bed . They have been friends for 8 years and apparently have done things like this before without anything happening. Thing is there is an option to get a room with 2 beds that's £10 more expensive. But they're refusing to book that room as "they're both struggling for money". I don't know how to feel about this. I already looked past guy friends as a red flag but this is ridiculous right? I don't feel comfortable with my girlfriend sleeping in the same bed or same room as another guy who's not me. She also knows how I feel about this, so what do I do?

TLDR: My girlfriend and her best friend are going to sleep in the same room and I don't feel comfortable with that.

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my (22F) bf (27M) lied to me but I knew the truth and I feel overwhelmed of the way he tried to gaslight me.

I’m with my bf for 4 years, going into 5 this July. There’s one thing that makes me sick and I can’t forgive easily, and that’s lying. He knows that from the moment we met, I can’t stand lies and I always want the truth even if it’s bad news.

Throughout this years there have been 3 to 4 events where I knew the truth about something, I tried asking him about it and giving him the chance to explain himself to me, but he just straight up lied to me. It was really intense because the first two times I couldn’t give him evidence that I know how things happened so he just continued with a lie. He managed to confess a day after, or even some times months later in a random conversation where we both were “fine” so he felt comfortable saying he was lying back then and that I was right about the events.

He has just started at a new job, where he is the only guy there among other 2 guys and a lot of girls. I had a work opportunity outside our country so at the moment and for 4 months I’m going to be abroad so it’s been even more difficult for us. I catch myself getting insecure sometimes when a woman I don’t know is involved, but I try to soothe myself because I do know he loves me and that I’m being unreasonable with those thoughts. For the whole month that I’m away, we always speak on the phone and two hours pass by with him rambling about work and always defending one specific girl at work. Yesterday, while he was at work, I texted him and he didn’t reply but was active on instagram. I don’t check that in any way and I don’t care, but it happened to show his profile to a friend I met here so I saw he was online and thought “he’s here but doesn’t reply to me” and thought about making fun of it because I do like teasing him. When I was at his profile, the following went up when I refreshed it, and I found out that it was the girl he’s been so much mentioning from work. I’ve already sent him a teasing message, and he replied that he wasn’t on instagram. Then, the story changed to “her sister called him on insta”. That’s a straight up lie because he never speaks on insta with his sister. He sent me screenshot of the “call”, which was made at 17:28 from his part and ended the same time from his part again. But I’ve asked why he doesn’t reply to me at 17:10, where supposedly he was speaking on the phone with his sister. I knew he was on insta to accept the request from this girl from work, so I just wanted him to tell me the truth, it’s not even a big deal. But the way he lied to me and made up stories rather than just saying that made me feel sick. I might overreacting but I physically can’t stand lies, I wouldn’t lie to anyone let alone the person I love. He was keeping up with the lies until the end of the day, even though I have him a lot of chances for him to just say the truth. At midnight, on the phone, he finally said that he was on instagram because this girl sent him a request but that happened during the end of his shift, around 20:00. He was still lying to my face so I just said to him what happened and how I knew the story and knew he was lying the whole time about something so so minor. He finally confessed that all the stories he told me was a lie, and he justify it that he “wasn’t thinking and was an immediate move to lie to me because he kinda felt guilty about it”.

I know it’s a minor issue at the moment of the way it happened, but it has happened before with much bigger problems, I’ve always told him that I can’t respect someone who lies to my face and is fine about it, but I just can’t help myself to think of how he was okay lying, and how many other “lies” I might have believed only because I didn’t know the truth or didn’t have the ways to prove my gut feeling. He says he won’t ever lie to me again and that he don’t want to lose me. I love him and I also don’t want to lose him but I do feel overwhelmed and can’t stop thinking about how he lied straight up and even got offensive when I tried to tell him the truth.

TL/DR: my (22F) bf (27M) lied to me but I knew the truth and I feel overwhelmed of the way he tried to gaslight me.

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I 14F have a crush on my friend 14M but i don’t know if he likes me back.

Yes i know im young but i never used reddit before and need help, i 14F have a crush on one of closest friends 14M and i don’t wanna ruin our friendship by confessing my own feelings, i feel like he wouldn’t like me due to my body type(im 5’6 and chubby i used to go to the gym a ton but family issues rose and i don’t have a ride there anymore) whilst he’s a little shorter than me, skinny and works out a bit, but at the same time i feel like he does like me because of what he’s started sending me on tiktok, i have issues with my confidence and happiness because of how i look and my struggle to share my feelings, so i use the repost feature on tiktok hoping he wouldn’t see them, fun fact: he did see them, and he’s started sending me videos that are a slideshow the have sentence along the lines of ‘btw ur pretty’ or ‘im happy i met you’ and stuff like that. But this morning he sent me another one, the slides all but for one had stuff along the lines of ‘ur pretty’ and ‘talking to u makes my day better’. But one of them said exactly ‘I don't think you understand how in love I am with you’. i don’t know if he just seen the first slide and sent it or if he really meant that, or if he’s saying it in a platonic way cuz me him and another friend 14M aswell tell each other love you after we’re all going to bed on a discord call. I don’t want to assume his feelings and i’m struggling with my own but i know that i would love to have a future with him but i don’t want to ruin a friendship i love so much. Please help me out. Does he like me back,or is it platonic? or rather what would you do in my situation? any advice? i’ve never felt this way before.

TL;DR : I 14F have a crush on my friend 14M and i don’t know if he like me back or if it’s platonic, he’s sent me tiktok videos that call me pretty but this morning he sent me one the included ‘I don't think you understand how in love I am with you’ as one of the pictures, so i’m considering if he likes me back

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am i awful for thinking abt breaking up with my bf?

i'll try to make this as short as possible. i (19F) think i need to break up with my boyfriend (20M). the problem is that there is no problem exactly. i've been feeling this was for a few months and i just tried to thug it out thinking maybe i was just overthinking and confused but these thoughts haven't gone away. i love him but im just not sure im in love with him any more. we've been dating since we were 16 and it's been perfectly fine the whole way along... no fights, no cheating, everyone says we're perfect together. so why have i suddenly emotionally disconnected ? i don't feel like spending as much time together, i no longer enjoy being in his space nor having him in mine, little things he says and does are starting to annoy me. we both still live in our own homes with our parents and family, we don't share any finances, we don't really have a mixed group of our friends. neither of us would be at any major loss if we ended it. i just think as we're getting older and growing up i've decided i want to take a different path now. there's not a thing i would change about the last few years i've spent with him, it's just time to move on. but now the question is, how do i go about telling him? this will completely catch him off guard, he is still fully in love with me and i feel like the scum of the earth for thinking of wanting to end things. i just don't think it's fair on either of us to stay as we are when im feeling this way. he deserves to know but i know it will hurt him and i want to make this as painless as possible. i need advice desperately

ーーー TL;DR;: i think i want to break up with my bf but he hasn’t done anything wrong and is still in love with me. am i awful for thinking this way? how to i make it less painful for him ?

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My bf wants to work on different aspect of his life before getting back together

TL;DR Me Gf(20) and Bf (20). We recently broke up because he said he was losing control of his life and that I was being too overbearing. We saw each other and spoke on what we want to change in our relationship. What we want to work on/fix, but he said that he doesn’t want to jump right back into the relationship. He says he wants to work on himself and fix different aspect in his life he’s been behind on. Such as friends, work and school.

He calls me babe still even though we aren’t dating, and he says he loves me. I asked him if he genuinely want to be with me or he’s just comfortable with me and is not ready for a relationship. He reassured me and said that he loves me and our relationship but he genuinely needs time to work on these issues. He said we can work through this and that it doesn’t mean the worst case scenario. As well he said it doesn’t mean it’s over I just needs time to recenter my focus. I don’t want to come off being annoying in the sense of my asking, but i genuinely a bit confused on what he truly wants.

I asked him if he was going to plan on seeing other people during this time. He said no and that he doesn’t plan on it, he said that he doesn’t see other females in a dating or talking way. He only wants to be with me but needs the time.

They are certain stuff we have to work on in our relationship but can only work on if we are in one. Like some communication issues when we have doubts but certain things. He also said he doesn’t want to give me a time on when he’s ready. So I also don’t want to feel like I’m being strung along if this takes months.

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I 20 M don’t want to have sex with my girlfriend 20 F

Okay, so my girlfriend and I have been dating for a bout a year and a half now, we’ve definitely had our ups and downs but we probably haven’t gotten into any sort of argument or disagreement lasting more than 10 mins in the past 6 months or so. For the most part, things are pretty good.

Due to different summer internships we’ve been long distance for almost a month or so now. Recently, we had a phone call where very drunkenly she was saying how much she cant wait to have sex and it has been so long. I just sort of let her talk and didn’t rlly respond cause she was sloshed, but I am really not looking forward to it.

Backstory, so we used to have sex like all the time, many times per week, but starting in January I’d say it moved to maybe 1/2 times a month, I just stopped initiating it unless she said “im horny” or something. She is a really sexual person so it bothered her a lot, though she only brought it up a couple times rlly passively just sayinf “we haven’t rlly had sex in a while” and i would just say “yea i think you’re right”, but I saw in her texts when we were with each other that she seemed pretty upset by it. Sex has been kind of a big part of our relationship, previously as well, lots of trying new things, exploring kinks, etc. She loves any and all sex, like doesn’t matter, she is a very horny person, so she doesn’t even care if I don’t remember to do stuff she likes, like spitting, slapping, rope play, etc, which happens sometimes cause i am very vanilla and have to very consciously thinking to do those sorts of things.

The things is, I just don’t want to have sex. Don’t get me wrong, my girlfriend is beautiful with a shelf of an ass, and I am extremely attracted to her. But lately it feels sex requires so much energy and mental focus that I really just don’t want to dedicate, like I find myself just constantly thinking abt when it will be over, or sometimes I just make her cum with my hands to begin with because she’ll be too sensitive for actual sex after. For the sake of horniness I much rather spend a couple minutes jacking off. We won’t be seeing each other for another month but I just don’t know what to do. The thought of having sex just isn’t very appealing and I don’t want to have to keep faking the enthusiasm to not hurt her feelings.

She used to be overweight, way before I knew her, so it is really hard to have convos pertaining to sex cause instantly she think, “oh it must be because I’m not skinny and tan enough” which is so far from true it is ridiculous.

TL;DR: I am in a great loving relationship with my girlfriend, but i’ve lost the urge to have sex with her.

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Tldr: my bf won’t have sex with me bc he’s not comfortable, me F23 he M22, what should I do?

I (23F) am going out with a guy (22M) which I like a lot. We have been seeing each other for over a month, going to each others places, he even accidentally met my mom and overall everything is more than perfect.

The issue is we still haven’t had sex. He shared that due to 2 surgeries his reproductive organ is kinda disfigured, and he is not comfortable with the way it looks.

My question is how to handle this, should I wait more for him to feel more comfortable around me, because I honestly don’t think I can wait much longer.

Im worried that if we wait long enough Im gonna get so frustrated I no longer like him. He is telling his friends and family we are together, but I don’t feel like it’s official until we had sex.

Tl;dr: the guy Im dating won’t have sex with me because he’s not comfortable with his reproductive organ.

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