ME 40M years and my wife 39F years married happily together for 15 years. Could advice me how i can go through this situation? i felt like i am cheated

One of my wife's work collogue has one sided emotional infatuation with my wife. my wife rejected him and blocked him completely. then we got married. after 3 years this person got married to our distinct relative. My wife told everything about this person and stopped the contact altogether until his marriage. This Person contacted my wife through my wife's first cousin to let her know he is married now happily, My wife's cousin and this person are close friends. i permitted her to talk with boundaries as they are relative to us. They do only friendly talks in conference calls weekly once or twice for two months. they had a wats app group. then my wife slowly stopped talking with him altogether. Later i came to know that this person calls everyone with endearment terms like honey, dear etc.. i asked my wife how he used to address you. she said mostly name and sometimes honey. She use to update me about their calls and show messages. but she did not tell this particular word he used. she is saying it seems trivial for her, that person called everyone that way even in workplace not specifically to me. it is harmless/ meaningless to her. That to during the calls he address just once with honey, mostly he address by her name. i sued to addressed him by his name not used any endearment terms not even once. i was looking at the overall situation not the trivial things. what can i do now, i stopped contacting him altogether. whatever you want me to do now i can do, i cant change the past. I am not able to get over this i fell like i got cheated. what you guys think. i expected from my wife to say don't use these kinds of words with me , it should be used only by my husband.

She saying she spoke to him as he got married so he moved on his life. he married to our relative so there may be situation we have to meet each other. so for the basic human courtesy i talked with him with your permission. He did not do any personal messages except his birthday wishes which i told to you.

he made three or four personal calls. i talked only for 1/2 min. as he is trying to make more personal calls i cutoff the contact completely

I ponder like if third person hear this conversation why they will think about my wife. he is cheating on me right

TL;DR! is this the instance of cheating? how to bounce back from this

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My (27M) GF(29F) touches me sexually and it makes me uncomfortable

My (27M) GF(29F) touches me sexually and it makes me uncomfortable

To try to wrap the story short.

I've been with my Gf for 7 months now in a long distance relationship. Usually we see each other once a month for 7-9 days. What bothers me is the ammount of sexual touch I get. It kind of makes me less and less interested in any sexual activity.

Whenever she gets a Chance she squeezes my groin, slaps my ass, starts Playing with my nips, calls it cake etc. When I try to take away her hand from my chest she laughs it off and keeps pushing, it kinda creeps me out. Honestly it Turns me off/ makes me uncomfortable and I think she noticed some Changes, like me not really wanting to have sex.

Honestly I have no idea how to approach this topic with her. How do I bring it up and resolve it?

TLDR: How do I approach the situation of unwanted sexual touch with my gf?

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I (19m) want to repair my relationship with my gf (19f)

so me (19m) and my gf (19f) of almost 2 years broke up about a month ago and i’m completely lost. we first met at work when we where 17 and we started dating after our second date. we loved each other straight away. from the moment i met her i knew i wanted her to be my wife. we went through rough periods as all relationships do but as we where both very young we didn’t know how to fix them. we ended up breaking up and getting together constantly until we split up for about 2 months. i thought it was completely over but i messaged one of her friends and asked her to tell her to talk to me. we ended up meeting up and got back together for another 6 months. up until a month ago when we broke up again. this time i have a feeling it’s completely over but i don’t think i can live life without her. i need to get her back but i don’t know how. i know a lot of the reasons we broke up was my fault and i will change for the better i just need to let her now that. who has advice on what I should do?

—- tldr i want to fix my relationship and get back with my gf

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How tf do I get over him???

It’s been over a year, he’s M/28 been with his new girlfriend F/29 (who was actually my “friend”) for that same amount of time, and in reality we never truly dated.

As my “friend” (his now gf) liked call it, I was his foster girlfriend who he would come back to whenever no one else was giving him attention. Mind you outside of that he was my best friend. No one knew me F/28 the way he did. But relationship-wise just kept passing me up for his ex and/or other women.

Idk if you can even call this a situationship tbh. But he always said, “we’re basically in a relationship just without the sex.” (We had sex only twice but lots of phone sex). We’d work together all the time, be on the phone 24/7 and literally wake up together and fall asleep together on the phone if we weren’t at each others place.

At some point we confessed having feelings for each other at some point. But at the time he was messing around with different one of my friends and said at least we got that out of our systems and nothing can happen between us again. But things just kept happening.

In the end he decided to get with one of my friends even though I begged him not to and STILL expected us to be besties. So I cut them both off after completely breaking down like I’ve never seen before.

I think this is the worst I’ve ever been affected by a man. And yes I know I was being very very stupid. But I fell in love with the man that gave me gf treatment when he wasn’t occupied with someone else. And it made me feel good.

Anyway TL;dr I can’t stop thinking about this guy. So please, please, someone tell me how to get over him… I just want to be happy.

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15 years later and still thinking about my ex

It’s been close to 15 years since I (M42) stopped seeing her (F/47). I was out blowing off steam from the work week with the boys. Out at the bar having a few beers and laughs. This woman walks in with a friend. I don’t recall who said something but they stopped at our table and started talking. Drinks were bought for them and I hear, Im happily married but she’s not!! My ears perk up immediately like the idiot I was in my early 20s. So we end up dancing together. She is the most gorgeous woman I ever laid eyes on. I completely ignored the fact that she was married.

After the bar she comes to wear I am at having a few more beers. We end up just sitting in her car talking the rest of the night. We kissed for a while. The best kiss I’ve had to this day. I had never felt anything like it. Instant connection. So we basically end up in this full blown affair for 2 or so years. I finally end it because I decided enough is enough. She was never going to leave. It hurt like hell but it had to happen. Two weeks I guess later she filed for divorce. She started seeing other people as did it. I still thought about her more days than not. Fast forward. I’m married now with a ten year old daughter. She’s married again. When I started seeing my wife I cut all connectivity to her. Seemed fair to my wife I thought. Things have been not well with my marriage. She cheated for about a year seems like. We are trying to get over that. Then one day out of the blue I message the ex. I don’t know why. I just did. I didn’t really expect a response. But I was wrong. We have been talking back and forth most of the day now for a few weeks. I’m not this guy. I don’t do things to hurt people I care about. I didn’t want to be in an affair in the first place. But I’ll be damned if I dont still have feelings as strong as I ever did for this woman. I don’t know why or how but for some reason when it comes to me and her, nothing is off the table. I’ve never felt anything like this with another woman and I never will. I can’t stand the thought of hurting my wife even though she cheated. But I feel like it’s coming. Why after all this time do I find myself wanting the life I feel like I never got a fair shot at even though I already have this life I created? I’m miserable here and I know why but the guilt is eating me alive. I know I’m a piece of crap for all of it so spare me your judgement. I just want to understand how I can feel so strongly for someone I can’t have.

Tl;dr: I find myself still in love with my ex from 15 years ago and I don’t know why. It was a long affair from long ago but how I felt about her never changed. I hate that it will ruin my family but at the same time my family is already messed up from an affair my wife previously had. If you’d like to comment your opinion on the reason I feel this way then I suppose I welcome it. If not I would not have shared. I’m not sure if I did all this the right way. May not even be able to post it lol.

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The 3 Most Overlooked Relationship Compatibility Signs, According to an Expert - Newsweek

The 3 Most Overlooked Relationship Compatibility Signs, According to an Expert  Newsweek

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