Should I end contact with an old friend?

I've had this friend since the 5th grade, and we're in our 30s now. We used to be best friends for years from 5th grade all the way to high school, and beyond. In the last 5 or 6 years, we sort of fell out with each other for no real reason.

My friend vouched for me at this IT company, and got me a job there. Long story short, he ended up getting laid off after a few years and I stayed. I got promoted to a manager level, while he went off and began working for another company.

Ever since his lay off, we sort of stopped "hanging out" I guess. We're not on bad terms or anything, but we're just not close anymore.

I haven't hung out 1-on-1 with him in over... probably 6 years; long before his lay off happened. We chat all the time on discord, but it's not the same. The guy is also completely addicted to video-games, which may have something to do with this. I can see his steam profile, and he games anywhere from 120 hours to 150 hours of games PER 2 WEEKS. It's crazy, but whatever.

He's also made some pretty hurtful comments in the past. Now he's making more money than me in his new job, and one time he told something along the lines of "I'm making more money than you now, and you're still stuck in that shithole" which was totally out of left field and random to me. It was kind of bizarre, because I didn't do anything to cause his lay off. The company lost some contracts, and had to lay off a substantial part of the staff. But, ever since then I've been promoted and I make way better money than I did when we were both working there; but yes, he still makes more than me.

Which I don't understand... If he makes more money than me now, why would he be bitter towards me? I don't really get it.

Point is, what should I do? We don't hang out, we're not close. I don't even know if I could consider him a friend at this point anyway...

Thoughts? Any questions I can field are totally fine. I just want to know if I should just slowly end all contact with him, since it seems like this friendship isn't really serving either of us anymore.

But, at the same time; I have alot of great memories with him from the past and I feel like he's not the same person I used to be close with.

TLDR: Longtime friend has become distant, and no longer initiates 1-on-1 hangouts with me. Unsure if he's bitter about a lay off from a job we both held, or if he's just gotten bored of the friendship. Need advice on how to handle it from my end.

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I (23M) broke up w my now ex-gf (23F) because I was angry at her but instantly regretted and said sorry the next day but she doesn’t have feeling for me anymore. What should I do?

We had been together for over 5 years and had been thru many stages. I broke up with her when i was angry at her and instead of talking it out, i just broke up w her. On the next day, I instantly regretted my action and went to her to say sorry but she said she doesn’t have feeling for me anymore and she feel better on her own, she even deleted all of our photos on her phone. She gave me 1 month to show her that I love her but she didn’t cooperate and acted cold toward me, we still exchange message but she just replied with “ok”, I took her to work and picked her up from work, cooked for her and took her out for dinner… but nothing seem to improve. And I know for now she doesn’t put effort in any other guy. Both her and my parents support this love to become marriage on the next year but this seem so hopeless. Should I give her space or should I try to show her my affection? What should I do?

TL;DR: I broke up with my gf because I was angry at her but regretted and said sorry the next day but she said she doesn’t have feeling for me anymore and I try to save this relationship

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How do i f20 tall about sex to my m20 partner?

How do I talk with my partner about sex?

First of all, im sorry if this is the wrong sub but here it goes, I F20 have been together with my boyfriend M20 for 2 years and we have a good sex life but it's kind of boring, we're each other's firsts and I try to do all kinds of things that he likes, I'm getting him off in a lot of different ways but he doesn't really reprociates that.

Usually we just do the penetrant aspect, he finishes and since that doesn't really do a lot for me, he Usually talks to me until I'm done too (by myself) . I feel kind of left out of the whole thing which is stupid considering that it's something that should be done between the two of us and not just him and don't know how to bring it up without making him feel bad about himself.

Does anyone have tips? Any advice helps, I'm just kind of scared of confrontation

Tldr: boyfriend doesn't really offer variety during sex

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I(30F) RSVP'd for my cousin's(26F) wedding. My dog sitter fell through and my husband (30M) doesn't trust the substitute.

I RSVP'd myself and my husband for my cousin's wedding next week out of town but unfortunately plans with our trusted dog sitter fell through.

Someone on Rover who had good reviews and friendly dogs agreed to sub in, but my husband doesn't fully trust them as the platform has no way of vetting their dog sitters. He's agreed to letting them give them a trial run, but he is going to spend the whole trip worrying about our dog. He would prefer staying home with the pup and for me to go solo.

Back to my cousin, I know wedding planning is stressful and it really sucks for people to cancel after RSVPing. There's currently some family frustration against me for not visiting home more often. My cousin has never expressed any tension, but I imagine she hears some of the conversations about me. I was planning on giving her a cash gift that would cover the food/drink cost of myself and my husband so she at least would not be out of pocket.

How do I balance everyone's feelings? Would it be acceptable for me to cancel my husband's RSVP and apologize to my cousin about the circumstances but reassure her she would not be out of pocket. I think my aunt might give me grief, should I tell them a family issue came up for my husband? Should I also send the Rover sitter a small cancellation fee for the inconvenience?

Tl;Dr: Plans with dog sitter fell through. Do I cancel my husband's RSVP and fly solo or use the substitute despite his concerns?

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I can't trust my girlfriend (21M)(21F)

There's this thing that has been bugging me. In one of her previous relationships, my girlfriend went and saw an ex-ex boyfriend of hers during her relationship with an ex boyfriend. While she was on a trip, she asked her ex-boyfriend if she could see her ex - ex boyfriend. And he said he had nothing against it.

I have no clue what happened to them. They supposedly went out for a drink and caught up for a few hours and that's it.

I heard about that story from a friend of mine recently, and when I asked her, she said it's true, from detail to detail. She did see her ex ex, and she did ask her ex, but she did nothing.

Every time she goes to the town her ex lives in (most of her family is there, she goes there every 3-4 months) I'm waiting for a text "hey, I wanna see my ex" or something along those lines.

We talked about the situation and I told her that we'd be done for if she ever saw an ex of hers, and she was very dissatisfied with my boundary but she accepted iy.

She said she believes exes can be friends (bullshit) and she has nothing against that.

How do I gain trust? Whenever she goes there I feel anxious.

Note: She was texting her ex at the beggining of the relationship(first day of the relationship to be exact), and when I told her to stop she did stop. She never texted him again and she removed him from most social media.

tl;dr: I have a hard time trusting my girlfriend because of some things she's done in her past. Do I have right or am I tripping?

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5 Smart Ways to Repair Broken Trust in Relationships - Patheos

5 Smart Ways to Repair Broken Trust in Relationships  Patheos

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I 18NB want to breakup with my partner 18F of less than 6 months

I 18NB want to breakup with my partner 18F of less than 6 months

Is it ever acceptable to end a relationship via text? If I followed this route, it wouldn't just be a single text message ending the relationship. I would leave it open for a conversation.

If doing it over text ist an option what should I do? I need advice on how to get them in to come meet me to break up. In the past when we have had serious chats in person and over text messages.

TLDR: is it okay to end relationship over text and if it isnt how to set up the in person meet up?

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