Was it wrong of me (20M) to tell my best friend (18F) that I want to stop talking?

TLDR: We were very close friends that hung out a lot. But once school started she's been very distant and acting weird around me so I ended our friendship.

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For some context we are both in college. I met her in the spring and we got along really well because we are both math majors. After we met we started hanging out nearly every week for a few hours. And this continued into the summer. We planned to take a math class together. And she seemed very excited about this. She kept saying she would love to take a class with me. She also asked me to take econ with her to make it less boring.

Before school started I did try asking her to take a 3rd class with me. It is very easy and doesn't require attendance and has very little work. It's a free A. At first she said she would take it if she couldn't get into a singing class. But then she kept making excuses and she started getting awkward when I brought it up. I think this was the start of her weird behavior.

The first week we hung out for 3 hours normally. But then she told me she scheduled a art class right after our math class. I tried asking her when she'd be free to study. But she basically said she's too busy and scheduled poorly. I stopped asking and decided to let her ask me instead.

I would also walk with her after class but she started being very awkward and not talking talking at all. So I stopped walking with her after class and leave right away. She wouldn't message me at all and barely talked to me in class.

We had a math test coming up so I ended up sending her a message asking if we were going to study at all during this class. she didn't respond till the following day before class. And she was very awkward and seemed reluctant. But she told me a day she was free and planned to study the following week. The way she acted her and has been acting bothered me a lot. After class I ended up sending her a message saying I think we should stop talking. She asked why and I just said I didn't want to talk about it and she said okay. I moved seats and didn't say anything after that. I think she did try waiting for me after class but she didn't say anything to me.

a few weeks later I decided to message her to talk about it. I wanted to know why she was avoiding me and barely talking to me. She told me she hasn't noticed and that she's been stressed with school and said maybe that's why she was being awkward. She refused to explain further and said she didn't want to talk to me after I threw away our friendship so easily. I tried explaining to her how I felt but she kept putting the blame on me. Saying she wasn't avoiding me and that I should have talked to her instead of throwing away our friendship. This ended by her saying she doesn't want to be friends after this and thanked me for the closure.

I would like someones else thoughts on this. There is some more stuff but this is already really long. So let me know what you think.

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Ex friend/romantic partner blocked me and ceased contact, but called me today, 2 months later

I was in a “relationship” with this girl and we were very close. So close we would talk constantly every day for a year and a half, travel, go out to eat, open up to each other and have passionate moments together. We got romantic right away and everything was going great. After 1.5 years we started to argue about spending time with each other and gaining the others appreciation. One day she was tired of the arguing and decided to block me and disappeared. 2 months later she texts me and asks if we can talk about why I thought she was worth it and that she wants to take this really slow and get to know me on a deeper level. Later today she texts me: “You wanted to talk about it? Did you think? Why it’s worth it? I’m going to take a shower and then you can call.” Then several minutes later she texts me again saying: “what’s wrong? Is everything okay?”. I reply and say: “what do you mean?” And her response is: “I’m almost done.” I say “no worries take your time” and I call her a few minutes later. When she answers the phone I hear her crying and sniffling as she says: “So what do you want to talk about?” I’m a perplexed because she initiated this whole interaction, so I say: “Oh, the text from earlier? Well, your worth it to me because you were always there for me and genuinely wanted to spend time with me, expecting nothing but my company in return. We got really close and attached. I appreciated how you stayed close and present in our relationship.” Shortly after, while crying, she says: “I’m stupid and too nice..” When I asked why she thinks this of herself she responds saying: “I’m stupid because I’m too nice. When asked why she thinks that, she said she’s too nice and goofy to people.” I inquire: “Who are you treating too nice?” She vaguely replies, “Everyone.” When asked if it’s having to do with work, she says: “no.” Then when asked if it’s at school, she says “idk, and I don’t care.” She also said that she’s crying because she’s upset and sad. When asked if I am making her upset and sad, she says: “no.” When asked what is making her feel sad and upset, she replies: “I don’t know. I’m upset and sad about everything; I’m just stupid.”

The rest of the conversation is me reassuring her and attempting to bring her self image back to reality. I also let her know that I’m here if she ever wants to talk and that I want to know her what she is going through to try and support her as well as getting to know her on a deeper level (reiterating her initial text). I also let her know she doesn’t have to be alone because I’m here for her no matter what what happens or what she goes through.

I thought it was very strange that she was okay with crying to me on the phone but did not want to get into specifics on why she is feeling this way. We were very close a couple months ago, but now it seems she wants to start over and take things very slow.

What are your thoughts on her calling me seemingly out of the blue?

tl;dr

Friends with benefits blocked me after being close for 1.5 years. She called me 2 months later crying saying she is stupid, upset, and sad, but she said I am not the one making her feel this way.

Thoughts?

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Bf read my words wrong, got mad, and now were arguing.

TL;DR : Bf read my words wrong, got mad, and now were arguing. What should i do next?

Okay so

He was in highschool and i just dropped out from the same school (personal reasons). I was playing this one roblox game on my ipad, I encountered something and wanted information about that said thing, I couldn’t go out of the roblox tab to google it up, because then it would kick me out of the game (sadly) and I couldn’t make splitscreen because google isnt one of the apps at the bar thing.

But i did had a splitscreen to telegram, who which i asked my bf and my friend, those because i wanted it asap, (my dad restricted my internet to 6 hours a day, sad) I admit i did kinda worded it wrongly (i was in a rush), “please look up the information about this” instead of “can you please look up the information about this” though my intentions was to ask for help, not force.

He has a busy schedule, but that time i ask was during lunch break, surely he has some time to help. He did, he said ok and told me to wait. He didn’t say no.. so I thought everything was okay! No, it wasn’t.

After helping he got mad at me and i was confused, like, i don’t understand. He said hes stressed and accused me of using him, when all i did was ask for help. And that was the only time i did, before this, nothing. I said if he didn’t wanna help he can just say no. But nah he was still mad.

Then he had to go, which left me confused on what did i do.

When he came back he apologised for being mad, and said he understands he shouldn’t. I was still confused and hurt so instead of forgiving, I decided to keep asking and justifying. I reminded him that he could’ve just said no. He said my tone wasn’t in the asking way, it was the commanding way. He has ADHD so i get where the misunderstanding of tones come from, but this is texting, he could’ve asked for my tone indicator or asked me what i had meant, or even told me to ask him more politely/word it better. My text wasn’t in all caps lock or anything, it just didn’t have a “can”.

He even tried to justify him blowing up because of him being stressed. Honestly we did have this conversation before, and we ended up agreeing every time he blew up or whatever, he has to apologise because at the end of the day, my feelings was hurt still. Like, “I’m sorry for blowing up/getting mad/getting stressed”.

In my views, being stressed out isnt a justification to blow up, but instead its an explanation, especially when all the other did was just ask for help. You may tell me your views on this, because i don’t know if its more justifiable or explanatory.

He says he feel mocked by me asking him to look up information about the game (highschool internet blocks games).

Now he had to go again and we can only talk the next day.

What should i do?

(If its important, my psychiatrist said i have autistic traits, and I’m still in the process of getting fully diagnosed.)

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Lady Finds Out Bae Has Been in Another Serious Relationship for 4 Years: “I Was Always the Problem” - Tuko.co.ke

Lady Finds Out Bae Has Been in Another Serious Relationship for 4 Years: “I Was Always the Problem”  Tuko.co.ke

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My BF called me loose out of nowhere

My BF (23M) and I (24F) were laying in bed while suddenly out of the blue, he told me if I know if there is a cosmetic procedure to tighten the vagina. I asked him why did he ask me this out of nowhere, mind you, we were talking about something else. And he told me that I was "loose". He then proceeded to reassure me that no matter what, he loves me and that he can put up with it because of how much he loves me.

I haven't had sex with anyone else besides him and my ex (my ex was my first) so it had me thinking how I became loose. I defended myself for a bit and told him that the "husband stitch" is painful for the woman and risks nothing for the man and his pleasure. He asked me if I don't want it, i became quiet and just dumbfounded by what just happened. I just said, if i am loose, then I will take the procedure when I get pregnant and gave birth in the future, for him.

Before I was about to get home, he asked me if we could have another round of sex but i was so put off by what he just said to me that I made an excuse to say that my abdomen hurts and that I gotta go.

I don't think i will be ever in the mood to have sex again. I feel disgusted with myself.

He treats me right, loves me, and is the sweetest bf i have ever had but what just happened earlier was shocking to me.

Tl:DR; Bf suddenly said i was loose and asks me for a cosmetic surgery for vagina tightening but then reassures me that he loves me no matter what i am and will put up with it.

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What do you think of this situation...

Im a guy 33, been dating a girl 27 for almost 3 years. I love her and I am contemplating on proposing within the next 6-12months.

Last 2 months however, she started acting a bit colder, a bit snappy and irritated. She was busy at work a lot so I thought that maybe she is just tired and let her have some space.

Last week, she said she will to visit her hometown with her sister 3 hours north because her parent's home needs renovation and she wanted to see what needs to be done because she's been saving up. She said she has a lot of relatives there so she will stay there for around 5 days.

3-4 days before she left there, she wanted to do some shopping. She works hard, but because my salary is much higher than hers, I thought I would cover it. She bought 3 sets of Bras, some new make up (she kept consulting with her female coworker for some reason) even though I was right there. Then she went for a hair treatment and got her nails done.

Then she left. We usually text each other (and occasionally call) in the morning, throughout the day and in the evening, lovey type of stuff. We kept doing that the first few days, although she kept going to sleep earlier than usual because she was very tired.

As the weekend started she messaged me saying that her aunts and her sister are going to the beach town (a few hours west of her location). I told her to have fun and enjoy.

I really missed her on the weekend because we usually meet those days. So I decided to call her at night...as I am about to dial, I get a message like: I am going to sleep now, love you, good night...

I still dialed because she just sent the message...no response.

I felt kind of lonesome, so I decided to call her the next morning and I was getting a weird feeling. No response. Half hour later she messaged me with sleepy photo sitting on the toilet of the hotel she was at, saying she just woke up. I asked her to call when she can... and take some snaps of the beach :)

She replied that her aunt fell down the stairs and needs to go to hospital, so no beach today. I asked her how was her aunt, and that I hope nothing is serious.

Evening comes around and she said that it's rainy and her aunt is not seriously hurt. I tried to dial her phone...no response.

Maybe this is too early to tell, but I have been cheated on once before (a long time ago, but still) so maybe I am overreacting. I miss her a lot and I've been saying this in the messages, I don't understand why she won't give me a quick 10-15 minute call.

Any thought on what may be happening?

TL; DR: My girlfriend went on vacation, she messages cute things, but never picks up the calls.

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Advice on how I (36M) can survive a visit from my parents (60s M&F)

Hopefully this fits this sub. I live an 8 hour flight from my parents, and they have come to visit me for the first time since COVID. However, I'm a very independent person, and having to spend every waking hour with them is driving me insane. In particular is car rides - my Dad insists on sitting in the front seat, and proceeds to fidget constantly and breathe loudly (due to COPD and asthma). This is completely unintentional on his part (as in, he does not realise he is doing it), and for some reason this just triggers a response from me. It's like nails on a chalkboard, and makes the drive excruciating.
I've managed to arrange a day off from them this week, but between now and then I have to survive a 3 day roadtrip with several hours of driving each way. This reaction of mine is entirely on my end, and there's nothing to confront my Dad about ("hey Dad, can you not breathe as loudly as you do?" Is not exactly going to work). Does anyone have any tips how I can manage my annoyances without having a breakdown which would sour their visit for them?

For some background relevance, my relationship with my parents is OK, not terrible but not super close either (I left my home country when I was 21 and have never wished to move back, to the slight disappointment of my parents). I have been suffering from mental health issues for the past 2 years, but I am slowly improving and talking to a therapist regularly. My parents know this, but don't want to talk about it (they're old and British - that's just the way things work there). I also have no SO to help out with the 'burden'.
I feel like this is a ridiculous thing to ask in this sub, but I would like to maintain my relationship as it is with my parents, and at this rate either I'm going to snap at my Dad for what are pretty minor things, or going to have an anxiety attack bought on by the thought of having to suffer through another several hour car journey. In particular I'm hoping for any healthy coping mechanisms when I'm driving and find myself starting to get annoyed but cannot remove myself from that situation.
Thanks in advance for any advice.
TL:DR: Parents visiting, some aspects of how they exist are excruciatingly annoying to me, need advice on how to survive another week with then.

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