Communication advice

People on Reddit. I need your advice.

So I'm a guy M31, who's usually outspoken. I communicate well. I learned to share my feelings, thoughts, concerns, to my previous partners. I do believe in the power of communication. And that if we communicate well about what's bothering us, we might actually find a solution together.

BUT, in my recent relationship. My bf M26 is the total opposite of that. It's hard for him to communicate. Briefly, he was raised in a family that did not listen to him or care about his opinion. That led him to handle his emotions by himself. We've known each other for almost a year and a half. And we've been together as a couple for 6 months now.

When he first told me that he has trouble communicating, I didn't really think it was gonna be that big of a deal. I thought that it's just gonna take him more time to talk and that I can eventually get him to share. But it turns out that it's way harder than I thought it would be. I've tried comforting him. Constantly telling him that I'm always by his side, that he can trust me and share anything with me without feeling judged. I'm not here to judge him. I love him so much but at this point I don't know what else I need to do to get him to open up. Sometimes I feel like I just wanna give up and tell him that I cannot keep up with this pace anymore. But that's not what I want.

we NEED to talk about stuff that are crucial to our relationship (fears, past relationships, sexual desires, kinks, etc). And that is reflecting negatively on the relationship. The last time I tried to push him to talk, he felt pressured and threatened. I tried to convince him that this was not my intention.

All I want, is for us to be able to communicate so we can make all the topics listed before clearer on both ends. He said he needed time. To open up, to trust me enough and not feel judged. But the more I wait, the more i am obsessed by the thought that I cannot keep up with this much longer. I need to see some progress. Cuz I feel like my hands are tied, and I don't know what else I should do to make him comfortable. Any advice?

Tl;dr: Bf finds it hard to communicate. I need advice on how to get to him without making him feel pressured.

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(25f)(27m) I argued with my boyfriend about my ability for satisfying him. I feel like he's treating me like I was stupid

Long story short, he (27m) is my first boyfriend and until I met him when I was 24 I had received zero male attention.

We are very happy together and in spite of being very busy and often in different towns our intimate moments are very good and fun. I had made my research so I can be a better lover for him, but I still feel I'm fairly unexperienced since I had never been with someone before him.

The other day we were in bed and I apologized to him because I felt literally any other girl could satisfy in bed better than me. He got upset and disagreed with me. I felt like he was insulting my inteligence, I mean the vast majority of women are more experienced than me, and thus better lovers. We ended up having and argument and slept all night without touching each other, which felt so wrong.

TLDR: I am unexperienced when coming to sex and my boyfriend doesn't admit that it makes me a worse lover

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I (26F) saw my BF (28M) like a random girl's thirst trap picture on Twitter.

I was browsing my boyfriend's likes on Twitter and saw that he liked this random girl's closeup photo. She was wearing a loose lingerie top and her nipples were almost peeking out with some extra showing of armpit. I checked the girl's twitter and she only has a few decent amount of followers and likes (so she's not one of those popular thirst trap influencers). I've only recently started opening twitter again.

I've also seen him like other female photos showing thighs and lingeries. How am I supposed to feel about this and what am I supposed to do?

TLDR: I've been really anxious these past few days and I haven't talked to him the way I used to. I get anxious and uneasy everytime I think about. Am I overeacting or what?

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Dumped

I(27F) got dumped by my boyfriend(26M) recently. Our relationship lasted for 3 years. We had recently celebrated our anniversary too.

I don't know how to cope up with this. I have become numb and motionless. My work is getting affected. There is no one in my life who I can talk to about this. I feel like there is nothing left in my life to live for. I know this is a very strong statement to say but this is what I am feeling. I am trying my best to move on but i am not able to. Don't know what to do. How to move forward. I don't think i will ever be able to move on from this.

TL;DR!: I am just stuck in this endless phase of sadness and hopelessness.

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Relationship advice: These five bad habits are ruining your romance - USA TODAY

Relationship advice: These five bad habits are ruining your romance  USA TODAY

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I (24f) was messaging a random guy (24m) in hopes to catch him cheating and don't know what to do now.

Hello everyone. I hope this post doesn't make me seem terrible because that is not at all my intention. Honestly, very simple situation (I think) I just don't know where to go from here. I (24f) got a message yesterday morning from a FB friend who I don't know (24m).

He was an old friend of mine's ex's brother and somehow we ended up as friends on FB. This was probably 6 or 7 years ago and we have never once communicated. Well out of the blue yesterday morning, he liked 2 of my pictures (most recent profile pic and one from about 6 years ago) and messaged me saying hello. I went on his page and saw that he has been married since 2019. Now, I have a boyfriend (25m) who I've been dating for 5+ years that I love and have zero interest in this guy who messaged me. I am strictly replying to see how far he's gonna go as he is married and I find it wrong to be messaging a "pretty woman" behind her back.

So, conversation started off basically figuring out how we knew each other and me asking why he messaged me which is where the pretty woman thing comes in. Then it gets basic, getting to know you type stuff like where do you work, what are you studying etc. I decided last night I don't want this to be something that carries on for an extended period of time so I cut middle of the conversation this morning and said I see that you're married, so why are you messaging me?

He basically says there's a bit of tension and he's looking for conversation. I said I wouldn't like it if I had a man messaging other women even when things are tough like it just seems wrong especially considering we don't know each other and all these years later start communicating. He said he knows I'm completely right he just wanted to know what it's like talking to a female without feeling bad because it's more than just tension, it's a lot I guess. He "genuinely" apologized more than once and said he was just looking for conversation and knew I was in another country and he didn't know who I was(???). But idk what I'm supposed to say to him from here or if I'm supposed to tell his wife?

That was my whole original plan was to message her and let her know because I would hate to be in her position and not have someone tell me what's going on behind my back. But at this point, I'm feeling like they're 2 grown people who need to deal with their relationship on their own and I honestly don't know what to do or what to say to him even at this point. Does anyone have any advice?? Should I just cut myself out of the equation and pretend like it never happened? Idk if that makes me a bad person..

TL;DR - FB friend that I don't know from 6-7 years ago randomly messaged me, he is married and I wanted to catch him cheating to tell his wife. He's now saying there's a lot going on between them and he was looking for genuine convo with another female. Don't know what to say to him or if I should tell his wife or just let them sort it out like 2 grown adults.

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my (21f) boyfriend (24m) is lying to me and i dont know what to do

my boyfriend of 3 years and i have a good relationship so far, and we established that we will not go through each others phone earlier on in the relationship, but lately he has been very guarded of his phone and secretive of his texts, so i did what i know is wrong of me ... i went through his phone and found that he was texting a girl that he knows i dont really like. apparently she is in town and they are planning to meet up for dinner on thursday, but he told me he had a work dinner on thursday. basically, he lied to me about his plans. he even texted her that it was better that his gf (me) don't know about this, which is weird.

do i confront him? he might get angry at me for looking through his phone, which is what is stopping me. any advice would be great.

TLDR: i went through my boyfriends phone without him knowing and found out that he was planning to meet up with a girl i dont like.

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