I (m26) asked my girlfriend’s (f27) best friend (f26) for a threesome and I’m struggling with an ultimatum

As the above text states. Some context for this story, said friend has taken me on friend dates before and expressed interest in me privately and specifically stated that she would be interested in being a third for a couple sometime. I took this as her asking permission to try it out sometime.

Yesterday, a group of us were day drinking at the lake. When the two of us were alone, girlfriends friend and I took a couple of pictures together and she started telling us about the date she went on the night before (which was with a poly man) and I took that as her wanting to have a threesome with my girlfriend and myself and offered it to her.

The thing is I genuinely don’t remember doing it. I don’t casually drink anymore so when I get drink, it hits extra hard. My first step to fixing this whole problem is to cold turkey drinking. Secondly, I need to explain everything that happened to my girlfriend, but idk how to. Any advice?

tl;dr I asked my girlfriend’s best friend for a threesome. Help.

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I(20F) am having the worst intrusive thoughts about my relationship with my bf (21M)

I plan on breaking up with my boyfriend soon, we haven't been the same in a while. And we have tried too many times to fix things. Recently my anxiety became horrible, to the point that i am throwing up and physically feeling pain. I've been thinking a lot about the things i did in the past during our relationship. He's my first boyfriend and we go to seperate colleges in seperate cities. We have been in a LDR for 1.5yrs now. We had just started dating when we moved away to go to our colleges. At that time I found a guy in my class kinda attractive and fun to talk to. However, i never wanted to get with him, and my boyfriend was my first and only choice. I can never imagine cheating on him, i love him dearly. The guy crossed my mind a few times but i tried to shut it off. And eventually i could, i forgot about his existence. I had also indirectly told him i have a bf, so that things wouldn't escalate. I also thought another guy in my friend group was attractive and i enjoyed talking to him. But I've never thought of cheating on my boyfriend or choosing someone else above him. I have a lot of love and respect for him.

I told him about this a week back, and apologized a lot, he forgave me pretty quickly, but I'm not able to forgive myself.

I don't know why now, after an year, I'm thinking about all this all of a sudden, and I'm feeling insanely guilty and disgusted with myself. I feel like i wronged my boyfriend. Not just this, my intrusive thoughts have gotten to the point that, I'm imagining things with his friends, i never ever thought this way before, and now in my head I'm like, oh u would make out with any of his friends, u r capable of this, if u think anyone looks good, ull do it. And then I'm imagining it and crying, and being disgusted by myself. I would never do something like this in a million years. But I'm just thinking of every other guy i know and imagining it and then blaming myself for imaging it. It's like telling urself don't imagine an orange. Uve already imagined the orange while telling urself not to. It's getting really out of control. I've never felt this way before or thought this way before. I feel disgusted with myself for imagining it but as i tell myself to not think of it, i keep thinking more. And trust me ive only seen these people in pictures, never met them, never thought about them. All of this is giving me a lot of anxiety, making me feel like I'm an out of control freak. Ive never felt this way before or thought something to this extent. I just think the worst possible thing and apologize to him in my head, and to god. And just think that it's fine, we r gonna end anyway, he will be better off without me coz i have such a sick mind.

I would really appreciate if someone would talk to me about this. As i basically have no one to talk about this, openly. Normally I would've gone to my bf for help, but this is too sick.

TLDR: I'm having intrusive thoughts, that i would never do.

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lot’s of built up anger towards bf (m18)

i (f18) have been so mad at my boyfriend (m18) recently. I love him. We’ve been dating for two years and we’re best friends. i’m just getting tired of him doing the same things over and over again, it’s making me start to blow up on him.

there’s always something with his friends. he doesn’t understand why i don’t want him taking 14 yr olds to get nicotine/weed or why it offends me his friends disrespected me. he’ll make jokes i’m not okay with around me, long as his friends are around. he’ll be rude to me just cause my brother is in the room.

he insists on being brutally honest and i don’t wanna hear that i’ve gained weight or that i embarrassed him. or that my outfit sucks

and then i get the sweetest apology known to man with no change because “this is just how i am”

tdlr: getting constantly mad at boyfriend over little things, what do i do?

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Interfaith Voices: The lasting value of relationships - Corvallis Gazette-Times

Interfaith Voices: The lasting value of relationships  Corvallis Gazette-Times

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I (20M) need to wait a month or two to date the girl I like (19F)

So, I had a fwb situation with someone (19F) who now ended up being in my friend group. It was fine at first but she tended to pressure me into things and make moves when I was drunk or just out of a relationship, and it felt a little off. I didn’t really want to do it a lot of the time. And I realised this and cut things off about 6 months ago. She however still likes me.

The girl I like currently is best friends with this girl I used to have a fwb situation with. The ex-fwb girl is currently changing her depression medication so is having really bad mood swings, and this will probably continue for about the next 6 weeks or so.

I’ve kissed the girl I like a few times and we have really strong feelings for one another, but agreed last night that we can’t sneak around behind my ex-fwb’s back as we are both mates with her (shes part of my friend group and best mates with the new girl). We decided that we would see other people for a while until her medication stuff was sorted, and then we’d speak to her about it and tell her we were going to date. We can’t do it right now because it would be way too much with how the medication is messing with her head.

I’m just not sure whether it’s worth waiting though. I really like this girl, and I don’t really want to see anyone else. I’m just not really sure how to go about this. Any advice is much appreciated, thanks.

TL:DR; the girl I like is best friends with my ex-fwb, who still likes me. She’s changing medication for depression right now and it’s hard for her so we’re waiting before doing anything more serious.

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I (23m) going through break up with (22f) and i need to know if I'm gonna go through the same pain again even though it's been three months

I (23m) was in a one year relationship with (22f) , I was fully attached to her and I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her, three months ago and after a year of dating she told me she have feelings for someone else and she can't understand herself and why she feels so, so she told me we can't stay together as long as she have these mixed feelings, and we stopped talking but we were still following each other on social media. I was really hurt that she let these feelings stand between us and I decided to move on. For three months I went through tough time trying to heal , i goind the gym and i started working on myself but deep inside i wasn't ready to let go Three months passed but i still miss her everyday and i frequently dream about her, two days ago I saw her story where she put a song that she misses someone really bad and part of me thought it could be me, so i sent her a romantic poem that I missed her too and i want her in my life. She replied that she is in a relationship with the other guy she had feelings for him and she can no longer be in my life by any form and then she asked me to delete all of our pictures together and she deleted my number and removed me from her social media. Now I'm heartbroken again and i need to know if I'm going to go through the same pain again that i had for the last three months or is it going to be easier this time? Do i need three months more to feel okay again ?

Tl;Dr. I went through heartbreak for three months and now i feel I'm back to the same point where my heart got first broken.

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My [28M] girlfriends [23F] bad moods are causing tension in our home

Myself and my girlfriend recently moved to a new city and are living together in a small apartment. It’s been nice for the most part, but there’s a problem that’s building. My girlfriend can be incredibly moody and hot headed. The thing is that it’s never anything malicious, she’s just easily annoyed over small things.

I understand that she can’t be happy all the time, but It’s the frequency of her moods that’s bothering me. I feel like I can’t go a day without her getting upset about something.

She is moody at some point every day. Sometimes she’s mad at me, more often it’s a general bad mood. On occasion she (and she says this herself) “ wakes up on the wrong side of the bed” and has an entire day where shes fuming. These days ruin my entire day.

I’ve tried to help her get out of the mood, from talking to her, but she doesn’t want to talk about it and get’s upset. I’ve tried cooking healthy and exercising too, which works a little, but she’s still a hot head by nature.

Because we are living in a small space, in a new city and don’t have many friends yet, I feel like I don’t have an escape.. If she’s moody the best thing to do is leave, but that leaves me just wandering around the city alone and killing time in the movies/ at bars until she calms down. It’s not fair.

Lately, it’s been getting to me more and I’ve been having angry outbursts that I’m ashamed of. I can handle her moods, but I need a few days in between. I’m really being pushed and I don’t like how I’m reacting to the pressure. I told her that the main source is coming from her and told her she needs to talk to someone like a counsellor, because I’m not a professional and can’t handle the frequency of the fights. She said that she’s not ready for that and doesn’t want to be forced.

I honestly don’t know where else to go from this. When I actually think about what she’s annoyed about or what instigates the fights are, it feels ridiculous because they are over such small things, but accumulated, they are really bothering me

TLDR; My girlfriend is hot headed and easily annoyed. She gets annoyed over small things every single day and over time this is starting to frustrate me cause me to have outbursts. The source of the arguments is coming from her mood. I’ve tried to get her to exercise, eat healthy and I’ve talked to her, but it’s draining me. I suggested therapy, but she’s not ready. What can I do if the source of our fights is coming from her mood that she’s not resolving herself?

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