My (24F) bf (26M) has been ignoring me for 2 days, what should I do?

For some context, my bf and I have been together for about a year and a half, and we’ve lived together for about 6 months. He’s very hot headed and gets angry at the drop of a hat, and I’m a very sensitive person. When things with him are good, they’re really really good. But lately, things with him are rarely good.

His brother was in the IDF, and with everything going on in Israel/Palestine, his brother recently went back to Israel. This has (understandably) put a lot of stress on him, and he’s been very upset lately. 2 days ago, we got in a fight over something stupid, that escalated very very quickly. I told him he was yelling at me and I didn’t like when he spoke to me like that, and he said that by accusing him of yelling at me, I was gaslighting him. This type of fight happens often, where I tell him I feel like he’s yelling at me, and he tells me that I’m gaslighting him by making that accusation. However, after the most recent fight, he left immediately after work to go stay at his dads house. I texted him to see if he and I could meet up to talk about what happened, to which he said “I refuse to have a conversation with you about this. A conversation with you is not productive”. He hasn’t spoken to me since, and it’s now been days since we’ve spoken in person or seen each other.

To be honest, I’ve been thinking about breaking up with him for some time. He can be very manipulative, and since the start of our relationship, I feel like I’ve changed so much of myself to accommodate his anger that I don’t even remember who I was before the relationship started. But everytime I think about breaking up with him, things turn around and he’s the person I remember falling in love with. He’s never left and ignored me before, and I’m not sure our relationship will ever bounce back from this. What’s worse, is that he owes me about $3000 in rent he hasn’t paid (probably another product of him manipulating me) and if I break up with him, I’ll likely never be paid that money back. What do I do? Do I break up with him if/when he returns? Or do I hope that this space he’s taking is what he needs to come back a more level headed person?

TL;DR my boyfriend has been ignoring me for 2 days, and our relationship is problematic as is. Should I break up with him or hope the space he’s taking is what he needs to come back a more level headed person?

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Is he(28M) just being friendly or does he want to date?

A coworker(28M) of mine(32F) has suddenly started messaging me a lot ever since I told him I broke up with my boyfriend and I moved in his area.

Most of the time it's banter about work or organising things to do together as a group, but we'll be talking for hours and he always replies instantly.

Last time we shifted the conversation more into our dating life and how he feels awkward asking people out, asking me what type of date I like for a first date etc. (I said I like going for a coffee and a walk)

Then at one point he asked me to go for a walk, just the two of us, close to where I live. This will be on a non working day.

There are other coworkers who live in our area, he didn't mention anything about them, but I know he brought up in conversation with one of them that I moved here too now.

I don't fully understand what his intentions are. On one side he's saying he's not dating and especially wouldn't date at work, on the other he completely changed how he is with me.

TL;dr: Coworker asked me to go out for a walk just the two of us on a non working day after I told him that's what I like doing for a first date.

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I feel like a stranger in my own friend group.

I brought together a group of people (4 guys including me and 2 girls) who wouldn't have met otherwise, a year and a half ago during the start of degree college. 9 months ago, my best friend in that group and I started dating, who happens to get constant attention from me and the group. I broke up 2 months ago for reasons I do not want to mention, it got really messed up on both sides but once we stopped talking, it feels like I have become lonely, no one talks to me on their own anymore, especially when she's around. Everyone's showering attention only to her and being really touchy with her and it hurts to see it in front of my own eyes, all the time.

If I talk to her, it feels like I'm leading her on again and it could escalate but I really like these guys and I cry myself to bed because I am so quiet and no one ever seems to notice but the moment she's quiet, everyone just gives her so much attention, asks her what's up, hugs her and what not. I do not want to stay here anymore but I have no other friends in this class. My only other friend is a guy from another branch with whom I share everything with but even he is in a relationship and I always feel I'm burdening him and his gf. What do I do? I have 2 years of college left.

TLDR: I split up with my gf who was in the same group and I feel like a loner because only she gets attention while no one even has asked me what happened, maybe because I am a guy, so I have to fit into the very group I made, but I have no other friends. What do I do?

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I (27 m) can’t take a decision about who I wanna be with.

I (27 m) was in a situation-ship about a year ago with a girl that we really liked each other but this has ended with me heartbroken for at least 6 months. Before that happens and after I moved on, I’m having a hard time deciding about with which girl I wanna make a move on from the girls I like/have good relationship with. Is it because I’m not getting deep enough in the connection with them? Or what exactly might be stopping someone from making a move on many girls that he knows there are mutual feelings between them?

tl;dr: I can’t take a decision about who I wanna be with

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How do I (F19) know if I'm in the differentiation phase in my relationship or if I really don't love him(M19) anymore?

How do I know if I'm in the differentiation phase in my relationship or if I really don't love him anymore? Everything is in the title. We did some wonderful things together and got along incredibly well. But two months ago he did things that hurt me, I tried to communicate with him but he didn't care. Now I have become insensitive to anything that could make me sad coming from him. Now it sometimes takes me a lot longer to respond to him because I forget, I'm very happy when I go out with my friends, I don't miss him so much anymore.

TL;DR; : How do I know if I'm in the differentiation phase in my relationship or if I really don't love him anymore?

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What is 'spider-webbing'? Relationship experts tell all about VERY toxic dating trend - and reveal how YOU can - Daily Mail

What is 'spider-webbing'? Relationship experts tell all about VERY toxic dating trend - and reveal how YOU can  Daily Mail

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I (27f) am confused with what this guys (26m) intentions are

I first met this guy about 6 years ago we were both in a relationship. We talked a couple times as friends. We were barely acquaintances. Fast forward to this year, we now work together and see each other briefly once a week. He’s higher ranking than me where I work and kind of unofficially my boss. We matched on a dating app and went on a date, it went good.

The next week we went on another date. He was very kind and chivalrous…opened the car door for me all the time, let me hold his hand, paid, even asked to take a picture together... we went back to my place, hung out and etc etc. I was going to be spending thanksgiving alone that weekend, so he stopped by my place with a plate of food for him and me to have a thanksgiving dinner together.

Fast forward a couple weeks..I asked him to hang out again. I went over to his place and we went on a walk and watched a movie, he cooked for me and we just hung out.

The thing is…when we’re not together there’s NO communication. We don’t talk. We don’t text. It’s like we don’t exist. His job is pretty busy, but he’s also the type of person to almost never be on his phone/a bad texter.

But when we’re together it’s great. He always asks me about myself, kisses me a lot (head, cheek). When we were cuddling watching a movie, I fell asleep and half woke up to him rubbing my head, playing with my hair, kissing my head. He asks about kids and jokes about my good genes.

I’m just so confused as to what his intentions are. When we’re together it seems like a he’s super into me but when we’re not it’s zero. I’m 100% positive that there’s no other girlfriend in this situation.

Tl;dr when I hang out with this guy everything is perfect but when we’re not physically together we don’t talk.

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