My girlfriend (F29) is upset and doesn’t respect me (M26) anymore now that I eat meat.

At the beginning of the year I opted to go vegetarian, I had never tried it and was open to the experience of it. My girlfriend whom is a vegan was obviously quite happy about this decision and encouraged me to try it. Fast forward to the beginning of May when I took the personal decision to once again eat meat due to personal reasons. Currently I am feeling a lot of anger, disrespect and hatred from her to me for choosing to eat meat again. She has openly admitted to ‘no longer respecting me’ and that I am being stupid for choosing to eat meat. The kicker was the peer pressure I feel from her to return to being a vegetarian/vegan, she would say along the lines that ‘if I respect her I would remain a veggie’. What should I do or say to this? I cannot have a normal conversation with her without her becoming upset, crying and ending the discussion or as she sees it an argument on her terms always. I feel completely belittled sometimes and judged every single time I eat meat. I love my girlfriend and we have a great relationship. There has never been a serious problem before and we both had tremendous respect for one another. I want to get back to this way and not let this current situation fester into something awful down the line. Any advice would be great, thanks all.

TLDR; my girlfriend shows a lot of anger and disrespect now that I eat meat again and am not longer vegetarian.

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Advice for the next step

Close to the start of last month me (23m) and my girlfriend (21f) broke up. It was completely my fault and I did repeated actions that had caused problems before. This was my first serious realtionship it lasted 1 year and 3 months. A few days after she asked if we could still be friends or at the very least fuck buddies.

Well yesterday was my 24th Birthday and it was horrible. The conversations with people just coming to a standstill and being left on read/ sent. Hurt so much I haven't felt this alone. To make matters worse the day prior I had got back home from taken my ex on a 3.5 hour drive to her new job and helped her unpack (I had offered). The state of the staff living were horrible. So I don't blame for asking me to help repack her and driving her home. I don't think trip was a waste. I felt so good spending almost 2 days with her alone.

But to go from that to feeling so alone and having being left on sent for 24+ hours now on top of how I was already feeling really sucks. I reached to my friend of 19 years (23m) and told him about how lost and alone I felt. The worst part is any notification I get washes this feel dread and isolation untill I see it wasn't her,The feeling just gets bigger. At least other people messaged even if it was just happy birthday

I know that she's alive at the very least I cause I can see her actively play a game on steam then when she leaves it idleing on said game

TL;Dr 24m and 21f broke up a month ago spent over 24hours with her the next day on my birthday I feel like everyone ghosted me especially my ex who wanted to stay friends/fwbs

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Can't tell if I (25f) love my boyfriend (22m) anymore, what do I do?

My boyfriend (22m) and I (25f) have been together nearly 2.5 years. I was madly in love with him until maybe about 6 months ago. I've been questioning my love for him & our relationship. It wasn't that much at first but the past few weeks it's become an every day, all day thing. I can't tell if I love him. I don't like saying 'I love you, too' when he says it to me.

We've had discussions about this several times. He is still really in love with me and doesn't want to break up. I don't want it to end either, but I don't know what to do. I still find him physically attractive, but I don't want to have sex with him at all. We've had sex problems throughout our entire relationship. I used to always want sex and he didn't, and now it's the opposite.

I just want to feel how I used to feel. I look a old photos and remember how it used to be and it's what I want so much. It's hard to pinpoint when it all started going wrong. I have a lot of mental health issues though and I can't tell if that's the main problem.

He's a really good guy who treats me amazing, but he is socially awkward and that's probably the biggest issue I have with him. Sometimes I see other men who are better at talking and I crave to be with someone who can be like that. But then there's SO much about my boyfriend that I do love and value. I think I can be really critical of other people and I can't tell if I'm just being overly critical and if I need to just accept him for who he is.

We live together though and I think that is also making the issue worse. Sometimes I really just want space from him and that's something I can't really have. We moved to a new city together and neither have made friends yet so we only ever hang out with each other. Plus we live in a studio apartment so are always in the same room.

If we lived apart I feel like I'd suggest having some space for a bit, but that's not something we can just do in this situation. But then it's not that simple to just move out either.

Sometimes I have moments where I feel like he is the one for me, but then other moments I want it to end. Just don't know what to do, but a huge part of me doesn't want it to end.

TL;DR Been with my boyfriend 2.5 years, the past 6 months I've been questioning if I want to be with him. Sometimes I really want it to end but sometimes I really don't want it to end. I don't know what to do.

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How to stop caring about what my ex is thinking about me?

TL;DR Ex an I work together. Self-esteem shattered by criticism and rejection during the relationship. Therapy helps, but ex's voice still haunts, causing anxiety, especially at work. Fear of new relationship being affected. Struggling with ex's success post-breakup, feeling unfairness of the world.

My (30F) ex(30F) and I broke up about 9 months ago. The relationship was quite abusive: she treated me like garbage from start to finish. Just to give you an example: we worked together, and she played jealousy games involving a coworker of ours. After a while, she admitted doing it because she envied my position in the company.

Anyway, my self-esteem was terrible during this relationship because she criticized me about everything: my way of working, my personality, my English skills (I'm a non native speaker), mocked me, etc. Also, we weren't having sex anymore, and I was rejected many times.

All of this destroyed my self-esteem, which I'm recovering now, but even though I'm getting better, it seems like I've been traumatized by this relationship, and I always hear her voice in my head criticizing everything. Every time I do something, there's an automatic thought like, "she won't like it and will criticize me." This is causing me enormous anxiety, especially because we work together. I'm already going to therapy and I've been doing much better but I can't stop caring about what she would think about everything I do.

I'm also starting to see someone else whom I really like, and I'm afraid this will affect us somehow.

Furthermore, I can't accept the fact that, after she treated me so badly, she's managing to do well: she got what she wanted (same salary as me and a manegement position) and is now dating someone else. I feel like this world is so unfair... bad people always thrive.

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Wife(33F) Belittle me(28M) when she gets angry and highlights my insecurities during fight. Is this normal? Please help , I am confused.

Hi Gentlemen & Ladies,

I(28M) got married to my wife(33F) last year who is 5 years elder to me.I I am gradually loosing my self esteem and suffering from low confidence & inadequecy. I am somewhat introvert and secretly resent her for her actions. I am confused about her action if it is normal or abnormal. She says it is normal in every relationship.

Following actions (Is these normal in marraige?):-

• She complain about me to one of her close friend and speak loudly so that I can hear as well. E.g How I don't give her enough money to shop etc. When I ask her she says her friend also complain about her husband and is normal among girls to do.
• She complains to her mother and brothers during conference about me unnecessarily like how I don't give her this & that.
• She starts telling my insecurities during the fight which I have shared with her earlier. She only initiate fight and always have reason to fight and blames me that due to my some action/inactions she did that.
• She is not earning and I have been paying for house maid and washerwomen since last 2 years but when I ask if she will pay if I stop earning (hypothetical ), she says she will take care of her and her child(Don't have one yet) and not me.
• We stay in other town and when I ask her to visit to my parents my home only one time in a year, she strart highlighting how my parents are poor and not cultured and she can't tolerate them. Mind it she stayed for only 2 days at my ancestral home after marraige and then we left.
• She highlights that I am useless and not worthy, how I lack this & that during the fight even though I am paying for everything her clother, study, food, travel etc but in normal days she act normal.
• She used to compare me to her brother , how they treat their wife with gifts and jwellery while I don't? How her brother is so smart & capable.(Her brother is of my age).
• She complain about my mother & sister even though they have never said anything bad about her behind her back. She has not met my sister after marraige and does not talk to my sister but she keep telling me how they(mom&sis) must be plotting against her.
• I don't have any say over her and when I try to stop her from doing something which is making me uncomfortable, she starts spewing hate against me & my family.
• She become cold whenever someone visit from her extended family and priortise them. She try to avoid me. (e.g during dinner food serve she asked everyone(3-4 guest member) but not me about my requirment)
• I tries to tell about my discomfort but she laughs on it and says I am taking things seriously and suggest me to grow up.
• After the first night of marraige, she shared to me that she want to control me. (It's our love marraige)
• She discard my opinion and claims how she knows the better way.
• She even complain about me to my mother and when I ask why you are doing? She says to act cute before my mother. (I have already told my mother how she lies)

So couple who fights, please tell me is this normal in fight. How do you people fight, like conversation and contents in fight?

P.S - Asked by my married friend.

tl;dr - I(28M) male, my wife(34F) female , has been married since one year and was in live-in relationship since 1 year. She becomes personal during fight and mocks me, also highlights my flaws and insecurities. She disprepsect me and my family during fight. Is this normal among couples fight? When I tell to avoid saying these, she tell me its normal amoung couple and I am being emotional. Please suggest is this normal? How you people fight and do you all hurt and disrespect your spouse?. Thanks!!

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I [21m] have been slightly lying to my bf [22m] about my date of birth the whole time.

My now bf and I started out as FWBs. You have to understand that i already loved this guy, he was my bi awakening and remains, the only boy ive ever been intimate with.
However, I wanted to see if he'd even be interested in anything romantic with me so i poked around and got him to mention among other things that he wouldn't want to date someone who was a full year or more younger than him. His only interest for guys "that young" is sexual.

We already knew each other's ages but not our birthdays so i asked him his. Turns out he's 1 year and 6 days older than me but I didnt wanna lose him and i knew we'd be good together if he could just look past that. So when he asked for my birthday, I lied by slightly adjusting the date by 8 days. He laughed at the coincidence and later that evening I asked him on our 1st proper date.

Fast forward 10 months, and things are beyond great between us, the relationships ive had with girls dont even come close to comparing to what we have. Our birthdays are coming up and my friends and family are in on the lie and they think the situation is hilarious and are fully prepared to throw a party on my fake birthday to keep up the ruse.
However, this has led to a ton of stress for me. I’ve had to hide all forms of ID from my boyfriend so he doesn’t discover the truth, which is getting increasingly difficult.
We both still get carded so if we're going somewhere with alcohol where they might quiz me on my ID, either I get there first or I drop him off at the entrance so he gets seated to look for parking. I always pay so I'm also paranoid that one of my IDs will fall from my wallet and he'll see it.

Idk how or if to come clean at this point I don’t think the tiny age "gap" would bother him now that he loves me but ik 100% he'd be upset abt the fact that I lied to him for so long abt a basic information about me, he always says abt bad relationships "it all starts with a petty lie".

tldr: lied to reduce an already insignificant age gap so he would date me, everyone's in on it, it's been 10 months and our birthdays are coming soon

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I 24M need advice on how to save my love.

I 23M need helping figuring out what to do for the love of my live, 23F and if you guys really think there’s a chance we can be together, am I crazy? We were together for almost three years, lived together for about two years. She moved two hours from her family and friends to be with me. We were madly in love for the majority of the relationship, we have been inseparable, we have been each others rocks and we have had such an amazing connection that we both agree on. Unfortunately for the past several months we have not been doing great and it is a result of both of us not being fully healed from past trauma. I lost something extremely important to me fairly recently after she moved in, my cat, and it took a huge toll on me. He was there for me through a lot of awful abuse when I was kid. I had no real family or support system, we lost him on the 4th of july after we came back from fireworks he just started violently seizing, we got to the animal hospital 30 minutes later at about 1 am and he kept suffering I could hear him scream from outside. He unfortunately passed. He was only 7. It took a huge toll on me. I struggled not to shut down, I didn’t get mean or treat her like shit, I just didn’t have enough in me to go the extra mile. I’ve been struggling to try and build a future for us, I got us this apartment, and I’ve just tried to buckle down thinking that it was enough for us. Just barely functioning felt like so much effort that anything beyond that was so exhausting but I was always so happy to be around her. She has always been amazing and I never failed to recognize that I just haven’t always known how to show it. I’ve never had an example of how to love, I just have been learning as I go. Our love languages have not always seen eye to eye but that doesn’t mean for a second I have not or do not want to learn how to be the best man for her I can. I love her so fucking purly and I want nothing more than to be able to marry this woman. I hate that we have gotten to this point. She broke things off with me because she didn’t feel the love like we used to have it, and I didn’t either but I have never loved her any less. She is still staying here and we have been very civil, we’ve had some very good conversations and even went on a couple dates to try to spark the love again and it worked, but made her more confused and sad. She says she still loves and cares about me and her actions prove it to be true, but she says she needs space for us to grow. Do you think it’s possible we can be together again? I have been thinking about this for months. I know what I want. This is not my first love but I have definitely never loved like this, and neither has she. We do truly have a very special bond and I don’t want to lose that. We have been each others best friends for three years. I can reply to any comments with any questions. I appreciate any advice I can get.

TL;DR My girlfriend and I have been through a lot, she doesn’t want to be with me right now but says she has hope we can be together again. She says she wants me to be the one. Is it possible we can heal and come back stronger than ever?

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