I 23M need helping figuring out what to do for the love of my live, 23F and if you guys really think there’s a chance we can be together, am I crazy? We were together for almost three years, lived together for about two years. She moved two hours from her family and friends to be with me. We were madly in love for the majority of the relationship, we have been inseparable, we have been each others rocks and we have had such an amazing connection that we both agree on. Unfortunately for the past several months we have not been doing great and it is a result of both of us not being fully healed from past trauma. I lost something extremely important to me fairly recently after she moved in, my cat, and it took a huge toll on me. He was there for me through a lot of awful abuse when I was kid. I had no real family or support system, we lost him on the 4th of july after we came back from fireworks he just started violently seizing, we got to the animal hospital 30 minutes later at about 1 am and he kept suffering I could hear him scream from outside. He unfortunately passed. He was only 7. It took a huge toll on me. I struggled not to shut down, I didn’t get mean or treat her like shit, I just didn’t have enough in me to go the extra mile. I’ve been struggling to try and build a future for us, I got us this apartment, and I’ve just tried to buckle down thinking that it was enough for us. Just barely functioning felt like so much effort that anything beyond that was so exhausting but I was always so happy to be around her. She has always been amazing and I never failed to recognize that I just haven’t always known how to show it. I’ve never had an example of how to love, I just have been learning as I go. Our love languages have not always seen eye to eye but that doesn’t mean for a second I have not or do not want to learn how to be the best man for her I can. I love her so fucking purly and I want nothing more than to be able to marry this woman. I hate that we have gotten to this point. She broke things off with me because she didn’t feel the love like we used to have it, and I didn’t either but I have never loved her any less. She is still staying here and we have been very civil, we’ve had some very good conversations and even went on a couple dates to try to spark the love again and it worked, but made her more confused and sad. She says she still loves and cares about me and her actions prove it to be true, but she says she needs space for us to grow. Do you think it’s possible we can be together again? I have been thinking about this for months. I know what I want. This is not my first love but I have definitely never loved like this, and neither has she. We do truly have a very special bond and I don’t want to lose that. We have been each others best friends for three years. I can reply to any comments with any questions. I appreciate any advice I can get.
TL;DR My girlfriend and I have been through a lot, she doesn’t want to be with me right now but says she has hope we can be together again. She says she wants me to be the one. Is it possible we can heal and come back stronger than ever?
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