how do i have this conversation with my husband?

first i want to say that i tired to post this in r/relationship-advice but it wouldn’t let me post

so, 6 months ago i had a son. my husband (25m) and i(23f) smoke weed (i didn’t during pregnancy or breastfeeding) and he does get CHA (marijuana sickened) every month or 2. well he got sick the day after my son was home so from the time we were discharged to about a week later i was caring for a baby by myself after a c section. i understand he was sick and it saddens me i had to go through that alone it was so hard and taxing and i even had second thoughts about my child witch i regret every day. but even when he’s not sick he barely helps out unless i ask him to or he’s alone with the baby and he’s the only caregiver for him. but that’s not my only issue here, ever since i’ve recovered and we have been having sex again, it’s just seems like all he wants from me is sex. not like he ignores me throughout the day, but when i want to go to bed, i either go alone because he won’t ever come with me, or if he does it’s only to have sex and he leaves the room again for hours. i asked him if i could just have his love and some cuddles and his reply was “i’m sorry.” it’s just makes me feel so gross like at this point that’s all i am to him. his child mother, and someone to have sex with.

i’m i over reacting to the situation or should i have a sit down with him? i’m just so worried about it messing up my relationship. he dosnt keep cool well and gets aggravated/annoyed/mad very quickly and stays in that mood. after he’s like that the only way the conversation ends is if i give in and agree with him. so idk what to do. also he know i have a reddit but he dosnt have one so i hope he dosnt find this.

tl;dr : my husband dosnt want to help with baby unless asked and seems to only want to be in the room to have sex with me, no cuddles or love.

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My SO of 2 years refuses to add me on social media

TLDR boyfriend won’t add me on social media even though I’ve asked him to. He said he doesn’t use it but I feel that’s not the real reasons why he’s so against it.

I am a 44F nd have been in a serious relationship with my partner 43M for almost 2 years. We have talked about getting married and are moving in together at the end of the year. I’ve met all his family and friends and am very much included in his life. He however refuses to add me on social media.

He has a Facebook and insta account he rarely uses. I can see he has zero posts and less than 20 friends on there. When I’ve asked him about adding him he said “I only use it for work or I don’t use it”. I called him out on this reason as I’m friends with his friends on socials and I can see they are added there. When I commented about that he said something like “oh they added me when I first joined that’s the only reason we are friends”

I had said to him once early on, that I intended to add him there eventually and he was very negative about it and said “Whyyy” I feel his reaction to social media add was negative and unnecessarily inflexible.

He told me a story once about how he used it years earlier when he was on online dating and she made comments on his tagged photos and friends list. I think he felt judged and that his privacy was invaded by this. I also know that he just came out of a pretty coercive and controlling DV relationship where his ex wife monitored his phone records, checked through his phone etc

Regardless, I still feel upset that he doesn’t trust me with his limited social information and won’t share this aspect of his life with me. I feel he’s not being forthcoming about his real reasons why he doesn’t want to be my friend there.

I’ve raised this issue a few times and he refuses to change his mind about it. Any thoughts or insights to help me resolve this ? Should I just add him and see if he accepts? Should I talk to him about it again?

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when is he gonna ask me to be his gf?

Okay so I (18F) have been talking to him (24M) for about a month and 1/2. We met on a dating app and planned a little date about a week after meeting. We met up and everything went amazing! Since then I’ve been going over to his place about once a week sometimes more, and sometimes spending the night.

I went into this not sure if I wanted a relationship right away as I just got out of one and I was honest about it. He didn’t mind at all. We did also agree that we were going to be exclusive as we’ve been sleeping together this entire time. The thing is, he treats me like I’m his gf (which I love). There are so many little things he does when we’re together that make me feel that way (I can go into detail in comments if that helps). We also text each other every day (sometimes facetime too) and have given each other pet names (baby, honey, etc).

There hasn’t been any I love you’s which I honestly appreciate because in every other relationship I’ve been it, it’s been said way too early. Anyways, we both really enjoy spending time together and have both told our friends/family about each other. I want to make it clear he isn’t hiding me and just not trying to commit, because that’s far from what’s going on. I also don’t mind not putting a label on our relationship at the moment, but I’m obviously posting this and the topic has been on my mind. So should I let this just blossom more or should I bring this up to him?

TL;DR He treats me like i’m his gf, but hasn’t asked me to be.

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Was it normal that my [24f] now ex-partner [26m] asked me often to sleep outside our home?

Hi everyone.

Well, recently the almost 5 year relationship I was in sadly ended. It was very intense and the last months coming to it's end were permeated with depression and some emotional abuse.

My question is: was it normal or acceptable that my partner would often ask me to leave the house and sleep somewhere else when he was having deep depression attacks?

Sometime I would, because I became scared of him and he would threaten to leave the house by himself (no phone, wallet or keys). But most times, I would be to scared to leave him alone because he would threaten suicide.

In the end, he mentioned he was deeply hurt by the times I did not respect him and left him alone in the house. Should I have left the house everytime he asked me to?

What should I make of this and how should I proceed if situations like this arise in my future life? I don't want to hurt anyone else or myself anymore.

Thanks for reading

TLDR: Ex partner asked me to sleep outside our home when he was having deep depression attacks. Is this normal/acceptable?

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what to do?

So I (22F) have a boyfriend (23M) of 4 months, he doesn't really compliment me or show me off. For the past months I noticed that he still stares at other girls, I think he has what's called "wandering eyes". There are some times that when we're together he'll stop holding my hands or stop being sweet to me when there is another girl around specifically pretty girls. He also jokes about liking another girl or saying directly to me that another girl is pretty. The other girls he compliments look very different from me. I don't really know what to feel because I don't know if I'm just being insecure or what he's doing is actually wrong. Any thoughts and advice?

TLDR: boyfriend does sus things and I'm not sure if I'm just being insecure or not

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Still acting like a couple after breakup

Since breaking up about 2 1/2 months ago, him (25m) and I (26f) have remained extremely close. For the first two weeks we had very limited contact, and we weren’t sure we wanted to talk to each other ever again. Slowly, we started falling back into old routines and we began to text each other almost every day. From there, we started playing video games again. A little less than a month after our break up, we began exchanging photos with each other and have hooked up multiple times — the last time being almost a month ago. Since we last hooked up, we’ve been on the phone daily (and nightly). The only people he talks to more than me are his own parents. It’s rare that we’re off the phone for more than an hour. This wasn’t something I initiated — and at first it was because he wasn’t feeling well and didn’t want to be alone because he has health issues and me being there is a comfort to him. But now we’re constantly on the phone (oftentimes just in silence to just be in each other’s company) and if we aren’t on the phone, he’ll call me up right before going to bed and sleep with me on the phone. We hang out in person every so often, we play video games nightly, we’re constantly consulting each other about goings ons in our lives, we still look to each other to make plans with to do stuff in the future (like attending concerts, etc)…lately we do a lot of stuff we did while we were dating. It feels a lot like we’re a couple — without being a couple. I think his parents even think we’re still dating. And some people see how we interact with each other and assume we’re together. It feels like things get more and more borderline like an actual relationship the more time goes by.

For background — we dated and lived together for four years. He moved home with his parents approximately a month before the breakup. He initiated the breakup, the period of not talking, us picking back up communication, the fwb encounters we’ve had, and this current trend of him being on the phone with me constantly. The phone thing is very reminiscent of when we first started dating and we were inseparable on video calls until we got serious and moved in together.

It feels like a weird situation to be in. I love our friendship. I love having him in my life. I’m not opposed to getting back together eventually. Lately, we’ve been acting more and more like a couple without actually being a couple.

tl;dr my boyfriend of 4 years and I broke up a few months ago and have started acting more and more like a couple without actually being one.

How normal is it to basically still be acting like a couple even though we broke up 2 1/2 months ago? What are the odds him and I wind up eventually getting back together?

I don’t necessarily have an issue with how things are between us. I’m kind of curious as to what other people’s takes on the situation are.

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