Since breaking up about 2 1/2 months ago, him (25m) and I (26f) have remained extremely close. For the first two weeks we had very limited contact, and we weren’t sure we wanted to talk to each other ever again. Slowly, we started falling back into old routines and we began to text each other almost every day. From there, we started playing video games again. A little less than a month after our break up, we began exchanging photos with each other and have hooked up multiple times — the last time being almost a month ago. Since we last hooked up, we’ve been on the phone daily (and nightly). The only people he talks to more than me are his own parents. It’s rare that we’re off the phone for more than an hour. This wasn’t something I initiated — and at first it was because he wasn’t feeling well and didn’t want to be alone because he has health issues and me being there is a comfort to him. But now we’re constantly on the phone (oftentimes just in silence to just be in each other’s company) and if we aren’t on the phone, he’ll call me up right before going to bed and sleep with me on the phone. We hang out in person every so often, we play video games nightly, we’re constantly consulting each other about goings ons in our lives, we still look to each other to make plans with to do stuff in the future (like attending concerts, etc)…lately we do a lot of stuff we did while we were dating. It feels a lot like we’re a couple — without being a couple. I think his parents even think we’re still dating. And some people see how we interact with each other and assume we’re together. It feels like things get more and more borderline like an actual relationship the more time goes by.
For background — we dated and lived together for four years. He moved home with his parents approximately a month before the breakup. He initiated the breakup, the period of not talking, us picking back up communication, the fwb encounters we’ve had, and this current trend of him being on the phone with me constantly. The phone thing is very reminiscent of when we first started dating and we were inseparable on video calls until we got serious and moved in together.
It feels like a weird situation to be in. I love our friendship. I love having him in my life. I’m not opposed to getting back together eventually. Lately, we’ve been acting more and more like a couple without actually being a couple.
tl;dr my boyfriend of 4 years and I broke up a few months ago and have started acting more and more like a couple without actually being one.
How normal is it to basically still be acting like a couple even though we broke up 2 1/2 months ago? What are the odds him and I wind up eventually getting back together?
I don’t necessarily have an issue with how things are between us. I’m kind of curious as to what other people’s takes on the situation are.
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