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My bf (26) is possessive and questions my f(26) loyalty

We’ve in a relationship since 8 months and since 2/3 months he has started to become extremely controlling and possessive. He doesn’t like when other guys flirt with me. He doesn’t let me wear dresses that show any cleavage. He doesn’t like if I talk to any guy even as friends. I understand that he cares about me but it’s so confusing because he initially told me that he’s not looking for a serious relationship. Although now from his behaviour it seems he’s getting serious but he’s also leaving the country in a few months and I’m going to be here for another year. I don’t know what he wants because he told me that we could never marry because of being from different religions. And then he gets mad when other guys flirt with me. Also sometimes he’s like let’s get married but in a non serious tone and then laughs. He also thinks that I’m not loyal because I hid my insta story from him cause i wanted to post a picture in which id worn a crop top. He noticed that I’d hidden it from him and got suuuuuper crazy mad at me and then verbally abused me bec I did that. I don’t know what should I do anymore.

Tdlr: my boyfriend is possessive and controlling

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How do I break up with my fiancé?

I [M28] love my fiancé [M28], or at least I think I still do. We've been together 2 1/2 years. He was never perfect, but he made me feel comfortable. I never felt worried that he might leave me because he always said how much he loves me and how committed he is to making this relationship work, no matter what. That's not because of some special bond that we have unlike any he's ever had; that's just the kind of person he is. There are a few things that I really appreciate about him, but there's probably equally as many that strain our relationship. The biggest is probably just how particular he is. It inhibits every facet of our life. The foods he's willing to eat are limited. The things he enjoys doing are far different from me. He suffers from migraines and difficulty sleeping, meaning we often abandon plans or leave events early because his head hurts or he's tired. Or maybe he's just be bored. Or maybe he doesn't like any of the food there. I wouldn't consider myself the most extroverted, but I like going out to do things. But going out is hard not just because of the various reasons I laid out, but because I am usually the only one paying. He makes significantly less than me and, in the time we've been together, he's left every job because it either burns him out or doesn't make enough to cover more than his personal expenses. On top of that, anything I want him to do I have to ask for explicitly. Paying for things, helping around the house, and even sharing driving duty. I hate doing this because I'm a very independent person and I hate asking people to do things for me. I know he makes less than me. I know doing chores is more annoying for him. Everything just feels easier for me than for him, so I find asking him to do anything is like putting an unnecessary burden on him.

Even with all of that, I'd probably still be staying with him, but our recent move to Europe has left me with a pretty stark choice. He advocated for our move here, even though I was pretty sure he would hate it. His expectation, which I did kind of set, was that we would go back to the US as long as at least one of us didn't like it here. The thing is, I don't just like it here; I love it so far. Everything I love about it, he hates. He essentially can't function here because he hates the food and the air is messing with his allergies in a way that no amount of Allegra will solve. He's given me an ultimatum: we start making plans to go back to the US together or he will go back by himself. The thing is, he doesn't really want to go back by himself, not just because he loves me and would miss me but because he can't necessarily support the lifestyle he wants without my income. I'm pretty sure I could get him to stick it out here for at least another year, if not indefinitely, if I really wanted to, but I don't want to do that to him. Also, as much as I would miss him, having him back in the US would free me up so much, and not just financially. But every fiber of my being doesn't want to tell him that it's over. If he decides it, then sure, but I don't think he will. He'll keep trying to convince me to come back with him, keep asking me if I love this country more than him. I don't want to say "yes" because its more complicated than that, but I honestly dont know what to say. I don't necessarily expect not to hurt his feelings, but I'm not always gentle with my words and I don't want whatever I have to say to come across as being mean, at least from an outside perspective. How do I communicate these feelings I have in a way that doesn't just come across as me attacking him for being who he is?

TL;DR I want to break up with my fiancé because of various issues in our relationship, but I don't know how to communicate this in a kind way.

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My 29F girlfriend’s ex is about to be in our relationship. I 27M need help?

I’m scared that my girlfriend might leave me

Hello I 27M have been having anxiety lately about my 29F girlfriend. We’ve been dating for awhile now and we have strong feelings for one another. We constantly tell each other I love you and we want to get married and have each others kids. We’ve been inseparable since we started dating. I’m always at her place. If we not at her place we’re on the phone for hours. I’ve haven’t felt a connection like this before with a person. We’ve been talking for awhile and been dating for half a year. She even accepted my promise ring yesterday.

Lately I’ve been scared and nerves are killing me. Her ex is getting out of jail soon and they share a kid together. He’s never met the kid without a glass wall between them. I fully understand that I know they will need to be co parenting and I knew that before we started dating. They were together for 5 years before they had their kid. She told me it was off and on and she has trauma from it. Before me and her started dating she was single for 3 years focusing on her and the baby. Is it wrong to be scared and have thought that’s she will leave me for him?

I’ve talked to her about this and she tells me I’m foolish. She could never be with him because of all that he’s done to her. She tells me she loves me and wants to be with me. She assures me that she wants us to work out and that we will get married. That being said our lives are going to change drastically because he’s going to be free soon.

Can I do something to help with my anxiety and is this something to be concerned about?

TL;DR in short my girlfriends baby daddy is getting out of jail and I’m scared she’ll choose him over me even tho she assures me that we’re going to have a future together.

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Staying in a city I don’t like for my relationship

Hi

I (f28) moved to this city about 1,5 years ago but I still can’t seem to like it here. It’s also in a different country but very close to my home country and the culture is similar. Me and my bf (m38) have a healthy and loving relationship.

When I moved here it was partly because of circumstances back home. My home city & country has a severe housing shortage and rapidly rising rents which made it impossible to find a place. On top of that I was unhappy in my job..so leaving felt like the best option especially given the financial pressure. My boyfriend earns a good income and supports us both. He owns the apartment we live in so I don’t pay rent and he never makes me feel like I owe him anything. He genuinely wants to take care of me.

I’ve been running my own business for four years but back in my home country I had to treat it as a side hustle because of the unpredictable income and the need to pay my rent. Now living with my boyfriend I can focus on my business full time. He even set up an office for me and supports my independence. I’m earning well ,saving money and my boyfriend fully encourages this.

Financially I’m secure and my relationship is filled with love and understanding. I have the freedom to pursue my hobbies, attend therapy, and do whatever I want without worry. We also take vacations often and overall my life is stable and good. But despite all this I still don’t like it here. After spending 10 days back in my home country I realize how much I miss it! The language, the social people and just feeling like I belong. I never thought the mentality would be so different given how close the countries are but it is.

My boyfriend can’t move to my home country due to his business but he’s open to planning a future move there for a smoother transition. However I’m struggling with whether I can stick it out until then because I’m so unhappy.

I really don’t know what to do. I value the stability I have now especially since I had a traumatic childhood where security was lacking and I truly love my boyfriend. But I’m so unhappy because I feel like I can’t express myself or form connections here. Has anyone been in this situation or have any ideas/ words of wisdom? What would you do?

tl;dr: I moved abroad to live with my boyfriend which I am in a healthy relationship with. Despite this I miss my home country and feel unhappy here. My boyfriend can't move now and I'm struggling to stay.

I have to add that objectively speaking this city/ country offers a higher quality of life. The streets are cleaner, it feels much more safe here , beautiful nature and much less homeless people here.

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I (32M) have discovered fiancee (29F) has continuously cheated in our relationship. Conflicted as to what should I do ?

Hi everyone,

I'm using a throwaway account for privacy reasons, but I’ve been a long-time Reddit user. This post might be lengthy as I want to present a fair and clear picture of our relationship from my perspective. I’d greatly appreciate your opinions and feedback as we're at a critical juncture.

I’m 32M, and my partner is 29F. We’ve been dating for 7 years and are scheduled to marry in September. I come from a relatively wealthy family and am running a fledgling business. My partner also hails from a well-off family and works a stable, low-demand job. While not wealthy, we live comfortably in our own home with a large yard and a dog we both adore.

However, our relationship has significant challenges. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and struggle with shallow emotions, avoidant behavior, and hyper-independence, likely due to my upbringing. I suspect I might have psychopathic tendencies due to my blunted emotions, but I am high-functioning and treat those close to me with kindness. Before this relationship, I had only one other serious relationship, which was shallow and lasted 2 years when I was 18.

My partner was diagnosed with sociopathic tendencies as a teenager, and we suspect she has histrionic personality disorder. She is anxiously attached, fears being alone, has severe self-esteem issues, and compulsively lies due to past traumas and childhood experiences. Her past relationships, including a marriage that ended because her ex-husband was closeted, were toxic.

We’re both fairly attractive and don’t have much trouble attracting attention from the opposite sex, though I avoid social media while my partner is active on it. Our relationship started with a strong connection. I knew early on that I wanted a life with her. We quickly became exclusive after dating for 4 months, even though I was already committed from the start.

We were in a semi-long-distance relationship at first, living in different cities. We met weekly, alternating visits, and stayed in daily contact, expressing love consistently. We gave each other space and trust; I never checked her phone and respected her autonomy, though, in hindsight, I noticed some early red flags.

Things went smoothly for about a year and a half before I moved to her city, leaving behind my friends and family. This was entirely my choice, though she was willing to move for me if needed. During this time, we had no issues progressing our relationship, and I was happy and in love. I covered most of the expenses, including holidays, as I was earning significantly more, but I was content because we enjoyed our time together.

After moving in together, I continued to cover most expenses, but she started contributing more. Moving in was generally smooth, though there were minor adjustments. Our relationship continued to progress well, and we both made friends in the new city. However, I noticed she became increasingly absorbed in social media, posting frequently about our holidays and dinners. Sometimes, she focused more on her social media than on me during our time together. She also posted revealing pictures, which I now see as a red flag, but at the time, I overlooked it.

From late 2019 through 2020, things began to unravel. COVID had a significant impact on my professional life, and I went through a particularly tough time. I withdrew into myself, becoming cold and distant, which affected our relationship. While I was preoccupied with my own issues, my partner also withdrew, though she didn’t make much effort to support me during this period.

By early 2021, our relationship had become strained, with frequent fights. As things started improving for me, I tried to make up for the past year by buying her a bag she had wanted for her birthday in 2020. However, a lingering feeling of unease led me to check her computer while she was out, and I discovered she had been both emotionally and physically cheating on me throughout 2020.

This revelation devastated me, but she begged me to stay, apologizing profusely. I confronted her, and during our argument, she immediately deleted her Instagram and other message threads without my consent, raising suspicions about the extent of her cheating. She admitted to some of it but consistently lied about the details, leading to months of fights where I continued to uncover more instances of her infidelity. She has a history of only admitting to things when there is evidence.

In summary, her cheating was extensive, spanning our entire three years together. Much of the evidence has been deleted, so I can’t confirm the full extent, though I suspect there’s more she hasn’t admitted to. My gut feeling tells me I still don’t know the whole truth.

1. After we met, she continued to sleep with two guys (Guy 1 and Guy 2) she had previously been involved with. This occurred just before we became exclusive and while we were still dating.

2. Around three months after we became exclusive, she slept with a guy (Guy 3) she met online. Despite not knowing him well, she decided to meet him for lunch and ended up sleeping with him. She covered this up and only admitted it recently.

3. She consistently communicated with strangers online, proposing and agreeing to meet up with them. While she claims nothing physical happened, her history of lying makes me doubt her honesty. This behavior occurred multiple times throughout our relationship.

4. In 2019, before I moved to her city, she met up with some guys she used to see, claiming nothing physical happened.

5. Also in 2019, her cheating escalated. She had a booty call with Guy 1, someone she had been involved with in the past.

6. She met up with and slept with another guy (Guy 4) multiple times in early 2019, right before I moved. She even attended a rave with him and took drugs. She continued meeting up with him after I moved, which was particularly hurtful.

7. One night, she got drunk and slept with an ex-coworker (Guy 5) with whom she had been consistently communicating throughout 2018 and 2019. She claimed this was a one-time event and covered it up, only admitting it recently.

8. In 2019, after I bought her a new sports car for her birthday, she immediately contacted Guy 1 and slept with him. She continued communicating with him about meeting up again, though she claims nothing else happened, but she deleted most of the evidence.

9. Before I moved, she slept with a guy friend (Guy 6) who was also liked by her best friend. I later met this friend, and we got along, which now makes me feel foolish. While Guy 6 didn’t tell me about their encounter, he later distanced himself from her out of respect for me, or so she says.

10. Throughout 2020, a guy (Guy 7) she met on Facebook blatantly expressed his interest in sleeping with her. She agreed and drove to his house to cheat on me multiple times. She didn’t hide her infidelity, agreeing to keep it private at his request. She also emotionally cheated, expressing things like “can’t wait to see you” and “I miss you.” She did this while I was under immense stress, which made it particularly hurtful. I have the most evidence of this incident as it’s the most recent, though I’m unsure if they actually met up in 2021, despite him continuing to message her.

11. Throughout our relationship, she communicated with countless guys on social media, too many for her to recall accurately, according to her.

12. She sent one nude to Guy 7 and other risky pictures to different guys. Again, I don’t know the full extent of this behavior.

This pattern of deception and trickle-truthing persisted, with her lying about everything even up until today. She deleted most of the evidence, so I can only rely on her word, though I suspect there’s much more I haven’t uncovered.

So, why didn’t I leave her after discovering all this? The main reason is that I loved her, and I believed everyone deserves a second chance. I also felt that I contributed to what happened. While she was clearly in the wrong, I thought she deserved another opportunity. Her reasons for cheating were as follows:

1. A need for attention, validation, and low self-esteem.

2. Insecurity about my past, lifestyle, and female friends, leading her to perceive me as a womanizer.

3. Suspicion that I was cheating on her, which fueled her actions out of spite, despite finding no evidence.

4. Fear of the intensity of her feelings for me.

5. Seeking comfort and control by turning to other men, feeling like she didn’t have the upper hand with me.

6. Fear of co-dependence, worrying I might leave her at any time, which I may have inadvertently reinforced during fights.

7. A lack of security in our relationship, for which I take responsibility. While I didn’t cheat or intend to, I continued talking platonically to female friends who might have had an interest in me, and I failed to provide her with the reassurance she needed.

After discovering her cheating, I committed to fixing the relationship by stopping outings, cutting off all female friends, and trying to show more emotions. I proposed to her because she wanted that security. We bought a house and moved in together full-time. However, I realize there are some things I can’t change to make her feel completely secure.

Recently, I discovered she’s reverting to her old ways, actively deleting evidence of her actions. After staying off social media for a year, she went back on, promising to keep it private but later making it public and messaging guys to meet up. With her deleting messages, I don’t know the full extent of her actions this time. We’re due to be married in two months, and we just returned from a holiday paid for by my parents, yet she’s still messaging other guys online.

I’m now calling off the engagement, but I find myself conflicted and swayed by my feelings. I don’t have clarity on the situation, so I would really appreciate your thoughts and feedback on what’s happening. I’m really conflicted.

I understand how stupid this maybe and the answer should be obvious by I think my judgement is severely clouded at this point and would like some feedback on what actions I should take.

TL;DR: Engaged for 7 years, I recently discovered my fiancée has been cheating on me with multiple guys throughout our relationship. Despite giving her a second chance and making significant changes to improve our relationship, she's reverted to her old ways, actively deleting evidence and messaging other men. With our wedding two months away, I'm conflicted and considering calling off the engagement, seeking advice on what to do.

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She suddenly started treating me like a stranger

For background - I am 19 years old, found a job, night shifts to be specific, and soon after I met a girl there. Things at first were doing fine, I would take a bus to work, we were always taking the same bus as she lives close to me. I remember that I was first to initiate this so called "relationship", I mean - I approached her first, began with some small talk, but pretty soon after I noticed we had really nice conversations, even she used to talk to me first as we were meeting on the bus a couple times, was asking me if she could see me off, and viceversa.

No matter if she was tired or not, she just wanted to keep up the conversation, we used to return home together on foot as we were leaving the bus. It was all okay until... it wasn't. First week since we met it was all fine, but I can't say the same thing about the second. Suddenly, I stopped seeing her in a bus, although we had the same shift at work. It wasn't a big deal for me as of course, she could have taken yet another bus.

Things started getting weird when I was returning from work. Instead of her approaching me after shift, she would see me at a stop and then stand a few meters turning away, without saying anything. Eventually, we were taking the same bus back home. But... she started to treat me like a stranger. She didn't really care if I sat next to her or not, not even mentioning about talking about anything. At first I was like: okay, I get it, we don't need to talk over and over, but this time there was such an odd feeling - like, we're not talking because we need some time for ourselves, but rather - we don't talk, because she doesn't like me. The weirdest part was when we were getting off the bus as we were going home. She suddenly chose the other door, walked away from me without exchanging a word, not even a single "bye" or "goodnight", just as if two strangers were going with the same bus.

Next time we were going home was even more bizarre. She just suddenly got off on a different stop, and said she has to go, just without any reason. I remember that earlier she used to tell me some details, it really used to look like she cared about me. I don't really know what to think about it, did she just get bored with me or no longer wants to meet me. I noticed that first she picks a seat but doesn't really care if I sit close to her or not, she's just rushing to a seat, not looking if I am with her or not. I used to sit close to her anyway, just to return together, not necessarily to talk about something. Maybe this is what she found uncomfortable?

Throughout the years I learned how to read people's emotions but it seems like a no advantage to me sometimes. I started making scenarios in my head, I stopped sleeping well, started feeling like sh*t at work. I feel like she no longer cares about me, or even worse, no longer wants to know me. Right now I don't have enough time to talk with her about it - as I get to work I don't see her, while waiting for the bus on the way home she doesn't want to talk or ignores me. Not only that, we also finish on different hours sometimes.

What's also weird, from approachable and talkative person she suddenly turned into "introvert", said she likes travelling alone.

While working we hardly ever talk, since it's a physical work and we don't have time.

Before someone says "she needs time", I want to say that if we really had good time together she would probably tell me that she needs it. Otherwise, she just no longer wants to know me. Currently I have no idea and have really bad feelings that keep me away from falling asleep, that's why I'm typing this. If you guys were in similar situation just let me know how to deal with it. Honestly, I don't want to be some sort of desperate so I am going to wait a while for some advice or when my mood gets better. Usually, when something is wrong, I trust my intuition (but I have to admit that I first deny my intuition, just to have some doubts in case and not to judge too quickly), which often doesn't fail or eventually I am absolutely mistaken. I talked to my best friend about it, he said that it's just my view on that and doesn't have to be true, and I shouldn't give someone a label.

"Just move on" - hard to say it to a person that makes strong bonds with newly met people I had a great talk with and will meet them multiple times. Probably that says a lot about me.

Seriously, I don't know if my mind is just playing with me or just gives me a subtle warning that something is wrong. If you read all this, just thanks. Right now I'm trying to get to sleep. Feel free to ask questions <3

TL;DR - I met a girl at work, firstly had long and nice conversations, used to get the same bus, but suddenly she started avoiding me for some reason, before and after work. I seriously doubt if she still likes me.

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