I (22M) may be cheating online on my GF(19F) and I feel like a terrible person, but I cannot help it. Am I terrible person? Should I tell her?

TL;DR; : I think I am a bad person because I message NSFW on reddit with random people, even thought I have a GF whitch I love

The thing is I have a GF. I love her and I cannot be happier with her. But once or twice a month I get this terrible urge. I get on reddit search some NSFW communities and then find myself an online Pet GF/BF. Then I chat with them for a while, maybe some roleplay, they send some photos and then it ends. It never got to IRL, I never met any of those people. They mean nothing to me and I always choose my GF before them. The thing is, I cant stop it. Even if I fight it. It even makes me appreciate her more and even more sexually aroused with her. But I still thing its bad and she doesnt deserve it.

Is that cheating? Am I terrible person? Should I tell her?

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My(18F)boyfriend(19M)broke up with me, and when i tried to talk things out he accused me of cheating, what do i do?

A little background information: my(18F) boyfriend(19M) had two exes before me, as far as i know both of them cheated on him. It left a huge scar on him, and I was aware of that when we started dating. I always had a few guy friends in my life, but not many, maybe one and two, but I only had one when me and my boyfriend got together. I told him that it's just casual friendship, and nothing more, and he didnt have a problem with that. The problem started when another guy from my school texted me a few times. It wasn't flirty text, he just told me that if I liked a certain band, there are a few songs I should listen to, and we sometimes spoke a few words about music. I didnt have feelings for him and I dont think he had feelings for me, because we never talked about nothing personal, maybe said hi and a few words in school. I of course told my boyfriend that I have a casual friendship with this guy, and if he doesnt like it I'll block him, because I dont want to make the love of my life uncomfortable. I know he had a hard time trusting people, so I showed him the few text we had (although at the time i was clearing my insta dms and I deleted a lot of texts, not just with the guy but with everyone else). After two months maybe, we had a huge argument because my boyfriend thought that I was talking with that guy behind his back, and I want something from him. I immediately blocked the guy, and tried to talk things out with my boyfriend. After two months, we finally fixed everything, or so I thought. A few weeks ago, he broke up with me. He didnt gave me a really good reason, we had a small argument before the break up, but nothing we couldnt talk out. Two days ago, I tried reaching out to him, talking things out. I begged him to just talk it out and we can fix everything, and he told me that I shouldnt think he's stupid, and he knows that I'm with someone already, and I cheated on him, because of the texts I deleted(although I didnt delete them for him not to see them, I deleted because we didnt talk anymore and I just dont want people whom I dont talk with in my dms). I really didn't cheat on him, although I know that I made him feel really shitty because I was friendly with someone else, but I really never had intentions having something more than a casual friendship. I didn't even talked the guy after that, I just explained to him that I dont want to make my boyfriend uncomfortable, so I dont want to be friends anymore, he understood and that was it. I really miss my boyfriend. He was a really good boyfriend besides the jealousy, and I feel like I messed things up and I didnt even cheat on him.

TLDR; I tried to fix my relationship with my boyfriend, but he accused me of cheating on him and being with someone else right now

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My bf (26) is possessive and questions my f(26) loyalty

We’ve in a relationship since 8 months and since 2/3 months he has started to become extremely controlling and possessive. He doesn’t like when other guys flirt with me. He doesn’t let me wear dresses that show any cleavage. He doesn’t like if I talk to any guy even as friends. I understand that he cares about me but it’s so confusing because he initially told me that he’s not looking for a serious relationship. Although now from his behaviour it seems he’s getting serious but he’s also leaving the country in a few months and I’m going to be here for another year. I don’t know what he wants because he told me that we could never marry because of being from different religions. And then he gets mad when other guys flirt with me. Also sometimes he’s like let’s get married but in a non serious tone and then laughs. He also thinks that I’m not loyal because I hid my insta story from him cause i wanted to post a picture in which id worn a crop top. He noticed that I’d hidden it from him and got suuuuuper crazy mad at me and then verbally abused me bec I did that. I don’t know what should I do anymore.

Tdlr: my boyfriend is possessive and controlling

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How do I break up with my fiancé?

I [M28] love my fiancé [M28], or at least I think I still do. We've been together 2 1/2 years. He was never perfect, but he made me feel comfortable. I never felt worried that he might leave me because he always said how much he loves me and how committed he is to making this relationship work, no matter what. That's not because of some special bond that we have unlike any he's ever had; that's just the kind of person he is. There are a few things that I really appreciate about him, but there's probably equally as many that strain our relationship. The biggest is probably just how particular he is. It inhibits every facet of our life. The foods he's willing to eat are limited. The things he enjoys doing are far different from me. He suffers from migraines and difficulty sleeping, meaning we often abandon plans or leave events early because his head hurts or he's tired. Or maybe he's just be bored. Or maybe he doesn't like any of the food there. I wouldn't consider myself the most extroverted, but I like going out to do things. But going out is hard not just because of the various reasons I laid out, but because I am usually the only one paying. He makes significantly less than me and, in the time we've been together, he's left every job because it either burns him out or doesn't make enough to cover more than his personal expenses. On top of that, anything I want him to do I have to ask for explicitly. Paying for things, helping around the house, and even sharing driving duty. I hate doing this because I'm a very independent person and I hate asking people to do things for me. I know he makes less than me. I know doing chores is more annoying for him. Everything just feels easier for me than for him, so I find asking him to do anything is like putting an unnecessary burden on him.

Even with all of that, I'd probably still be staying with him, but our recent move to Europe has left me with a pretty stark choice. He advocated for our move here, even though I was pretty sure he would hate it. His expectation, which I did kind of set, was that we would go back to the US as long as at least one of us didn't like it here. The thing is, I don't just like it here; I love it so far. Everything I love about it, he hates. He essentially can't function here because he hates the food and the air is messing with his allergies in a way that no amount of Allegra will solve. He's given me an ultimatum: we start making plans to go back to the US together or he will go back by himself. The thing is, he doesn't really want to go back by himself, not just because he loves me and would miss me but because he can't necessarily support the lifestyle he wants without my income. I'm pretty sure I could get him to stick it out here for at least another year, if not indefinitely, if I really wanted to, but I don't want to do that to him. Also, as much as I would miss him, having him back in the US would free me up so much, and not just financially. But every fiber of my being doesn't want to tell him that it's over. If he decides it, then sure, but I don't think he will. He'll keep trying to convince me to come back with him, keep asking me if I love this country more than him. I don't want to say "yes" because its more complicated than that, but I honestly dont know what to say. I don't necessarily expect not to hurt his feelings, but I'm not always gentle with my words and I don't want whatever I have to say to come across as being mean, at least from an outside perspective. How do I communicate these feelings I have in a way that doesn't just come across as me attacking him for being who he is?

TL;DR I want to break up with my fiancé because of various issues in our relationship, but I don't know how to communicate this in a kind way.

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My 29F girlfriend’s ex is about to be in our relationship. I 27M need help?

I’m scared that my girlfriend might leave me

Hello I 27M have been having anxiety lately about my 29F girlfriend. We’ve been dating for awhile now and we have strong feelings for one another. We constantly tell each other I love you and we want to get married and have each others kids. We’ve been inseparable since we started dating. I’m always at her place. If we not at her place we’re on the phone for hours. I’ve haven’t felt a connection like this before with a person. We’ve been talking for awhile and been dating for half a year. She even accepted my promise ring yesterday.

Lately I’ve been scared and nerves are killing me. Her ex is getting out of jail soon and they share a kid together. He’s never met the kid without a glass wall between them. I fully understand that I know they will need to be co parenting and I knew that before we started dating. They were together for 5 years before they had their kid. She told me it was off and on and she has trauma from it. Before me and her started dating she was single for 3 years focusing on her and the baby. Is it wrong to be scared and have thought that’s she will leave me for him?

I’ve talked to her about this and she tells me I’m foolish. She could never be with him because of all that he’s done to her. She tells me she loves me and wants to be with me. She assures me that she wants us to work out and that we will get married. That being said our lives are going to change drastically because he’s going to be free soon.

Can I do something to help with my anxiety and is this something to be concerned about?

TL;DR in short my girlfriends baby daddy is getting out of jail and I’m scared she’ll choose him over me even tho she assures me that we’re going to have a future together.

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Staying in a city I don’t like for my relationship

Hi

I (f28) moved to this city about 1,5 years ago but I still can’t seem to like it here. It’s also in a different country but very close to my home country and the culture is similar. Me and my bf (m38) have a healthy and loving relationship.

When I moved here it was partly because of circumstances back home. My home city & country has a severe housing shortage and rapidly rising rents which made it impossible to find a place. On top of that I was unhappy in my job..so leaving felt like the best option especially given the financial pressure. My boyfriend earns a good income and supports us both. He owns the apartment we live in so I don’t pay rent and he never makes me feel like I owe him anything. He genuinely wants to take care of me.

I’ve been running my own business for four years but back in my home country I had to treat it as a side hustle because of the unpredictable income and the need to pay my rent. Now living with my boyfriend I can focus on my business full time. He even set up an office for me and supports my independence. I’m earning well ,saving money and my boyfriend fully encourages this.

Financially I’m secure and my relationship is filled with love and understanding. I have the freedom to pursue my hobbies, attend therapy, and do whatever I want without worry. We also take vacations often and overall my life is stable and good. But despite all this I still don’t like it here. After spending 10 days back in my home country I realize how much I miss it! The language, the social people and just feeling like I belong. I never thought the mentality would be so different given how close the countries are but it is.

My boyfriend can’t move to my home country due to his business but he’s open to planning a future move there for a smoother transition. However I’m struggling with whether I can stick it out until then because I’m so unhappy.

I really don’t know what to do. I value the stability I have now especially since I had a traumatic childhood where security was lacking and I truly love my boyfriend. But I’m so unhappy because I feel like I can’t express myself or form connections here. Has anyone been in this situation or have any ideas/ words of wisdom? What would you do?

tl;dr: I moved abroad to live with my boyfriend which I am in a healthy relationship with. Despite this I miss my home country and feel unhappy here. My boyfriend can't move now and I'm struggling to stay.

I have to add that objectively speaking this city/ country offers a higher quality of life. The streets are cleaner, it feels much more safe here , beautiful nature and much less homeless people here.

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