I think my dad is letting his boyfriend impersonate him via texts to me

Either that or my dad's behavior is strange and confusing enough to warrant concern that he may be on drugs or going through some kind of mental break.

I'm F(30), my dad is M(55) and boyfriend is M(43)

Some background info, my parents got divorced about 5 years ago after being married and mostly very religious for about 28 years. 3 years or so ago my dad started seeing a man he met on a dating app. They are still together.

Yesterday I got some texts from my dad that were very unlike him. Not only the use of text talk abbreviations like '2' for 'to', but also the things he said and typos left in the messages made me think it was the boyfriend. They mentioned that boyfriend had a root canal procedure happening the next day, which is why I don't think it is some random third party spoofer/scammer. I asked if it was the boyfriend and he replied, no im just being silly, and started typing out more words completely like my dad does. He says, ask me something only i would know. Which is so weird, and not something my dad would ever say. I tried calling, feeling extreme ick and privacy invasion, and got the answering machine after 3 rings. I presume boyfriend cancelled the call. Half an hour or so later my dad called and left a message on my phone saying he got my call. I thought I would try calling him at work the next day so I messaged to tell him we could talk tomorrow and he said it sounded good.

So today I message again, asking if it was my dad messaging me. Again the reply is that it was. Again, the use of lol makes me think it is not my father on the other end. I tell him he's making me uncomfortable and he says, sorry hun. My dad, never. Has called me hun. He uses other terms of endearment regularly, but not that one. So I call the office number and it sounds like my dad on the line. I'm trembling at this point, I again ask my dad if it's him I'm messaging with. He says yes, and laughs awkwardly. He doesn't ask why. I pause and slowly ask him if he's lying. He laughs all awkwardly and forced and says no, it was always me. I tell him ok, fully not believing him, and that I would talk to him later.

I have been texting my sister throughout this ordeal and she has agreed that the texts are strange and this could be something the boyfriend might do as he 'has no chill or boundaries.' I live across the country from him right now or else I would go over to check on him, I'm so concerned and confused and worried. My dad has never lied to me before, at least not so obviously.

Does it seem like I'm overreacting?

Tldr; my dad is in his first queer relationship and I've been receiving concerning texts from him

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Separated from my now ex wife yesterday after nearly 10 years

I separated from my wife after 10 years together and I have no one now

I (M27) have separated from my wife (F26) just yesterday. It’s still a fresh wound and all I can do right now is ugly cry.

We were together just under 10 years and married for nearly 4. It wasn’t easy. When we first got married, my cousin fell ill and was in the hospital for just over 3 months. I was there nearly everyday and he eventually passed away due to the doctors negligence. 2 days after the funeral, the Covid lockdown got announced (UK). This put a significant strain on our relationship at the very start. We had never lived together before and only moved in together when we got married due to cultural reasons. We barely got a chance to really get to know each other at the start because of my cousin and then Covid.

We’ve had good times, we’ve had bad times. Just like every couple. The more I look back on it, it was mostly bad. We’d constantly argue. We’d always disagree on things. We were completely different people and should never have married in the first place.

It just got worse and worse and we got more toxic with each other. Neither of us ever cheated but we’d be vile with our words. We once took a 1 month break where she went back to live with her parents. 2 days in, her dad kicked her and her mum out and they had no choice but to move back in with me. I think that was the beginning of the end. Since that point it was always 1 step forward and 2 back.

I never got on with her mum. Even before marriage, she was controlling. During the wedding time she imposed herself so much, I ended up calling it off 2 weeks before because I couldn’t take the stress from her anymore. I ended up losing my hair with all the stress.

At the end of the day, my ex wife isn’t a horrible person. Neither am I. We’re just not compatible.

I have no friends to talk to. My family is very distant with me too since marrying. I have no one there for me. All I’ve done since yesterday is just cry and cry. My eyes are burning from it and even now typing this, I’m crying.

We have no choice but to continue living with each other. The housing market is a joke and we can’t afford to move out and start again. I’ve moved into the spare room for the time being.

I guess I just needed to vent a little. I’m fine with people not noticing this post but I just need someone to tell me it will all be okay.

Tl;dr separated from my wife after 10 years together and don’t know what to do with myself

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boyfriend(19M) wants me (18F) to be more “freaky”. i’m too shy to ask him what does he mean by that so maybe i can get an idea from people online.

hey guys, it’s pretty clear for title, my bf wants me to be more freaky. i struggle to tell him what i like and don’t like cause i get veryyyy shy for some reason but i do eventually vocal it out.

but yesterday he requested me to be more freaky online, like texting and stuff. i don’t know how to do that and i don’t want to ask him because i’m so shy and he’s my first relationship. does an example of freaky mean calling him things he likes such as “daddy” and tell him what i want him to do to me? and can you be freaky without having sex?

he knows i don’t want to lose my virginity until marriage but i’m down for everything else but i don’t know anything else 😭😭. any one has been in my situation? or has advice on what to do or say? maybe suggest an easier way to communicate it with him without being all shy? i’m assuming he doesn’t have a problem with me being freaky irl because i have already told him what i like but after weeks of being very shy about it. i HATE being shy when it comes to this department

TLDR- boyfriend requested to be more freaky on text and i’m shy to ask what he likes. advice on how to bring it up without being shy? and how to get over my shyness and stuff that men generally consider freaky that i can try with him.

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Communication advice

People on Reddit. I need your advice.

So I'm a guy M31, who's usually outspoken. I communicate well. I learned to share my feelings, thoughts, concerns, to my previous partners. I do believe in the power of communication. And that if we communicate well about what's bothering us, we might actually find a solution together.

BUT, in my recent relationship. My bf M26 is the total opposite of that. It's hard for him to communicate. Briefly, he was raised in a family that did not listen to him or care about his opinion. That led him to handle his emotions by himself. We've known each other for almost a year and a half. And we've been together as a couple for 6 months now.

When he first told me that he has trouble communicating, I didn't really think it was gonna be that big of a deal. I thought that it's just gonna take him more time to talk and that I can eventually get him to share. But it turns out that it's way harder than I thought it would be. I've tried comforting him. Constantly telling him that I'm always by his side, that he can trust me and share anything with me without feeling judged. I'm not here to judge him. I love him so much but at this point I don't know what else I need to do to get him to open up. Sometimes I feel like I just wanna give up and tell him that I cannot keep up with this pace anymore. But that's not what I want.

we NEED to talk about stuff that are crucial to our relationship (fears, past relationships, sexual desires, kinks, etc). And that is reflecting negatively on the relationship. The last time I tried to push him to talk, he felt pressured and threatened. I tried to convince him that this was not my intention.

All I want, is for us to be able to communicate so we can make all the topics listed before clearer on both ends. He said he needed time. To open up, to trust me enough and not feel judged. But the more I wait, the more i am obsessed by the thought that I cannot keep up with this much longer. I need to see some progress. Cuz I feel like my hands are tied, and I don't know what else I should do to make him comfortable. Any advice?

Tl;dr: Bf finds it hard to communicate. I need advice on how to get to him without making him feel pressured.

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(25f)(27m) I argued with my boyfriend about my ability for satisfying him. I feel like he's treating me like I was stupid

Long story short, he (27m) is my first boyfriend and until I met him when I was 24 I had received zero male attention.

We are very happy together and in spite of being very busy and often in different towns our intimate moments are very good and fun. I had made my research so I can be a better lover for him, but I still feel I'm fairly unexperienced since I had never been with someone before him.

The other day we were in bed and I apologized to him because I felt literally any other girl could satisfy in bed better than me. He got upset and disagreed with me. I felt like he was insulting my inteligence, I mean the vast majority of women are more experienced than me, and thus better lovers. We ended up having and argument and slept all night without touching each other, which felt so wrong.

TLDR: I am unexperienced when coming to sex and my boyfriend doesn't admit that it makes me a worse lover

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I (26F) saw my BF (28M) like a random girl's thirst trap picture on Twitter.

I was browsing my boyfriend's likes on Twitter and saw that he liked this random girl's closeup photo. She was wearing a loose lingerie top and her nipples were almost peeking out with some extra showing of armpit. I checked the girl's twitter and she only has a few decent amount of followers and likes (so she's not one of those popular thirst trap influencers). I've only recently started opening twitter again.

I've also seen him like other female photos showing thighs and lingeries. How am I supposed to feel about this and what am I supposed to do?

TLDR: I've been really anxious these past few days and I haven't talked to him the way I used to. I get anxious and uneasy everytime I think about. Am I overeacting or what?

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Dumped

I(27F) got dumped by my boyfriend(26M) recently. Our relationship lasted for 3 years. We had recently celebrated our anniversary too.

I don't know how to cope up with this. I have become numb and motionless. My work is getting affected. There is no one in my life who I can talk to about this. I feel like there is nothing left in my life to live for. I know this is a very strong statement to say but this is what I am feeling. I am trying my best to move on but i am not able to. Don't know what to do. How to move forward. I don't think i will ever be able to move on from this.

TL;DR!: I am just stuck in this endless phase of sadness and hopelessness.

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