My gf(19) thinks I (20) am not over my ex

So, my gf thinks I'm not over my ex gf and I don't know how to show her that I'm over and I don't have feelings for my ex.Every time she brought this topic I say I don't care about her(ex) and I'm over,bot she doesn't belive me because when my best friend and my ex got together a few days before I send a text to him to say my gratulations and I'm done with him too,because it's not a thing that a friend would do and my gf freaked out.

So any sugestions that a can prove to my gf that I don't care about them and I only love her?

Sorry for my english,it's my third language

tldr:my ex doesn't belive me when I say i'm over my ex

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What is the most sensitive way to have a conversation about weight loss/a lifestyle change in a relationship?

TL:DR My girlfriend’s lifestyle (no exercise, smoking) has caused her to gain weight since the beginning of our relationship and I’m concerned for her health. How do I address this in as sensitive a way as possible?

My [25M] Girlfriend [23F] and I have been going out for over 6 months now. Since we started going out, she’s put on considerably more weight than before she was in the relationship (15-20kg) and there are certain incidents that have made me quite concerned for her health.

For further context, we lead very different lifestyles. I have a full time job, do my best to exercise 3–5 times a week and prioritise it as one of a few ways to help manage my asthma. She’s studying for a Masters, does no physical exercise at all and smokes. I have asked her not to smoke around me because of my asthma and that’s a boundary she has respected up until now thankfully.

On a trip abroad recently, she had to stop and catch her breath on multiple occasions whilst walking up a gentle incline and sometimes struggles to maintain a conversation whilst out walking. In the bedroom, there’s a considerable gulf in stamina due to fitness levels which has left me feeling quite unfulfilled. Physical attraction hasn’t waned for me yet but I have to be honest and say it might if she keeps gaining weight.

I have been friends with her for 5 years (we met in college) before we started this relationship and thoroughly enjoy her company so would really like to see if there’s a way to make this work. Her mum and aunt have had blunt conversations with her about her weight gain and she’s lamented this to me, she has also been for checkups to rule out thyroid issues, etc. so as far as I can see, her weight gain purely due to her lifestyle.

During any conversations surrounding her weight gain, I have empathised with her but held back how I’m feeling on the topic as I don’t want to make her feel worse. I am also aware of how our different lifestyles and fitness levels could make anything I say seem quite patronising to me. She has also openly stated that she hates exercising so even suggesting she find some sort of physical activity she likes will be met with resistance. I have also asked her if she had considered quitting smoking too which has only caused her to smoke more.

All of the above has left me confused, upset and unsure of how to handle the situation or potential conversation. I want to voice my concerns about her health but I don’t want to do so in a way that makes me sound like a mouthpiece for her mum and aunt. I also want to highlight my unmet needs in the bedroom but want to do so in a way that’s as sensitive as possible.

I’m sure I’m not the first and won’t be the last to ask this question, if you could give me constructive advice or anecdotes on how to address this touchy subject I’d be most grateful.

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I (26M) am being emotionally blackmailed and threatened by a girl (29F) I started talking to

Started texting with a girl a little less than a month ago and we were hitting it off well but she wanted things to go way too quickly basically telling me how she loves me and cant live without me after not even a month (we have not even had a proper voice chat or seen eye to eye at this point). When I eventually tell her I cant do it because its getting too intense too quickly and I apologize for giving her the wrong expectations she essentially spends a full day threatening to kill herself because I cant return her feelings. This morning I recieved a similar goodbye message telling me I am the reason they will be gone soon before they blocked me.

Obviously it not someone I have known for super long but the whole experience has still been extremely off-putting and distressing especially for someone who struggles with social connections in general and will probably make me not try to form a relationship in the future.

tl;dr Things moved too fast and I couldnt return their feelings at which point they threaten to kill themselves before blocking me.

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Is my (34m) mother (62f) gaslighting me?

TL:DR I'm on disability and my aunt excessively shames me for it. I think my mom is gaslighting me about it.

Let me start off by saying I'm on disablity. And relative to that, Ive been having problems with my aunt for over a year now.

She has said a lot of negative things to me while I was staying with her during my fathers cancer surgery, (a rough time for sure) to try to shame me for being on disability. Screaming at me to get a job, saying I'm not a real man, and that I'm going to hell. She mockingly calls me a little boy, calls me a pervert for no reason, and trash talks to her kids about me. I've even got the impression she doesn't want me to have kids. I feel this all stems from me being on disability.

I try to explain what she's said and how I feel to my mother. Her reaction is usually "she didn't mean any of those things, you're just taking them the wrong way". Which honestly makes me feel like I have a problem. She brought up talking to my aunt about it and mentioned she shouldn't be telling me to get a job.

Am I crazy to think that of all the things I told her my aunt said about me. That I'm going to hell, that I'm not even a man, I shouldn't have children....she picked "she shouldn't be telling you to get a job" as the most important thing to confront her about? That is almost trivial to me.

What my aunt hates about me and will shame, belittle, and seemingly harass me about is being on disability. And what they don't realize is I DESERVE to be on disability.

Am I crazy or is she gaslighting me about the issue?

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Advice if I should date this guy?

I am a 28 year old girl dating an investment banker! We have been together for 1.5 years now.He is a very nice person but never really spends time. We have not taken a single trip in this whole time. We don’t go on many dates and recently we were in two different countries and he did even video call me on my birthday let alone giving me a gift. I’m unsure if I have to continue dating him? Our parents are forcing us to get married but he’s saying he is not excited about the relationship now as much and that he needs more time to be sure. He is a really nice guy so I’m unsure if I should help him understand or just get the hint and leave him ?

Tl:dr - Should I date a great guy who is well educated but who does not show love or care as much ?

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TLDR Am I horrible for giving an ultimatum? 41f/54M LD 6months

I’ve been dating a man long distance for the past six months. We see each other multiple times a month and spend countless hours on FaceTime daily. We have an amazing sex life, our beliefs align and typically understand each other in every way…I feel like this man is the love of my life and says he loves me too. Here is the issue… I want to be in a committed relationship with him at this point. He however feels someone should spend 1-2 years as friends building the foundation before a committed relationship.He says at the point he wants the relationship he will propose marriage. I view this as backwards as I feel the commitment is a major part of building the foundation. I never intended to have a friends with benefits relationship with anyone because I know it’s makes me insecure. I have sacrificed my beliefs about relationships for his essentially. All this man would have to do is say he wants a relationship and I’m willing to relocated to his city, two states away in 60 days when my lease is up. Of course I won’t be doing that if he doesn’t want the commitment. I’m not asking for the ring or to move in with him!

To me I feel like after 6 months a man knows if he wants a relationship and future. I feel awful for telling him he needs to make the decision if he wants a future with me and if not I am going to walk away from the love of my life .

TLDR Am I horrible for giving an ultimatum?

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How to increase boyfriend's cum volume and shoot count?

Hi, I've previously been with a guy whose loads were enormous, not just in volume but also in repetitions (i.e., a lot of sperm would come out at each cumshot, and he would shoot around 7-10 times), which would turn me on like crazy.

My current boyfriend's cock is awesome, but he can barely cum, with an average 2 shoots per orgasm which are dense and do not even shoot out of his cock, but gently flow out of the tip.

I've been with him for 6 months now and I do really love him, but cum for me has always been a favourite in sex. How do I help him increase cum volume and repetitions?

I've tried edging, but it doesn't really work, and he drink less than half a litre per day, don't know if this has any impact.

TLDR: how to increase my boyfriend's cumshots and volume?

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