My friends don’t like me but I have no one else and I don’t know what to do

My friends don’t like me but I have no one else and I don’t know what to do

I’m a 17 y/o male, I have a group of around 6-7 friends including myself but I don’t really feel like I’m friends with them, including my actual closest friend who I have known for over 8 years. For a bit of backstory, I started making music around July/August last year under the name Icenttori, because I didn’t want people to really find it. From then I was promoting it on TikTok and I was gradually getting more views on there, until one of my vids got around 40k views and a bunch of kids at school found it, which I was fine with because at that point because I thought my music had improved a lot by then. However, since people found it, people have been kinda clowning me for it, and I think my friends don’t like being associated with me anymore. I no longer get invited to things, I can’t talk without getting interrupted or anyone listening, they talk badly about me when they think I’m not there, and it’s kinda made my life miserable. And one of the things that hurts the worst is my closest friend acts like he’s friends with me when it’s just me and him, but around others he acts like we aren’t friends. I’m not really sure what to do because I have no one else, and I would really appreciate some advice.

TLDR; people at school clown me for making music, and I now friends don’t like me because of it

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I’m (20sM) in a relationship with someone (20sF) that none of our parents or friends think we should be in

We met in college, we’re both in our early 20s. We’ve been dating for about a year. Things started out like any relationship does with a nice honeymoon period. After that nice month and a half, things just started going downhill so quickly.

Since then, we have these periods where we fight with one another in these massive blowouts a few times a week, to then having a pretty good week or even a pretty good month. The cycle always seems to reset itself. Despite us having a really good month together, we’ve been fighting nonstop over various issues for the past 3 days.

We admittedly both have terrible communication skills in our own ways which only amplifies the intensity of our fights. We are also both in therapy with the topic of our arguments being discussed on both ends, with myself personally trying to use it as an approach to handling conflicts in a healthier way in general.

We do love each other but it seems like we can’t help but be at each other’s throats all the time. We’ve shared so many happy moments together and I don’t take those for granted.

All of our parents have caught on to the pattern. They all see us when we bicker and fight so frequently. My parents, for one, think that I should leave her as they don’t think we are compatible. I can only imagine her parents think the same after seeing the hell we put each other through. The same can be said about our friends. Both of our circles of friends generally don’t think our relationship is healthy for either of us.

10 months of this relationship have been the exact same in terms of the amount of horrible fights we have that literally last for hours at a time. I’m not sure which hurts more, the idea of leaving her or staying with her. Despite the happiness she gives me it just pains me to keep going through all of this over and over again. Are there any other things that could be worked on? I’m not sure what else to try.

tl;dr We fight a lot but still love each other, practically everyone in our lives is telling us to leave the other. I’m not sure what else to try to make things better between us.

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Am I in the wrong to be upset?

I (F24) have been with my boyfriend (M23) for a year now and his family acts like I do not exist. I have two children, have been with him for a year and his family still refers to me by his “girlfriend”. no name, ever. When I have tried to get us to visit so I can try to mingle with the family there’s always a reason from his parents for us not to go.

They have categorized me with past girlfriends that were incredibly toxic, which these were all high school girlfriends who managed to happily be invited into the family.

Right after telling me they won’t mistreat me like my ex husband and others have. However they do NOT know me enough to make such a judgement call. All I ask is these people learn my name and maybe act like I am someone who is seriously involved with their son.

A “fresh start” has been offered and I agreed to said fresh start however it isn’t sitting right with me. I can’t for the life of me wrap my head around why a fresh start is required when I have done nothing that needs a fresh start. They’re the ones who have been disrespectful to me as a human being, as their sons partner.

Family is important to me and I love my boyfriend, a lot. But I can’t see myself with a partner who’s family is so disrespectful and insignificant to our relationship.

My boyfriend and his mother have basically blamed this on the fact that I am “going through alot” right now and I think that, that is incredibly unfair. No amount of anything else I am going through has to feel with the fact they make me feel like dirt on the bottom of their shoes.

Am I overreacting ? All I know is how I feel I have felt sick to my stomach for 24 hours now. And I don’t know what to do.

TL;DR - Have been with boyfriend for one year, his family acts as though I don’t exist, refer to me as “girlfriend” instead of my name. Lacking the basic respect for a human being. Am I wrong to be upset ?

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Giving closure.

Hi guys.

I, (23m), just ended things with my gf, (24f), after 4 years. To cut a long story short, I had been thinking about breaking up for about a year. I just always knew we weren't compatible on a lot of levels. She was a lot more in love with me than I was, including right up to the end.

This was my first break up and admittedly I was very immature in the lead up to it. I told her I needed to work on the relationship about a month before yet I just got really distant and eventually ended it.

The reasons I told her for the split was that I didn't love her anymore and that I don't know why but the feelings just left. I care about her more than anyone I ever have, and I want to make sure this breakup goes well for her. She needs to get some of her stuff from mine at some stage, so is there anything I can do to give her more closure, or is it just a fact that closure or not its going to hurt the same?

TL;DR: I want to give my ex more closure following a sudden breakup.

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My fiancé wants to take a break to have sex with other girls

TL;DR My fiancé wants to take a break to have sex with other girls. He said he’s bored of our sex

My fiancé (27y) and I (22y) have been together for 2 years. We got engaged 4 months ago. For the first 1.5 years, our relationship was great and we had the best sexual chemistry. He recently told me that he would like to take a break for a month because he doesn’t feel as sexually attracted to me as he used to. He told me he loves me deeply but he is getting bored of our sex. He thinks that I’m a good girl and will make a great wife. But he feels guiltily about having strong sexual urges for other girls. He told me the “spark” isn’t there anymore. He’s been thinking about this for months and never really voiced it to me. It’s only been two days since we started our break and he already went on a date with another girl yesterday. He is planning to sleep with at least 3 girls during our break.

He had told his family about our situation and his mum asked me to come over today for a talk. I spoke to his mum and his siblings and they were all on my side. They’re very supportive and told me that I deserve to be treated better. Everyone in his family will be try to talk him out of sleeping with other girls and taking this break. They are all very mad at him. They know he still has feelings for me but think he has commitment issues. They said he is known to never commit to a girl but they thought he changed when he met me. For the first time in his life he told them that he sees himself settling down with a girl.

I feel very stuck. I don’t know what to do. Everyone is saying that they think he will realise this is a mistake and will return to me. I love him so much and I want us to work things out. But I know I deserve to be treated so much better than this.

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What are some healthy boundaries for porn?

I’m a 24F married to 25M. If that matters. Been together 7 years married 1 year

What are the boundaries that you have that you expect from your partner when in comes to porn or looking at profiles on social media? Even if it is just fantasy, and it makes me super uncomfortable and it feels like a betrayal is that enough reason to make it a boundary?

I came across my husbands porn on his computer when I was going to order something online. I turned it on and there it was on the screen. 3 different pages of porn. I’m cool with porn in general. But the pages he was looking at made me feel uncomfortable. Maybe I need to reassess what is a good boundary to have. I’m also pregnant and hormonal, but he hasnt initiated sex with me for years. He said it’s because I kept pushing him away when he asked years ago. It’s all because we did it dry and it would hurt and its my first and only relationship so I didn’t say anything. I’ve been trying to solve this issue by wearing lingerie and actually encouraging him to ask for sex again. My first trimester of pregnancy made me sick all day so there was no way it was possible. Then he said that’s why he didn’t initiate sex because I was too sick. So he’s been watching porn and of course I knew that. So I’ve communicated with him that I want him to be sexual with me and initiate sex. He doesn’t even make out with me. We’ve had a conversations about it already but his argument is it’s just a fantasy and he doesn’t need to watch porn if we were actually having sex.

Yes this is also making me insecure. My body has changed so much since I got pregnant. I told him I want to feel wanted which I haven’t self in a long time. He’s also stated that it’s just porn and i should trust him. And I if I don’t trust him it’s my problem. Am I being crazy? Please ask questions if im leaving anything out. I’m not the best storyteller!

Tl;dr need advice on healthy boundaries

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3 months on from breakup and I’m still feeling low

I (27M) broke up with my gf (27F) just over 3 months ago after a very patchy few months and lots of ups and downs in our 1 year relationship. We had been friends for over 6 years prior.

Whilst I know why I ended the relationship, I struggle even now to get her memories out of my mind. There hasn’t been a day when I haven’t felt low because of this, and i think back to why my perfect story had to end. I was very close to proposing to her and she was excited about this.

I’ve tried lots of things to get my mind off of her - getting busy with work, a trip abroad, exercise etc, but eventually I fall back into the pit of those memories we had together.

There has been no contact since which has probably helped, but I don’t know what else to do and not let every little thing trigger me day to day. Any advice and support would be appreciated.

Tl;dr - broke up with gf 3 months ago, still struggling to get over her.

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