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Friday, April 5, 2024

My gf 18F wants to break up due to my 19M Company’s Industry

I 19M and my gf 18F have been dating just over a year and during this time I have set up a Nightclub events management company with a few of my friends. We are in Ibiza this season delivering events and she already don't like the fact that l'm out there as she thinks it's for 'single people only' and she don't know if she trusts me enough.

I told her the plan was to go out next summer and continuously go out there to continue the business growth and she said we may as well break up now. She would come out but she doesn't want to put her career on hold for me and I don't expect her to, and she doesn't want to come out as she doesn't like/trust my friends I'm going out there with.

Any suggestions to what I can do/say? Or is it one of them things where I’m helpless.

TL;DR Girlfriend wants to end things as I'm going to Ibiza for the season with my business and she don't think she can handle me going out there every season.

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Thursday, April 4, 2024

Is me (19F) asking for updates and being uncomfortable with certain people my gf’s (19F) with unhealthy?

Me (19F) and my gf (19F) have already been together for a year and a half, but we’ve only recently became LDR because I had to move places. I’m quite an overthinker, which I do know is unhealthy when isn’t controlled. Because of this I prefer for my gf to tell me where she’s going and who she’s with when she’s out and about. She’s also a very social person with big groups of friends and loves to hang out with each other through drinking while I’m quite the opposite.

However, most of the time she only tells me when she’s already going home, meaning there were no updates the entire time she was there. I communicated this to her, and told her that I would appreciate it if she could at least update me, but she told me that she doesn’t like updating every single thing to me all the time.

Another thing is that I’m uncomfortable with some people she’s friends with because they had a (romantic) past together. Not offical girlfriends or anything, more like flings but still. But those things were far in the past already, and these people had been her friends for a long time, even before I came into the picture. She wants to hang with them but I can’t help feeling uncomfortable.

We get into constant fights about these things because she said that she feels uncomfortable with me acting that way, although I only see my actions as asking her to be considerate of my feelings. I genuinely want to know if my actions are already crossing the line of being controlling, immature and unhealthy? I don’t know if it’s me who’s in the wrong or not

I would appreciate to receive honest answers, doesn’t matter if y’all need to say that it’s me who’s in the wrong, and also some advice on how I can bring this issue up to her again

TLDR: Is me asking for constant updates and asking her to consider my feelings before hanging out with people I’m uncomfortable with being immature

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Wednesday, April 3, 2024

Help! Cheating 53m on girlfriend 50f with me.

Long story shortened… I’ve 50f been separated from my husband 50m for four years. We had an agreement to separate, but stay in one household for the kids. We were allowed to date. I was not looking but of course that’s when it hits… I found someone. But not just someone, definitely my soulmate. He was also separated at the time. He was eager to move forward together and finalized his divorce right away. While I loved him, I wasn’t ready to finalize my divorce because of my kids. So we were on and off for three years. I finally felt ready this summer and of course at that exact time, he met another woman. They started dating and he kept saying as soon as I was in the divorce process he’d be there for me. We continued our relationship but the other woman didn’t know. And still doesn’t six months later. He said she was a Plus One for holiday parties, etc, but that was it. Well, his feelings grew and now he’s choosing her over me. I want her to know that he’s been lying and cheating on her, but I don’t want to be the one to reveal it. I have messages, cards, etc but how do I do this without her “shooting the messenger”. Anonymously won’t work bc it will be obvious it’s me based on all the texts. Any ideas? And no judgment please.
TL;DR my love got tired of waiting for me to get divorced and started dating someone I know. Yet he hasn’t cut things off with me. How do I tell her?

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Tuesday, April 2, 2024

Is it valid for me [25F] to want a stay at a hotel from my boyfriend [21M], because he did it for one-night-stands?

Yesterday I [25F] found out that my boyfriend [21M] of four months had paid for a night at a hotel with a girl he never did anything again with, and that he used to do it before we met. He never did it for me, and that makes me upset. He says he loves me, and that when he is in a relationship, he splits everything (which I have no problem with). To me, the issue is that I never got any sort of special treatment, but a one-night-stand got it. It makes me feel « less than ».

I tried to tell him this, but I could instantly tell he did not want to do it. He said yes initially, so I asked him more questions about why this change of heart. The conversation devolved into whether he did anything for me (nothing that wasn’t reciprocated, which is fine), and now he says he does not want to do it.

Am I invalid here? I know it sucks now that I had to ask, but it really is a dealbreaker for me, no matter my high opinion of him or the feelings I have for him.

TLDR: I feel disgusted by the fact that my boyfriend will pay for one-night-stands, but not for me. Is that valid ?

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