Boyfriend (29M) going to a stag-do this weekend. Thinking of breaking up

Hi, I (23F) have been with my boyfriend (29M) for almost 2 years, living together for almost 1. He is going to a stag do this Saturday and I am unhappy with this in addition to other factors in our relationship, such as being his emotional punching bag and feeling like I’m getting in the way of his life without trying to.

Basically, my boyfriend is a perfectionist and has been mad at me on and off for 6 months over things like me taking too long to get ready or not performing well enough in the gym etc. Now he is going to a stag do which may involve strippers. Not a big deal, I get that it’s not like he’s going by himself to the strip club every week, but I’m still bothered. It pisses me off that he can treat me like I’m so unimportant whenever we go out to do something together but will happily spend money on strippers. I also don’t want to tell him not to go as I want him to hang out with his friends and have a good time. So basically, I just feel that I am an unnecessary obstacle in his life. We live together though and he is paying off University at the moment, so it’s logistically hard for me to just leave. He would likely still expect me to pay my part here and then I’d have to pay to stay somewhere else.

What does one do in situations like this?

TLDR; My (23F) boyfriend (29M) is going to a stag do this weekend. This in addition to other factors in our relationship is prompting me to think it’s over but not sure how to go about breaking up when we live together and still love each other? This would take him by surprise

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How do I seem like a cool uncle when I have no experience around kids?

My (24M) gf has nephews (5&7) and I'm going to one of their birthdays in a few months. I've always wanted to be an uncle (I think owing to the fact that I had an uncle by marriage who is genuinely one of the best people I know) and I want to make a good first impression on these lads. I have a few little cousins but I've not engaged with them too much so I'm not entirely sure how to talk to children. Is there anything I can do other than getting them a gift to help me win them over?

tl;dr I wanna be a good uncle and might not get another chance. Tips for being liked by kids?

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Gf (26F) messaged me once at 3pm and then nothing.

For context, we've been dating for 2.5 years and normally message a few times during the day, and often tell each other goodnight. We haven't seen each other for a week as she was tired and she actually cancelled on an event we were meant to go to this weekend that we'd planned for months. All good, she is tired.

My girlfriend messaged me at 3pm yesterday once showing me her getting a winey lunch with her best friend for her birthday. I messaged her back an hour later talking about my day, showed her some stuff. Since her message at 3, radio silence.

She went to lunch, went home, ignored my messages and went to sleep at 10-11ish and didn't think to message me back?

She may need time to decompress, relax, etc. Is messaging your partner a message or two back too tiring?

I am insecure. I want to gauge how insecure I am being right now, or if it's mildly reasonable for me to be a bit annoyed by this? I view our relationship as serious, with a future, and I like to communicate with my partner at least in intervals. She may be different.

I know a lot of people that would be annoyed by this, but I also know people who have a relationship dynamic where they don't talk for a day or two (weird to me personally).

I'd appreciate anyone's insight.

TL;DR: Gf hasn't messaged me back since 3pm yesterday, which I consider quite annoying but also worry it may mean I am insecure. Would love advice.

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Re-friend?

TL;DR should I re-friend with crush?

About 7-8 weeks ago I told my coworker that I (M31) love her (F36) backfired and we didn't talked for a week. A week later, She came by and said that she values our friendship and asked if I regret that my decision to tell her how I feel. I said "no, I felt love and I told you so. I won't be the guy who's waiting in the corner for you to notice me." ( Not sure about exact words but context was something like that) Anyway we are not talking anymore ( it's ok for me) and she has a boyfriend now which shows my decision is protects me mentally. ( I do still have feelings, it's reducing by the time yet I didn't fall in love her in a day, it took a while vise versa ) And today her best friend came by and asked to me again if I feel regret about my decision. I said no. And it's puzzles me. I don't have a grey area. If I love someone, I do love; if I don't love i don't. I value friendship and people but it's not the "LOVE" and for me losing a friendship is not that hard. Yet I don't understand her motive. I mean ok, she values me. just it's not love and as I don't have any control over it neither she. And this is understandable. So why she tries to be friend again. I don't understand the drive. Help :) Ps: I believe I need more time if she asks me personally Its gonna be my answer.

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I am attracted to my cousin.

I know it's weird from this title but IDK why I feel this way to one of my cousins. She's my first cousin she is only 10 and I am 15. She actually lives not far from us so I see her more often than my other cousins. So, I'm kinda close to her than my other cousins. So, I don't know why but recently I started feeling attracted to her. IDK if it's because of her looks she's really good looking than most of my other cousins and a lot of people have called her pretty and stuff. She's like cute and she's gotta good booty I know I shouldn't be saying this, I am not sure if I have paedophilia.

So, I didn't try to do anything since she was my cousin. But yesterday my aunt dropped my cousin off at our house while she and my mom were going shopping. So, I was alone with my cousin I was just sitting on the couch in the living room watching TV when my cousin came and sat next to me. We were talking about something when she began cuddling with me for some reason. We decided to watch a movie and she was moving closer to me on the couch and sat on my lap IDEK why.

When she sat on my lap I got a boner I think she could feel it as well because she was wearing tight leggings. She made me put my arms around her hips and IDK why I really felt like wanting to kiss her at that moment. But my mom and my aunt returned soon after that and it was quite awkward. But we pretended as nothing happened and my cousin and my aunt left soon.

So, IDK why but it felt like she was trying to hit on me. I know I really shouldn't be thinking about this but I can't help and after what happened yesterday it has increased my urges even more. I am thinking about telling her because I think she might feel the same way. But I don't know if it will be the right thing to do. So, any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

TL;DR; I am attracted to my younger cousin and she hit on me yesterday. It has increased my urges for her even more I am not sure what to do so any advice would be appreciated.

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My gf (f27) made a sexual remark about a celebrity

She opened messages on her phone when I was next to her, a friend had sent her a video of someone famous and her replies were how it made her wet horny and she wanted him inside her, I was obviously not meant to see this but I did and it bothered me, should I talk to her about it? it doesn’t bother me if she says a famous person is attractive or anything but I feel like the nature of those comments were kinda disrespectful

TLDR gf made a sexual remark about a celebrity which I feel was a little disrespectful

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How To Plan A Trip Or Dinner With Friends Of Different Income Levels

Financial disparities can make trip-planning and dinners super stressful. Here's how to be more accommodating of all your friends.

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