I’m very happy with my partner, but why won’t he divorce his wife? | Ask Annalisa Barbieri

He may feel ashamed, scared – or perhaps he’s just lazy? Either way, you need to look at legal avenues that may open doors for him

I’m in a relationship with a man who is separated from his wife but not divorced. He left her five years ago and says their marriage had been over long before that, but he decided to stay until his children left home. We are both in our 50s and his children are now young adults. I was divorced in my 40s and have no children.

We live separately. We’ve had a very happy relationship for several years, but there has always been the elephant in the room of his marriage and the block it presents to our planning a future together.

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Bf (M21) had a talk with his mom (not sure how old) about me (F20)

Me and my friend dated for about two months and we remained friends but it ended up becoming more than a friendship, we would still do relationship things. So it’s been over a year now. But in that time that we’ve been “dating” we’ve both tried to see other people and I never liked when he would see someone else. He did go on a date with a girl and I did go on a date with a guy, they didn’t work out. So we just came back to each other. But now that we’re back from college (he graduated, im taking a break), we have been hanging out at his house and wherever we can. His parents think we’re having sex and we’re not because when I was, I was being irresponsible, so I don’t want to have sex until I have kids. (I’ve been on BC but still) and he says im not enough for him because I won’t have any type of sex with him, and I don’t make him happy anymore. But whenever I was having sex with him, we weren’t having these problems. So two days ago his mom talks to him and asks him what’s going on with us because she wants to know. And I get it, he’s her son, but I’m not her daughter and we are literally just friends. The most we did this year was kiss. So he tells her we are dating and have been for a year and she asks him why he’s been hiding that because that’s a long time and he says he doesn’t know why. She asks what he likes about me and he says he doesn’t know. But before this talk happened, we were perfectly fine. He never mentioned to me that he was unhappy or telling me anything like this. So I feel like his mom (and his dad does this too) are trying to get him to see someone else because they don’t like me because I have tattoos and because of my race. (They are very conservative and have never liked me from the beginning) but I could just be missing something that I’m not seeing. Should I talk to the mom?

TL DR: bf and I were perfectly fine until him and his mom had a talk about me and now he wants to end things because he’s “unhappy” but I think it’s because his mom is putting some bs in his head. Should I talk to his mom about why they’re constantly in our business?

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How we met: ‘I’d been out as gay for a long time, but I thought Imogen was straight’

Aine, 26, and Imogen, 29, became friends at a bellringing group in 2019. They fell in love after the first lockdown and live in London with their two cats

In 2019, Imogen was working as a freelance musician and studying sound art when she stumbled on a new hobby. “I was inspired to try out bellringing after speaking to a friend,” she says. “I didn’t have any expectations, but I was really interested in the bells and wanted to see what it was like.”

In September, she went to a church in Hackney, London, to join a local bellringing group. She followed the spiral staircase to the bell tower, where people were gathered in different patterns. There, she spotted Aine, who had been taking part for several years. “It’s mostly older people, so you notice when someone younger comes in,” says Aine. “Because it can get quite crowded in the tower, you end up perched on the edges. When Imogen arrived, I accidentally dropped my water on her, which was embarrassing. Luckily, it broke the ice.”

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Me (21F) get mistreated by my younger friends (19F-18F)

Should I continue being friends with them or not?

I have two university friends that are younger than me. I’m a very friendly person, and so they said that they don’t feel the age gap while I do.

I’ve been disrespected by them sometimes as they had more knowledge in the major we study while I didn’t. I tend to ask so many questions to understand and get the accurate information, but one of them keeps saying that she felt like she was the taking care of me bcoz shes the one who tends to answer and sometimes she ignores me completely because she said that my questions were dumb.

The other one keeps saying that shes so smart and her IQ is so high whenever she answers something or knows the answer to something…?

They also do things that I don’t agree with at all, but at the end of the day they are sometimes nice and worry about me.

I know the value of myself and I respect myself thats why I have distend myself from them but I feel like I did it too fast. and that they might be confused of why I just stopped talking to them one day.

I also feel like I the opportunity to make many friends because of them.

I’d really appreciate hearing your opinion.

TDLR; My younger university friends treated me bad but I cut my friendship with them instantly which might make them confused

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Our relationship was bad, so why can’t I get over my ex? | Ask Philippa

You tried to fit this man into your dream – and it’s the loss of the dream you are mourning, says Philippa Perry

The question I don’t know how to get over my ex. I feel as if the breakup has been like a frog being slowly boiled to death – I didn’t see it coming and it got progressively worse.

In September, we had a holiday abroad together and he enquired about apartments and asked me to think about whether it was a place I could see myself moving to. We had also agreed that I would come off the pill in a couple of months. He came with me to two weddings and my family said how happy we seemed.

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Blind date: ‘One of the waiters seemed to be chatting us up, but that was awkward for him, not us’

Amy, 29, artist, meets Grace, 28, education specialist

Amy on Grace

What were you hoping for?
A hoot.

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How To Spot And Avoid Scammers On Dating Apps

These are the red flags to look out for when you're looking for romance online.

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