I (26M) am being emotionally blackmailed and threatened by a girl (29F) I started talking to

Started texting with a girl a little less than a month ago and we were hitting it off well but she wanted things to go way too quickly basically telling me how she loves me and cant live without me after not even a month (we have not even had a proper voice chat or seen eye to eye at this point). When I eventually tell her I cant do it because its getting too intense too quickly and I apologize for giving her the wrong expectations she essentially spends a full day threatening to kill herself because I cant return her feelings. This morning I recieved a similar goodbye message telling me I am the reason they will be gone soon before they blocked me.

Obviously it not someone I have known for super long but the whole experience has still been extremely off-putting and distressing especially for someone who struggles with social connections in general and will probably make me not try to form a relationship in the future.

tl;dr Things moved too fast and I couldnt return their feelings at which point they threaten to kill themselves before blocking me.

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Is my (34m) mother (62f) gaslighting me?

TL:DR I'm on disability and my aunt excessively shames me for it. I think my mom is gaslighting me about it.

Let me start off by saying I'm on disablity. And relative to that, Ive been having problems with my aunt for over a year now.

She has said a lot of negative things to me while I was staying with her during my fathers cancer surgery, (a rough time for sure) to try to shame me for being on disability. Screaming at me to get a job, saying I'm not a real man, and that I'm going to hell. She mockingly calls me a little boy, calls me a pervert for no reason, and trash talks to her kids about me. I've even got the impression she doesn't want me to have kids. I feel this all stems from me being on disability.

I try to explain what she's said and how I feel to my mother. Her reaction is usually "she didn't mean any of those things, you're just taking them the wrong way". Which honestly makes me feel like I have a problem. She brought up talking to my aunt about it and mentioned she shouldn't be telling me to get a job.

Am I crazy to think that of all the things I told her my aunt said about me. That I'm going to hell, that I'm not even a man, I shouldn't have children....she picked "she shouldn't be telling you to get a job" as the most important thing to confront her about? That is almost trivial to me.

What my aunt hates about me and will shame, belittle, and seemingly harass me about is being on disability. And what they don't realize is I DESERVE to be on disability.

Am I crazy or is she gaslighting me about the issue?

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Advice if I should date this guy?

I am a 28 year old girl dating an investment banker! We have been together for 1.5 years now.He is a very nice person but never really spends time. We have not taken a single trip in this whole time. We don’t go on many dates and recently we were in two different countries and he did even video call me on my birthday let alone giving me a gift. I’m unsure if I have to continue dating him? Our parents are forcing us to get married but he’s saying he is not excited about the relationship now as much and that he needs more time to be sure. He is a really nice guy so I’m unsure if I should help him understand or just get the hint and leave him ?

Tl:dr - Should I date a great guy who is well educated but who does not show love or care as much ?

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TLDR Am I horrible for giving an ultimatum? 41f/54M LD 6months

I’ve been dating a man long distance for the past six months. We see each other multiple times a month and spend countless hours on FaceTime daily. We have an amazing sex life, our beliefs align and typically understand each other in every way…I feel like this man is the love of my life and says he loves me too. Here is the issue… I want to be in a committed relationship with him at this point. He however feels someone should spend 1-2 years as friends building the foundation before a committed relationship.He says at the point he wants the relationship he will propose marriage. I view this as backwards as I feel the commitment is a major part of building the foundation. I never intended to have a friends with benefits relationship with anyone because I know it’s makes me insecure. I have sacrificed my beliefs about relationships for his essentially. All this man would have to do is say he wants a relationship and I’m willing to relocated to his city, two states away in 60 days when my lease is up. Of course I won’t be doing that if he doesn’t want the commitment. I’m not asking for the ring or to move in with him!

To me I feel like after 6 months a man knows if he wants a relationship and future. I feel awful for telling him he needs to make the decision if he wants a future with me and if not I am going to walk away from the love of my life .

TLDR Am I horrible for giving an ultimatum?

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How to increase boyfriend's cum volume and shoot count?

Hi, I've previously been with a guy whose loads were enormous, not just in volume but also in repetitions (i.e., a lot of sperm would come out at each cumshot, and he would shoot around 7-10 times), which would turn me on like crazy.

My current boyfriend's cock is awesome, but he can barely cum, with an average 2 shoots per orgasm which are dense and do not even shoot out of his cock, but gently flow out of the tip.

I've been with him for 6 months now and I do really love him, but cum for me has always been a favourite in sex. How do I help him increase cum volume and repetitions?

I've tried edging, but it doesn't really work, and he drink less than half a litre per day, don't know if this has any impact.

TLDR: how to increase my boyfriend's cumshots and volume?

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My (20M) girl (21F) compares me to her ex in a good way. i don't know how to feel.

Hi all. I've been with this girl for about 3 months. We're in love and together always, just aren't official. Our relationship began only a few weeks after she was dumped by her now ex boyfriend of over a year. Yeah we moved fast.

Sometimes, not constantly, she compares my actions to her ex's, but in a good way. She says how much better i treat her than her ex, how i do things for her that he would never do, or how ive got a future when he doesn't. She tells me how she used to beg for things like flowers, compliments and she loves that i do those things just because. Twice she told me about times where he made her really upset. She even said he didn't like sex so she had to ask for it. I usually say how thats terrible and im happy to make her happy.

I'm truly flattered by it but also think its weird. I can't help but think she's not over him yet, especially since she was dumped by him. I understand she's barely had time to process the breakup so if she feels comfortable with me enough to share her frustrations then I'm there to listen and let her know im happy im better for her. She's said how she doesn't miss him, doesn't want him back, but she never said she was over him.

There was one time she compared me to him differently than the other times. We were getting in her car and she said how her ex used to open her door for her so I started doing it every time. And another time she told me about some joke they would say before getting in the car. There was one time after sex when she told me about something she used to ask her ex to do for her and he never would.

I trust her, she says all the time how she really loves me, how I'm the best guy she's ever loved and had sex with, and how she wants to take our relationship very seriously. I've asked her to be my gf and she said she wants to wait and not rush as to not mess up our relationship which has potential. Now I wonder if that also has something to do with her ex.

I can't understand why she could be thinking about her ex after i do good things. I feel like i could be insecure or overthinking , so i ask for advice on how to handle this and I appreciate it greatly.

tl;dr: my girl often says how im better than her ex from a few momths ago, or talks about times he made her upset. Is this a red flag?

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Right person wrong time? 22f/25m)

Tl;dr I (22f) met a guy in Aug and the connection was incredible. He travels for work all over the country but he came back to town numerous times, specifically for me. Recently he came back for a 4 month stint where we were in a honeymoon period, and I loved it!! At the end of the month he told me that he has taken a job in the city, 5 hrs away, that it looks like he will not be coming back anytime soon, and that he doesn’t like long distance. I understand that he wants to stay in once place and that all his friends and family live in the city, so I didn’t put up much of a fight for him. My friends think I have lost the right guy and right now so do I! He hasn’t reached out since he left and I’m terrified that I have let one of the best things to happen to me just walk away. What do I do?

Many thanks a lonely and sad girl

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