My [19M] best friend [19F] has been too busy to hang out even once over the last four months

Me and my friend met in high school and have been really close ever since. We always hung out, knew every little bit of gossip about each others lives and I was practically an honorary part of her family. People would always say that we acted like twins or practically shared a brain cell. She was like a sister to me.

But for the last four months, whenever I ask if she’s free to hang out, she’s always “Busy”. I was fine with it at first, but it’s starting to get a tad weird. Apparently she’s been working a lot, but there’s no way in hell she’s been working for seven days a week every week for several months. I have other friends with pretty hectic work/college schedules that still make time to hang out with me whenever they can.

We rarely even text or call anymore. It’s like our friendship just vanished and I have no idea why. We’ve literally never had a proper fight (Other than friendly banter) and I’m not sure what I could’ve done. It’s honestly really hurting me to drift away from my best friend like this

Any advice on how to deal with this?

TLDR: My best friend has been to “busy” to hang out even one for several months. Don’t know if I did something wrong or not

submitted by /u/kammzammzmz
[link] [comments]

* This article was originally published here

My friend is an abusive household over Christmas - what can I do to help?

TDLR: friend has to deal with emotionally abusive dad and feels like she can’t leave. How can I help as a long distance friend?

My friend and I are both 22 and attend university together. We’ve both gone home to our families for Christmas in different parts of the country - me being south her being north.

I’ve known she’s had trouble with her family, pretty much all her life, but it seems to be going particularly bad atm - she’s being calling me crying/texting everyday about her dad.

Behaviours include Dad talking about my friend behind her back, manipulating discussions between them to her mum, being generally angry over small things, refusing to accept apologies from her (even though he’s more in the wrong for being the adult), threatening her to not tell her friends about how he’s acting

Basically, shes not happy being at home at all and her mum isn’t really supporting her either - the mum leaves whenever they argue (which is more my friend defending herself against an angry shouty man) and wants her to take the high road so they can move on and enjoy Christmas.

My friend wants to go back to uni asap, but feels she cannot leave until the agreed date on Jan because she’s worried they’ll think she’s being dramatic, and the dad will just take it out on her mum.

As her friend I feel terrible I can’t do more to help. She doesn’t deserve the treatment she’s getting and even know I would just up and leave I can’t force her to do that.

Is there anything I can say or suggest to help my friend during this Christmas period?

submitted by /u/Whistles-4018
[link] [comments]

* This article was originally published here

I know my friend’s (24F) boyfriend (25M) of 2 ½ years is considering breaking up with her. Do I tell her what I know?

A few years back my boyfriend and I introduced my good friend and his friend to each other. They got on very well and eventually entered a relationship together.

Almost 3 years on, my friend is very much in love and wants to move in and get married to her boyfriend. However, it has just come to light that the boyfriend is in debt because of a gambling problem which he has been hiding from her. This isn’t great at all as my friend believed they would soon have enough money to put a deposit on a house together. She also asked him if he even wanted to move in together, and he wasn’t sure.

She has been speaking to me about this and wants to help get her boyfriend out of debt and fix his gambling problem, but most of all she is very upset and confused as to why he isn’t sure about moving in together.

Now the part where this is tricky for me is that her boyfriend is very good friends with my boyfriend, and he has been speaking about this on the group chat with a few other friends. They keep this chat very light-hearted but one thing he said that stood out to me is; “I do love her, but I am not sure if I love her as much as I should”. He also expressed that he often finds her difficult to be with but said that he can’t break up with her now because its Christmas and her Birthday soon.

My friend does have anger problems and can snap easily if provoked. She could also be considered controlling as well and I get the impression that her boyfriend feels that all she does is complain at him. Her family are verbally aggressive toward one another, so I think this is where she gets it from. I also know she is unhappy with her current situation and feels that moving out into her own place will help.

Her boyfriend keeps very quiet and emotionless about his personal problems which makes this difficult. Having a gambling addiction is sure to impact his mental health. He hasn’t even spoken to his best friends about his problem.

I don’t want to add fuel to the fire, so I am keen for them to work it out. My boyfriend suggested that we sit down with the and ‘mediate’ as they are terrible at communicating, but I think that is a little embarrassing for us all!

I don’t want to ruin my friends Christmas or birthday in a few weeks’ time, although I know this has its pros and cons. I also don’t want to get involved with limited information and cause conflict that they may have been able to resolve together. I really think he should just take some responsibility for his life and tell my friend how he feels as she has no idea at all!

Do you think I should mind my business?

TL;DR! I know my friend’s (24F) boyfriend (25M) of 2 ½ years is considering breaking up with her but doesn’t want to deal wit it until after her birthday next year. I don’t know whether to let them sort it between themselves or tell my friend what I know.

submitted by /u/hab1905
[link] [comments]

* This article was originally published here

girlfriend just doesn't seem to be fully into me (25m) (22f)

Maybe it's my own insecurities, maybe not.

Me and my girlfriend met online. We spoke everyday for months until she confessed she liked me. From June to September the distance felt less. She would send me cute messages, we had nice talks about our feelings and us in general. It felt nice.

We met in September and things felt even better. We mutually desired each other and I stayed longer than planned cause she didn't want me to leave. She said some lovely things about me that will stay with me forever.

Once I got home things were more routine. Less gooey messages, less affection. We still spoke everyday but I did feel a burden. At one point I told her I felt her level of affection had changed, and she said that she was sorry I felt bad but that I mean a lot to her and she hoped I knew that by this stage.

Now I'm staying with her and her family for Christmas. I've been there since Thursday. When we met she immediately kissed me, hugged me, held my hand. In the days since, much less so.

Given we're staying with her family until the 26th, so I understand to a degree. Yesterday was our first date outside since I got her, and it was a very cute time. However, even then I still had in my head how I was iniating the kisses, the physical touch. She reciprocated when I initiated but in the 4 I've been back she's initiated off her own back only a handful of times.

Is this just me making issues in my own head? She still seems happy around me, today she even mentioned our two planned vacations together in April and June next year, but I just guess I expected her to be more into me physically after six weeks apart. Opinions?

TL;DR: girlfriend hasn't seemed as into me recently, physically. Makes me second guess her interest

submitted by /u/beskowe12
[link] [comments]

* This article was originally published here

My[27f] sister[29f] has told my husband [28m] my children isn’t his

Tldr; my sister has been whispering in my husbands ear about my past and been putting him into contact with my ex boyfriend.

She told him about how I used to sleep with many many men when I was around 18-21. That was true and I’d just not mentioned it to my husband before.

Now when I was coming out that phase in my life I’d got a boyfriend. Now he cheated on me and I’d seen him cheat. So I cheated with someone else too. I know that was bad and I would never dream of doing it now but I was vengeful. My ex made sure to tell everyone and my sister said she liked the guy I cheated with and felt betrayed. None of this is good.

I met my husband at 23 and we were married when I was 25 and I now have two beautiful twins (7 month male and female). I’m pregnant again with another now and when I told my husband he didn’t seem as happy as he should have been. He didn’t seem over the moon at all just acted happy ish. That’s when I knew something was up, he’d been off for a while but then I knew something was wrong, if I’m honest I suspected him or cheating on me with another woman and that he would be leaving me for her.

Yesterday he sat me down looked me in the eye and asked me why I wasn’t being honest with him. He then explained that my sister told him everything about my past and I started crying. He then said he was in contact with my ex and he said what he was telling him matched up to how he was feeling now because I’m out meeting friends so much. He literally spat the word friends too like he thought it meant something else.

I told him that I’d changed and that I love him. He then said that he didn’t believe our children were his and that he knew I wasn’t faithful to him. I started crying at this point and just begged him to believe me. He just didn’t and I don’t know what to do. He also was asking me who I was with and demanding to know. He’s convinced I’m with his brother now because his brother lives pretty near and helps me out with the kids and comes our place a lot.

He’s now sleeping on the sofa and won’t talk to me at all and is convinced that I’m seeing other guys because I’m his head I couldn’t have changed. I don’t know what to do or how to convince him that they are his children. And even if he does end up believing me he will still be paranoid.

submitted by /u/throwRA-19951995
[link] [comments]

* This article was originally published here

Who is Saquon Barkley’s Girlfriend Anna Congdon: Complete Relationship Timeline. - The Sportsrush

Who is Saquon Barkley’s Girlfriend Anna Congdon: Complete Relationship Timeline.  The Sportsrush

* This article was originally published here

Is it wrong or weird to find another girl interesting when you're in a long term relationship?

I'm (29M) currently in a long term relationship with a girl (31F) since 8 years ago and I still love her with the bottom of my heart. However, this week we got a new colleague (28F) at our clinic and she gives me the feeling of butterflies in my stomach even though we so far only have had short, mostly work-related conversations. Is it weird to feel this way despite barely knowing this girl? And also, this new girl seems to be in a relationship as well.

TLDR; I'm finding a new girl at work interesting even though I barely know her and I'm currently in a long term relationship.

submitted by /u/Bacgangster
[link] [comments]

* This article was originally published here