I know this is strange, but I've been with someone for four years, though for the first two it was very "options open," and we weren't exactly free to date other people, but didn't have a strong commitment bto one another either.
We moved in together after that, mostly for financial reasons, and for much of the time he would make remarks about how attractive he found other girls, how I really wasn't his "type," how we wouldn't be as serious as we were if it weren't for us living together. You get the picture.
Well, now he's done sort of a "180," if you will, but sort of not.
He wants us to commit to each other for the rest of our lives because "everyone else sucks" and "you can't trust other people" and "neither one of us will ever do any better."
How romantic, huh?
I laughed and told him to speak for himself and that no one knows what the future holds.
I've had enough of his little "dings" over the years and don't want to be with someone so belittling forever.
I can't afford to move out, but I don't want him getting any more "attached" and comfortable. I feel like that's what's driving his sudden "change of heart," if you can even call it that.
So what should I do? It's freaking me out that suddenly he's decided I should be his permanent partner, and given me pretty crummy reasons for why that should be.
TL;DR: boyfriend of 4 years trying to convince me to "settle" and I am not enthused.
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