TLDR: Girlfriend has resting heart rate of about 130BPM, but whenever I urge her to go to the doctor she just changes the subject, laughs it off, or tries to distract me with sex of food.
I met my current girlfriend about six months ago at the Muay Thai gym I go to (I live in Thailand, although I'm a US citizen, not sure if that's relevant).
I had seen her there often and she seemed really fit and active -- she's always doing something whether it be boxing or going out long-boarding or even running in some local fun-runs. One night at a BBQ at the gym we hooked up and have been together since. And it's been great! And I really haven't noticed anything wrong until recently.
About a month ago I noticed something I hadn't seen before. We were laying in bed in the morning and her Apple watch screen lit up with an alert like "high heart rate" or something and I see her heart rate is like 130 BPM.
I'm like holy shit -- we're just laying here doing nothing -- why is her heart rate so high? So I asked her about it and she said it's been like that for a couple of years. It started two years ago (coincidentally around the time she got her C-shots -- not saying that's the reason, but it seems to have started directly after).
And I asked further about whether this spike in heart rate happens just sometimes or if it's sustained -- and she showed me the heart rate history on the app and her heart rate is like at a CONSTANT 100+ BPM at rest. Like even 115BPM when she's sleeping, which is bananas.
For comparison, my resting heart rate fluctuates between 47BPM and 56 BPM. I work out up to 2 hours a day around 6 days a week, but even so I have bad habits that she doesn't have. Like I will definitely smoke a pack of cigarettes and drink a TON of beer once or even sometimes twice a week on the weekends if I'm not training for a fight or something. And she doesn't smoke at all.
Even if she did like ZERO activity -- and had a healthy body weight (she's super skinny) -- her resting BPM should be between 60 and 80 at the upper limit.
I'm ESPECIALLY worried because 10 years ago I had a girlfriend who I loved very much, die unexpectedly in her sleep. I was 26 and she was 25. She died while visiting her family in Kenya and the only answer I got back about what happened was something to do with an irregular heart beat.
I've told her this and told her my concern and asked many times to please let's just go to the doctor and get it checked out.
But every time I bring it up she laughs or plays it off and then she tries to distract me by basically making me food or trying to have sex with me.
I've tried to stay serious about it and be like "No -- don't do that, let's take this serious" but she just keeps cracking jokes, getting touchy-feely, or trying to do something nice for me and it gets to the point where I just feel stupid to keep talking about it.
But I'm really worried and I don't know how to express how serious I think this might be.
Do you guys have any advice?
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